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A GOOD BABYMOTHER?
So here it is people, I've been dating this man on and off for a few years (more off than on) and recently HE brought up the subject of us having children. When asked why he wants that with me, he basically said because he knows I would be a "good babymother." Now nothing against all of the babymothers out there but thats not the path I want my life to take. I want to be Wife NOT wifey, babymama, bust-it-baby, bottom b**** or whatever and I let him know that. His response? "You can be more." Im confused, he's a gorgeous chocolate man with dimples, bow-legs and a six-figure salary...I have my life in order, financially, emotionally, etc But I do not want to waste my time with a man thats only looking for a babymother. Shoud I ride this out and see where it goes or shoud I cut my ties and move on with my life? Thanks in advance for your opinions...
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Permalink Reply by Noisy_Girl...2 on -
:-) ^5.
My Aunties, Momma, Cousins, Friends and I agree...men don't decide on issue like this you have to push them. Just a thought. Start planning!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by NYNaturalBeauty on -
lol you do that bc you can't return kids lmao
i wouldn't bring it up again... and see if he brings it up again..
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by Noisy_Girl...2 on
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Are you married?
NYNaturalBeauty said:lol you do that bc you can't return kids lmao
i wouldn't bring it up again... and see if he brings it up again..
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by Lovely1 on -
LOL I hear that....but if theyre pushed 2 hard, things go south fast! I'll ride it out for a bit and see what happens
Noisy_Girl...2 said::-) ^5.
My Aunties, Momma, Cousins, Friends and I agree...men don't decide on issue like this you have to push them. Just a thought. Start planning!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by Noisy_Girl...2 on
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It's already been 5 years...He's not going anywhere
Lovely said:LOL I hear that....but if theyre pushed 2 hard, things go south fast! I'll ride it out for a bit and see what happens
Noisy_Girl...2 said::-) ^5.
My Aunties, Momma, Cousins, Friends and I agree...men don't decide on issue like this you have to push them. Just a thought. Start planning!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by NYNaturalBeauty on
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no y do you ask??
Noisy_Girl...2 said:Are you married?
NYNaturalBeauty said:lol you do that bc you can't return kids lmao
i wouldn't bring it up again... and see if he brings it up again..
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by Tmac on
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Cut your ties! He's made it clear that he wants a babymomma, not a wife. You've made it clear that you want a husband before you have kids. These are two completely different and opposing ideologies. Don't try to force him into marriage, with an ultimatum or something. Even if he follows through, he's just doing it for you, not himself, and that will never turn out right.
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Permalink Reply by LMS on
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Smart Girl! And do something freaky and slide the condom on your self, ever since I saw that movie Knocked Up, I've been watch ninja's a little closely!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by Lovely1 on
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Uhoh Im going to have to go rent that movie now lol
LittleMiss S said:Smart Girl! And do something freaky and slide the condom on your self, ever since I saw that movie Knocked Up, I've been watch ninja's a little closely!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by NYNaturalBeauty on
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that movie is hysterical lol
LittleMiss S said:Smart Girl! And do something freaky and slide the condom on your self, ever since I saw that movie Knocked Up, I've been watch ninja's a little closely!
Lovely said:I did..in a way lol. I told him in order for me to consider having kids with anyone, I need to be Wife first...his response was "ok, you can be more" a kiss and a smile..im like huh? lol. I refuse to bring the subject up again tho, when he does then we'll speak on it. In the meantime i'll just bring my own condoms :)
Noisy_Girl...2 said:put your foot down and tell him you're ready to jump the broom.
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Permalink Reply by she-who-rocks on -
If you want to be wife, and he is offering babymomma, I don't see what your question is, because clearly he has told you he doesn't want to be married.
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