I recently read an article with black men describing their reasons for preferring to date outside of their race & alot of it (let them tell it) boiled down to them feeling as though black women were not submissive enough, what do you feel about the idea of submitting to your man? Or women of other races vying for the attention of the most sought after black men within your community? Do you feel as tho they should back off? Or thats its cool? & I want no holds barred here ladies (but then again that could probably go unsaid with U baller alert chicks).
Knaw it was actually something that I read years ago @ a news stand, so I never really bought the magazine but the topic stood out to me over the years. But wont you give it a go anyway (as far as commenting on the topic).
Submission doesn't mean Stupid. In a lot of cases it takes more control and power to submit (in the right way) than to lead. We do it at work, class, church, etc all the time. Women are smart enough though to make things happen without lifting a finger.
I think the term in general makes independent women take a step back. However, I think that at the end of the day men don't want another man, they want a lady, something soft, delicate - body wise and inner beauty wise. I think a lot of us miss out b/c we feel like we MUST to do it all. And when a man comes into our life that want to help us carry a "load" we become offended. I think we take opportunities from men to step up b/c we are so busy trying to be the male and female.
I am not saying that we can't but they're are times when we don't have to.
There have been similar discussions on this topic before. The idea that black woman aren't submissive enough is an EXCUSE that weak black men use to justify swirlin, cheating, being irresponsible, whatever. Period.
Why do black woman always get ragged on, like we're all the same? It's mostly by our black men too. If we're successful, reserved, or just have standards for the people we keep in our lives, we're called difficult. If we enjoy playin the field, or dating men with financial stability we're whores. We can't win.
F*** my girl was right I always wondered why she has to beat them off of her she's beautiful smart and sexy but sometimes it's just ridiculous, but that's her description to a tee high yella with a big ole ass....she said that's what men think of her but I didn't believe her.....I thought it was cool before to basically be able to pick out any man you want, but damn now I feel bad for her.
"White women are raised to respect and serve their men."
Most of the time their men have protected and served them.
"Black women are taught to question [their men]."
Should we name the countless examples of why????
Black women look at submission as being weak.
White women look at submission as being a woman."
Personally, I think this statement is true and a direct reflection of the roles our men play in our lives (white and black).
Submissive doesn't men sub-standard it means you willingly submit your will. It is a choice to submit. And the individual or cause you submit to has your best interest at heart - It is not our duty as women to submit to men simply because they are men.
Oh I agree but I also agree that white women are taught, bread, raised to serve their man (The first time I heard this was right out of a white womans mouth (I hate to admit it but I learned some S*** fo yo ass from her) she believed that we as women were put on this earth for our men) and we're taught to question black men, I at least that's wht my mother taught me !
you can learn a lot from caucasion women but at the same time I think that our men are different too and require a level of accountability. If you let them get away with too much they will try Caucasion men seem to be different- they have different goals, different agendas. They really like to serve their women and put them up on pedestals, treat their women like delicate flowers- they are expected to do this- their fathers did this. Our men - not so much.
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