Would you be a baller's mistress?

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Permalink Reply by C*u*t*e* on October 13, 2008 at 11:32am

I don't know it depends on how I feel about him because if I truely have feelings like I want him for a boyfriend I would for that small hope of faith that I could become his main girl. I wouldn't just for any old body.

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Permalink Reply by Sugar on October 13, 2008 at 11:38am

True Story

Holly-Would said:

lol.... Im sorry not laughing at you, but his list made me laugh...and have you wrote your list?

Like a home, extended education, vacations, monthly sponsorship?

Tally your monthy bills, and request that amount monthy (this does not mean sit on your bottom and live for free) invest in your well being and future...

be within reason and think of things that can add value to you as a person and increase in value over time...

and put in a buyout clause if he decides to jump the broom with his gf...

Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:51am

He knows I talk to other guys, and he is cool with that...and we have never had an issue with that. It's always been the type of thing where when we are together its just us and he respects that as do I. I don't get into his home life and he doesn't get into mine. I am not looking for a relationship right now so I will not be seeing him exclusively, cause he won't be seeing me exclusively....lol. I do care for him a great deal b/c he is a really sweet person. I have already fallen for him, cause if I didnt I wouldnt be in this situation I guess. But I am not in love with him. I love him as a person, but not in love.

Sugar said:

oh...No pics ...ummmm It depend what you want out of it. I mean do you care for him...Or do you see yourself falling for him? I mean he could be your forever for right now type of person, meaning he is cool for right now you like spending time etc.....but are you going to be seeing him exclusively? Are you keeping your options open? Just think about it, we don't know what future can have in store for us. I wouldn't want to see you hurt. because If you do catch feelings and he stays you will have to make and choice and not settle. But if you are not looking for a relationship cool.
Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:55am

LOL...its cool. I actually laughed myself like wth kinda list is this, but oh well.

Thanks Holly-Would this is very helpful. I was thinkin of these things already so IF I decide to do it this will definitely be in my list.

Holly-Would said:

lol.... Im sorry not laughing at you, but his list made me laugh...and have you wrote your list?

Like a home, extended education, vacations, monthly sponsorship?

Tally your monthy bills, and request that amount monthy (this does not mean sit on your bottom and live for free) invest in your well being and future...

be within reason and think of things that can add value to you as a person and increase in value over time...

and put in a buyout clause if he decides to jump the broom with his gf...

Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on October 13, 2008 at 11:56am

whether exclusive or not... you love him... continuing to deal with him will make the love stronger...

Sexiness said:

He knows I talk to other guys, and he is cool with that...and we have never had an issue with that. It's always been the type of thing where when we are together its just us and he respects that as do I. I don't get into his home life and he doesn't get into mine. I am not looking for a relationship right now so I will not be seeing him exclusively, cause he won't be seeing me exclusively....lol. I do care for him a great deal b/c he is a really sweet person. I have already fallen for him, cause if I didnt I wouldnt be in this situation I guess. But I am not in love with him. I love him as a person, but not in love.

Sugar said:

oh...No pics ...ummmm It depend what you want out of it. I mean do you care for him...Or do you see yourself falling for him? I mean he could be your forever for right now type of person, meaning he is cool for right now you like spending time etc.....but are you going to be seeing him exclusively? Are you keeping your options open? Just think about it, we don't know what future can have in store for us. I wouldn't want to see you hurt. because If you do catch feelings and he stays you will have to make and choice and not settle. But if you are not looking for a relationship cool.
Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:57am

No, he isnt married, and the karma part is the reason I am a tad bit reluctant, and havent told him yes just yet.

LittleMiss S said:

I agree with CA! So, he's not married?! Just has a girl! Be a realist and don't come back on here in a few months saying you're pregnant and in love, and that he has a whole new set of rules for you! LOL :) Believe in karma and that you too someday will have a husband and might have to deal with a mistress.

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Permalink Reply by Sexiness on October 13, 2008 at 11:59am

True...

JustMe said:

whether exclusive or not... you love him... continuing to deal with him will make the love stronger...

Sexiness said:

He knows I talk to other guys, and he is cool with that...and we have never had an issue with that. It's always been the type of thing where when we are together its just us and he respects that as do I. I don't get into his home life and he doesn't get into mine. I am not looking for a relationship right now so I will not be seeing him exclusively, cause he won't be seeing me exclusively....lol. I do care for him a great deal b/c he is a really sweet person. I have already fallen for him, cause if I didnt I wouldnt be in this situation I guess. But I am not in love with him. I love him as a person, but not in love.

Sugar said:

oh...No pics ...ummmm It depend what you want out of it. I mean do you care for him...Or do you see yourself falling for him? I mean he could be your forever for right now type of person, meaning he is cool for right now you like spending time etc.....but are you going to be seeing him exclusively? Are you keeping your options open? Just think about it, we don't know what future can have in store for us. I wouldn't want to see you hurt. because If you do catch feelings and he stays you will have to make and choice and not settle. But if you are not looking for a relationship cool.
Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by Starr on October 13, 2008 at 12:10pm

No, I wouldn't do it. There's no moving up from that position, but you can certainly go down. Besides, if you had a man, would you want him exchanging lists with some other chick or dude? Karma is a bitch!

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Permalink Reply by SexyindaCity on October 13, 2008 at 3:59pm

If you do it HW list is on point....set your future so that way when things do fall apart you did get something out your deal...but he's not married so I don't see why not but in the end, hope your feelings don't get hurt b/c we females do fall hard and you already mentioned you have feelings for him...goodluck
Sugar said:

True Story

Holly-Would said:

lol.... Im sorry not laughing at you, but his list made me laugh...and have you wrote your list?

Like a home, extended education, vacations, monthly sponsorship?

Tally your monthy bills, and request that amount monthy (this does not mean sit on your bottom and live for free) invest in your well being and future...

be within reason and think of things that can add value to you as a person and increase in value over time...

and put in a buyout clause if he decides to jump the broom with his gf...

Sexiness said:

His list was actually alot shorter than I thought it would be, but was real basic. It was something like no pics, no motives, not getting preggers, don't put his real name in my phone (which he isnt anyway). That was it.

Sugar said:

ok what's his list consist of?

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Permalink Reply by AngelBaby on October 13, 2008 at 6:17pm

Well honestly if I was in a financial bind I would do it, but I would always wear protection and I would want us to get a tested together. I would not feel comfortable doing it for a long time however because I know sometimes I would get lonely and eventually I would want someone of my very own that I could show off to everyone. If you choose to be his mistress try to only do it temporarily, because you could get hurt emotionally from this situation. I know you say your not looking for a relationship but sometimes we catch feelings for someone unconsciously. Let me know what you decide.

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Permalink Reply by rockprincess on October 13, 2008 at 6:41pm

Based on what the original person said about their "relationship" how are you a mistress if he is not married to her? If they were married you would be considering mistress-dom, he is not married therefore, you are not a mistress. You are a good friend.

Does that answer your question? Good luck with that.

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Permalink Reply by The real vixxen on October 13, 2008 at 6:53pm

Do it!! The economy is going down u need all the money u can get!! J/K

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