Would you be a baller's mistress?

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Permalink Reply by Sugar on October 13, 2008 at 11:02am

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on October 13, 2008 at 11:03am

not sure...

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on October 13, 2008 at 11:11am

No, I wouldn't. I think too highly of myself to be someone's plan B or sidechick. But again if you are only in it for the money and his list doesn't say you CAN'T date other men, do you...but don't stick around thinking that if you play you're position you will get bumped up to "main chick" by default. Men choose who they choose to be a "side chick" because of your "eagerness" to just be with them at any cost.....

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:13am

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:21am

I can respect that. But most times we see each other its on my time and not his. I don't make myself available to him whenever he calls b/c I do have a life outside of him.

Chocolate Allure said:

No, I wouldn't. I think too highly of myself to be someone's plan B or sidechick. But again if you are only in it for the money and his list doesn't say you CAN'T date other men, do you...but don't stick around thinking that if you play you're position you will get bumped up to "main chick" by default. Men choose who they choose to be a "side chick" because of your "eagerness" to just be with them at any cost.....

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Permalink Reply by Cougar $pice on October 13, 2008 at 11:22am

I Love this CA!

Chocolate Allure said:

No, I wouldn't. I think too highly of myself to be someone's plan B or sidechick. But again if you are only in it for the money and his list doesn't say you CAN'T date other men, do you...but don't stick around thinking that if you play you're position you will get bumped up to "main chick" by default. Men choose who they choose to be a "side chick" because of your "eagerness" to just be with them at any cost.....

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Permalink Reply by Holly-Would on October 13, 2008 at 11:24am

lol.... Im sorry not laughing at you, but his list made me laugh...and have you wrote your list?

Like a home, extended education, vacations, monthly sponsorship?

Tally your monthy bills, and request that amount monthy (this does not mean sit on your bottom and live for free) invest in your well being and future...

be within reason and think of things that can add value to you as a person and increase in value over time...

and put in a buyout clause if he decides to jump the broom with his gf...

Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by LaYlah on October 13, 2008 at 11:24am

make sure you have your own list of rules....
I don't see the harm

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Permalink Reply by she-who-rocks on October 13, 2008 at 11:24am

Karma is a mutha! I wouldn't do it, but I treat others the way I want to be treated. I would never be ok with my man stepping out on me.
You do what is right for you though, just know what you put out there comes back 10 fold.

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Permalink Reply by Sugar on October 13, 2008 at 11:29am

oh...No pics ...ummmm It depend what you want out of it. I mean do you care for him...Or do you see yourself falling for him? I mean he could be your forever for right now type of person, meaning he is cool for right now you like spending time etc.....but are you going to be seeing him exclusively? Are you keeping your options open? Just think about it, we don't know what future can have in store for us. I wouldn't want to see you hurt. because If you do catch feelings and he stays you will have to make and choice and not settle. But if you are not looking for a relationship cool.
Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by LMS on October 13, 2008 at 11:32am

I agree with CA! So, he's not married?! Just has a girl! Be a realist and don't come back on here in a few months saying you're pregnant and in love, and that he has a whole new set of rules for you! LOL :) Believe in karma and that you too someday will have a husband and might have to deal with a mistress.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on October 13, 2008 at 11:32am

this is why I say not sure... I have seen it... women waiting around to be #1, when in reality they aren't even #2... In the end, you will be the one with the broken heart... but... if you are free to do whatever you choose & have access to unlimited funds, then I guess why not...

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