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Permalink Reply by luCy on October 7, 2008 at 10:00pm

She probably won't believe you and he will more than likely lie to her since she is caking him and in the end she will still be the fool for him and plus she's already a damn fool for giving him money and buying him s***

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Permalink Reply by The Good Naomi on October 7, 2008 at 10:06pm

tell her...but be prepared to throw away your feminist card once she decides to stay with him anyway...solidarity (between females that are not friends, but "share" a man) does not exist

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Permalink Reply by Love on October 7, 2008 at 10:17pm

luCy said:

She probably won't believe you and he will more than likely lie to her since she is caking him and in the end she will still be the fool for him and plus she's already a damn fool for giving him money and buying him s***

hmm I can send her aim convos as proof but you're right, she probably wouldn't believe me

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Permalink Reply by Love on October 7, 2008 at 10:18pm

Naomi said:

tell her...but be prepared to throw away your feminist card once she decides to stay with him anyway...solidarity (between females that are not friends, but "share" a man) does not exist

yeeeaa the chick isnt exactly cute, so I'm sure she'd be happy that he's with her for any reason at all

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Permalink Reply by Blaq on October 7, 2008 at 10:22pm

I wud definitely tell her!

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Permalink Reply by LMS on October 7, 2008 at 10:28pm

True, true. Plus, deep down she knows. She's waiting for her moment when she can be called Mrs. So & So.
Naomi said:

tell her...but be prepared to throw away your feminist card once she decides to stay with him anyway...solidarity (between females that are not friends, but "share" a man) does not exist

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on October 7, 2008 at 11:32pm

i agree with Les. Walk away and let her be the fool that she is. I confronted a man that I thought I was in a relationship, right in front of ol' girl and her friends/fam, whatever they was. Let her know EV-ER-Y thing. Why, that same night, I rolled past and dudes car was STILL in front of her building. He left her alone for a while. Called me apologizing. Still tryna f***. recently, Why did I roll past where I last knew of her staying at and his car was STILL there. So obviously she cant do any better and is still letting him stay with her. I just shook my head. At any point in time I could call this man acting like i'm down to f*** and he would, then turn around and go right back to her and I dont feel sorry for her. Well, I guess I do because she wont get it until he brings her a disease or gets some other chick pregnant.

I guess it goes back to the "Does the jumpoff have it better post" because chicks will justify it saying, well, he's with me more. He f***** you but he always comes back to me. Wait. What? So you fell you're "better" cuz he keeps coming back but doesnt love you enough to keep his d*** out of other women.

Okay, i'm done with my rant.

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Permalink Reply by Rachael on October 8, 2008 at 1:10am

You can, but like others said she likely won't believe you and he will find a way to spin it against you and you'll look like the bad guy :(
Sad but true

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Permalink Reply by Tmac on October 8, 2008 at 1:20am

I've told two girlfriends her man was cheating. They won't believe you at first, because usually they already knew this in their hearts and they didn't want to believe it. Or they were blindsided and can't imagine him doing it. Either way, she will blame you and probably not believe you. Eventually, she will come around and may even thank you. But it ends up being a long time before that happens. You have to decide what you think she wants. PERSONALLY, I would want a woman to tell me if my man was cheating. But you have to remember, that not everyone wants that. Many women are content living in the dark, and they know it. Whatever she would want, give it to her.

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Permalink Reply by iFollowMe on October 8, 2008 at 3:51am

Stay out of it, in the end it will only cause more drama...where now you can just walk away from the situation....then you would be in even more deep. Just do you and move around. Being captain save a hoe will get you no where.

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Permalink Reply by hesaidshesaid on October 8, 2008 at 4:18am

you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved sweetie. She is happy where she is and she would rather be blind and happy then be aware and unhappy. Walk away IF YOU CAN, and let her experience this for herself. I have been told about men I have dated and I shook my head and agreed with what other people were telling me about the person I was dating at the time but guess what I still stayed everytime because I wanted to.

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Permalink Reply by Love on October 8, 2008 at 2:15pm

Bah so I told her, basically she said I was a groupie and that what him and her have is "real"
Oh well, next!
But I feel a lot better for telling her..

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