Friends why is it so hard to make new ones the older you get?

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Permalink Reply by Carmelcuttie27 on April 3, 2008 at 5:39pm

I don't have female friends either and the one I did have I found out wasn't really my friend. I would love to have good female friends, like the "Sex and the City" girls. lol! Females can be difficult to get along with and many are fake, so all my friends are males.

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Permalink Reply by mamasita on April 3, 2008 at 6:59pm

I think as we get older we also find it hard to trust other females because we don't know what their intentions really are. Especially if you're in the industry or go out a lot. You never know when someone is going to betray you or backstab you. Most of my female friends I have besides the one I grew up with, I've gotten to know from work.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 3, 2008 at 8:25pm

Thanks Jei! I don't want it to come across like I don't have friends because I do unfortunately we are scattered around the country. We get together when we can but again now most of them are mothers. I am probably a lil bit older than most of yall and I have been blessed making some wonderful friends along the way. I am at a point though where I am trying to "change the people around me" and i run into so much HATE...and I really am suprised to find grown women who appear to "have it together" behaving so cattily. That has never been my style I have always had more male friends than female friends but when you are in a comitted relationship you have to take a step back from your male friends. I have made some friends through work but the women I work with tend to be older with children and therefor not always into the things that I am into. I often go out on my own which I enjoy but I miss having a homegirl to cut up and clown with.

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Permalink Reply by Indentical Twin on April 3, 2008 at 8:25pm

Honestly, I don't want any new friends. I have my friends since childhood, and they are my best friends. You never know what angle these new bitches are coming from. I'll pass on new friendships!

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 3, 2008 at 8:28pm

I agree...I don't even want to get into the unneccessary and wreckless backstabbing I've experienced. I try not to be bitter and jaded though

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Permalink Reply by Miss Beauty on April 4, 2008 at 11:13am

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

There is nothing wrong with meeting new people. The challange is how to determine what they are in your life for. You have different levels of friends. You have friends to party with, fiends you shop with, friends you share your feelings with, and you may have that ride or die friend! You find in life each person serves a different purpose in your life. To me friends come in all shapes and sizes. The ultimate friend to me escalates their status to family.

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Permalink Reply by OUT OF CONTROL on April 4, 2008 at 11:22am

Sometimes I wish I had more friends so I can begin to classify them as a Seasonal or Lifetime buddies. Girls always assume that I'm stuck up, or Boojie. Both are the last thing that I am. Girls may mistake my quietness as stuck up, and my Flyness as Boojie. I'm only observing and can't help that I'm cute. LOL

Friends are second in my life now, my family is what I focus on.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 4, 2008 at 12:05pm

See this is my attitude too.... but err ahh I see that "we" are in the minority

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 4, 2008 at 12:08pm

I agree with this 100% I just find that a lot of women I run into have the mindframe like Identical Twin.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on April 4, 2008 at 12:17pm

I totally agree...my problem is my old friends being jealous of my new friends.

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Permalink Reply by Miss Beauty on April 4, 2008 at 12:18pm

My girls are mainly from childhood but I have aquired some new friends over the last couple years that I have become close to as an adult. Take chances and get to know some people. Just dont be so trusting right away. Never let anyone know too much of your business. Its just a shame but thats the state of the world today. I also noticed that a lot of us women are guilty of prejudging a person based on their appearance. But there are snobby acting Bitches (and I will call then bitches because thats what they act like) that make it bad for some real cool down to earth females. Its funny cause once people are around me and get to know me a little they have the same reaction "Oh I didnt know you were that cool" ! Thats almost an insult to me. I am a very outgoing person.I love people. I just hear that I dont appear approachable. I have actually made some buddies on here. And I call them buddies cause I dont really know them and they have not graduated to friend status but we have hung out and had a good time. Treat potential friendships like you do any relationship, get to know them first.

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Permalink Reply by mochagirl on April 4, 2008 at 12:21pm

I totally agree with Savannah, women always think I'm stuck up, when I am so far from that. I tend to be quiet if I don't know you well, but I am the coolest person you could ever meet.

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