Future NFL baller, boyfriend material?

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Permalink Reply by sue on July 29, 2008 at 1:36pm

Yea!

You are right! I am basically doing "The Rules" on him, which forces me to naturally pace things with him. Thanks though!!!!




Cassandra said:

The girl that went all out and stuck by his side in college ends up being wifey in the long run before a new random chick he meets after the league unless she has her shit together and is somewhat famous most of the time.

I advise that you play your cards carefully, don't do too much where you will regret it if things don't work out between the two of you. Do enough to keep him and yourself happy and just enough to show that you wil go the extra mile when he didn't have a lot. :)

HANG IN THERE CHAMP!

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Permalink Reply by bree on July 29, 2008 at 4:13pm

Ok this story so sounds like the situation Im in now but Ive been with him for several months, I fell hard for mine and hes a senior in college also I hope that were not talking bout the same guy? He should be going top 10 in the upcoming NFL draft. So I paid for my first flight to see him which is so against my rules but I figured hay hes in college and I looked at it as a investment. All of my other trips hes paid for after that. Ive fallen hard for him and my guy already acts like hes in the Nfl so thats the first problem, he shops travels does it all. I cant complain he treats me like a princess but I know he has game thats how he got me and I find myself starting to go crazy wondering what hes doing when were not together because we do live in different states Im older than him and Ive had a few ballers and I haven't felt this way ever so I need advice am I setting myself up for disappointment?

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Permalink Reply by MY PRESIDENT IS BLACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on July 29, 2008 at 4:35pm

Hopefully you aren't dating the same guy but you could PM eachother the initials just to make sure. It doesn't sound like you are because (no offense) her guy seems more humble while your guy is already claiming NFL status which is his choice. Re-read what you wrote, you said he is treating you like a princess then go with that feeling. Even if you are concerned about what he does when you aren't around. Any man can cheat so I say enjoy your time when you are with him and do whatever makes you happy but don't get hung up on the what ifs because you will drive yourself crazy. Take it one day at a time and hopefully it will work out. Obviously you have invested your heart into this one, but if things don't pan out the way you want them to you have had ballers before and you will have one again, but you never know, this one may just be your last. *smile*

bree said:

Ok this story so sounds like the situation Im in now but Ive been with him for several months, I fell hard for mine and hes a senior in college also I hope that were not talking bout the same guy? He should be going top 10 in the upcoming NFL draft. So I paid for my first flight to see him which is so against my rules but I figured hay hes in college and I looked at it as a investment. All of my other trips hes paid for after that. Ive fallen hard for him and my guy already acts like hes in the Nfl so thats the first problem, he shops travels does it all. I cant complain he treats me like a princess but I know he has game thats how he got me and I find myself starting to go crazy wondering what hes doing when were not together because we do live in different states Im older than him and Ive had a few ballers and I haven't felt this way ever so I need advice am I setting myself up for disappointment?

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Permalink Reply by Rachael on July 29, 2008 at 10:41pm

1. You've only been talking to him for two weeks?
2. If this fool is as good as you say he is he has money. I would assume he has spoken to agents and in turn those agents give him money just to sit down with him. Especially if he's possibly signing with Major Adams (VYs agent) since he doesn't have a ton of experience or a ton of ballers under his belt, it's highly likely he'd offer him money to sit down and listen bc if he gets him that's more money for Adams in the long run. Money well spent.

So, stick it out but don't limit your options. And under no circumstances fly yourself. If he really wants to see you he will find a way to get you there.

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Permalink Reply by sue on July 30, 2008 at 8:54am

Yea! I don't think we are talking to the same guy, but I can almost assure you, you are not the only girl he is talking to! And you said "he already acts as if he is in the NFL" well this must mean he also has a BIG head too! Those types are hard to deal with and like I said before...NO NFL prospect is guaranteed a spot in the upcoming draft for 2009; therefore do like me :) Just take it one day at a time :) And look at him as a friend...and nothing more..

Hate to get too much into your business, but have you already slept with him? (don’t have to answer if too personal) but I sure hope not! Girl, this guy sounds like he gets it all the time!

And you have already made one mistake by paying for your first trip down there! PLEASE go read "The Rules" follow them throughout and it sets the tone for a really good relationship! But most of all "The Rules" keep you from getting your heart broken...

But you have to ask yourself...do you want real love? Or REAL money? because you may have to accept a whole lot of shyt from this guy (now and later)...

And you are completely justified in worrying what this guy is doing when you are not around...but if you do "The Rules" honey! I promise, it will be the other way around....

My football player is texting/calling me every night to make sure I’m not creeping...he constantly worries about me when I go out on the weekends and HE gives me text updates when he goes out and I don't even ask!

Even when I’m at home, in my pajamas, watching "Girlfriends" HE thinks I’m downtown, having the time of my life!! And this is how we MUST train and play them! In order to save face and feelings :)



bree said:

Ok this story so sounds like the situation Im in now but Ive been with him for several months, I fell hard for mine and hes a senior in college also I hope that were not talking bout the same guy? He should be going top 10 in the upcoming NFL draft. So I paid for my first flight to see him which is so against my rules but I figured hay hes in college and I looked at it as a investment. All of my other trips hes paid for after that. Ive fallen hard for him and my guy already acts like hes in the Nfl so thats the first problem, he shops travels does it all. I cant complain he treats me like a princess but I know he has game thats how he got me and I find myself starting to go crazy wondering what hes doing when were not together because we do live in different states Im older than him and Ive had a few ballers and I haven't felt this way ever so I need advice am I setting myself up for disappointment?

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Permalink Reply by sue on July 30, 2008 at 8:56am

Yea! You are right! I agree with you 100% :)

Rachael said:

1. You've only been talking to him for two weeks?
2. If this fool is as good as you say he is he has money. I would assume he has spoken to agents and in turn those agents give him money just to sit down with him. Especially if he's possibly signing with Major Adams (VYs agent) since he doesn't have a ton of experience or a ton of ballers under his belt, it's highly likely he'd offer him money to sit down and listen bc if he gets him that's more money for Adams in the long run. Money well spent.

So, stick it out but don't limit your options. And under no circumstances fly yourself. If he really wants to see you he will find a way to get you there.

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Permalink Reply by Yes James Is A Real Jeweler! on July 31, 2008 at 7:26am

I' m far from a lady and don't plan to be one either, but i'm going to respond to your post here, all of this read "THE RULES" book is pointless, i feel that if you cared about starting something with this college man then you should pay your own way to see him? regardless as to what you're used to, and no one including me is to good to pay their own way if they really cared about getting to know someone. I feel that if your lifestyle doesn't permit you to buy your own ticket to see this man, then stop the text/talking too? because what you're doing is prolonging an association with this man that's going to go no where.

I'd like to know this, if you live such a high life are you or your parents paying your way through college? because i feel that unless you're there on a 4 year scholarship, you have no lifestyle worthy of this mindset you have right now towards being catered to. Now when or if this man does make it and goes on to the NFL and you're not in his life at that time, stay out of his life if he does succeed. We as black people have such jaded minds when it comes to what a relationship or friendship should be based upon, and you're one of those people? money will be the death of your relationships and friendships if you don't stop this "i'm used to being catered to" mentality.

I must tell you that i'm a millionaire personal jeweler, i live in Country Club Of The South in Alpharetta, Ga. which is a golf course gated community where the home prices start at $450,000 to over $5 million. I pay may way everywhere and my best friend is a pro football player, and when he asks me to come to a city to a game he's playing, he offers to pay for it, but you know what i do? i pay my own da*n way because i feel that my association with this man is not based upon how much of his own money i can make him spend on me. I will tell you now there's no amount of money that i'd allow to come between my best friend & i and if you don't learn that being catered to, and getting some man to pay for you is not going to get you anything but a broken heart. Cater to yourself, don't expect any man to cater to you, and you need to stop encouraging that behavior too!

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Permalink Reply by OhSoPreTee on July 31, 2008 at 12:38pm

i really dont understand the basis of this post

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on July 31, 2008 at 1:10pm

LOL@goldfish

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Permalink Reply by sue on July 31, 2008 at 1:12pm

Ha! well thanks for all the input on my situation it is all appreciated...the good...the bad....and the ugly! LoL :)

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Permalink Reply by Holly-Would on July 31, 2008 at 1:19pm

You are a man, you should not be accepting another man to pay for your ticket unless ya'll are phucking....But I do think some of the other points you made were interesting...
James Pitts said:

I' m far from a lady and don't plan to be one either, but i'm going to respond to your post here, all of this read "THE RULES" book is pointless, i feel that if you cared about starting something with this college man then you should pay your own way to see him? regardless as to what you're used to, and no one including me is to good to pay their own way if they really cared about getting to know someone. I feel that if your lifestyle doesn't permit you to buy your own ticket to see this man, then stop the text/talking too? because what you're doing is prolonging an association with this man that's going to go no where.

I'd like to know this, if you live such a high life are you or your parents paying your way through college? because i feel that unless you're there on a 4 year scholarship, you have no lifestyle worthy of this mindset you have right now towards being catered to. Now when or if this man does make it and goes on to the NFL and you're not in his life at that time, stay out of his life if he does succeed. We as black people have such jaded minds when it comes to what a relationship or friendship should be based upon, and you're one of those people? money will be the death of your relationships and friendships if you don't stop this "i'm used to being catered to" mentality.

I must tell you that i'm a millionaire personal jeweler, i live in Country Club Of The South in Alpharetta, Ga. which is a golf course gated community where the home prices start at $450,000 to over $5 million. I pay may way everywhere and my best friend is a pro football player, and when he asks me to come to a city to a game he's playing, he offers to pay for it, but you know what i do? i pay my own da*n way because i feel that my association with this man is not based upon how much of his own money i can make him spend on me. I will tell you now there's no amount of money that i'd allow to come between my best friend & i and if you don't learn that being catered to, and getting some man to pay for you is not going to get you anything but a broken heart. Cater to yourself, don't expect any man to cater to you, and you need to stop encouraging that behavior too!

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Permalink Reply by Le Coquette on July 31, 2008 at 1:27pm

LMFAO @ "and you need to stop encouraging that behavior too!"

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