Sometimes the truth hurts

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Permalink Reply by CoutureBarbie2 on October 22, 2008 at 11:21am

Boss said it best..dude is on his pimp game for real. The wife is cool with the mistress, yall have an amicable relationship & understanding..very interesting indeed. I'm sure his boys are high fiving him everyday..lol. My question is..are there any more chicks he's out there dating?

As far as your question - nope, if you're my true friend, I wouldn't treat you any different. Who in the hell am I to judge you? That's insecurity on your friend's part. And even if you're an associate, it wouldn't matter, because I prolly wouldn't have you in the vicinity of my dude anyways or know your personal biz like that.

One more question - what made you accept this arrangement? Is he kicking out cash? Dickin you down? Or are you just cynical about men & relationships in general?

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Permalink Reply by Sugar on October 22, 2008 at 11:33am

Good Question
CoutureBarbie2 said:

Boss said it best..dude is on his pimp game for real. The wife is cool with the mistress, yall have an amicable relationship & understanding..very interesting indeed. I'm sure his boys are high fiving him everyday..lol. My question is..are there any more chicks he's out there dating?

As far as your question - nope, if you're my true friend, I wouldn't treat you any different. Who in the hell am I to judge you? That's insecurity on your friend's part. And even if you're an associate, it wouldn't matter, because I prolly wouldn't have you in the vicinity of my dude anyways or know your personal biz like that.

One more question - what made you accept this arrangement? Is he kicking out cash? Dickin you down? Or are you just cynical about men & relationships in general?

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Permalink Reply by LaYlah on October 22, 2008 at 11:36am

hell yea!...why wouldn't you do it to her (cause she's your friend?)
F that... stay away from the married friends...find single ones u can go on hoe patrol with ;)

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Permalink Reply by Goldie Fish on October 22, 2008 at 11:39am

be scared. ... she's mimicking you... probably not because she just likes your hair. Sometimes, women lie... lol. she's cool with it now. til she has your ass locked up in a tool shed.

Unclassified_ Hotness said:

Boss -LOL! I think she does resent me though. She has been too nice thats what scares me a little. I couldn't live with them.

Do you think that its a matter of a women feeling secure about her relationship with a man or that you just trust your friend?

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Permalink Reply by Unclassified_ Hotness on October 22, 2008 at 12:12pm

Lay- F that... stay away from the married friends...find single ones u can go on hoe patrol with ;) Am I striking a nerve..hun Women have been doing this for years. I am not a hoe or mistress- i think of it as a KEPT WOMAN.

I doubt that he is with any other woman. Here is a Rhetorical question " Can any of you say what your man is doing 24 hours a day?" I am not NAIVE.

Boss- he is muslim. We aren't though (wife and I) I agreed to the arrangement because of the benefits of having a charming and loving man that is supportive of me mentally emotionally, and finacially. Its a two way street. Just yesterday I gave him 500 to go get some new shoes. It was partially his money anyway. His wife told me that she would never divorce him and thats he is a good man. I can see that by his actions. Our sexual connection is becoming stronger and he always leaves money under my pillow almost every two weeks. He is full of surprises. Its always enough to pay all of the bills, and some. Lately, we've been discussing bringing the kids over. He comes over everyday and spends the night at least three times a week.

CotureBarbie- You gave me something to think about. I have to admit I have been cynical when it comes to relationships. I always end up leaving the men i have dealt with in the past, out of boredom or just lost of interest. I have cheated and been cheated on... No real bitterness, though. He came in to my life at the right time I was single and in VA bored as hell. He provides stability that i haven't had in a while. I could see myself with him another 20 years or so..

Yes, he told me he was married in the beginning. Thats why I honestly think if there was someone esle he wouldn't hide it. You know the more I think about it. He has a way of saying things to a person and it doesn't seem all that bad.

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Permalink Reply by Mrs.Bush on October 22, 2008 at 1:14pm

Do you! If the situation is working for you, then do it till the wheels fall the fuck off! It's cheaper to keep her, and obviously his wife isn't going anywhere. She's seen her competition, so she is not bothered by it as much (that's what she tells you) and she's playing her position to keep her man! My advice to you is make sure that the money that he's giving you, you put that shit up for a rainy day...(you know when everything he's doing now stops)! And in the mean time, in between time have you a lil something that you can turn to when dude is with his wife! Shit, niggas do this shit...and no one seems to have an issue with it until the tables turn. If you don't want to fuck him no more, i'll will take him off your hands!

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Permalink Reply by Babydoll on October 22, 2008 at 1:16pm

This situation is so sad to me, it just sounds like everyone one is getting screwed but the "man"...and everyone is just delusional about the situation, even the "man". I put him in quotes because i don't think being a good man has anything to do with giving you money or his blatant honesty, he is being honest about it becasue he can care less about what he is doing and he knows he will get away with it, whether you put up with it or not, someone else will. and this is where as women are really fucking up...letting these guys just do whatever they please, and if the tables were turned, you can best believe he is not sticking around while you have a husband, not for long anyways ...if he does he is just as broken. Not to judge, just my opinion...I am not saying he is a bad person, he has different morals and values, so it is what it is....but I really hope this mentality doesn't keep catching on and handed down to our young daughters telling them that there are too many women and not enough men, so its acceptable to be a kept woman or in my words a mistress, .....and as far as your friend, I would do the same things too, theives might have a code, but bottomline... he is still a theif...but my opinion once again.... i just think people should have their own and leave other peoples stuff alone....watch that wife, she sounds a little on the insane side, and for you to think that she is ok with this situation concerns me too,...NO woman wants her man stepping out unless she has her own man, which i doubt, she sounds hella insecure and dumb...ok back to lurk mode...

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 22, 2008 at 1:23pm

I'm so torn...

I have watched shows about open relationships and I know a girl that was in one...

The common thing that the say is at least they know what the man is doing...instead of finding about by the other women calling...or being spotted at an event.

This is new to me...good luck though

By the way my friend that was in the open relationship...her husband end up being gay.

Unclassified_ Hotness said:

Lay- F that... stay away from the married friends...find single ones u can go on hoe patrol with ;) Am I striking a nerve..hun Women have been doing this for years. I am not a hoe or mistress- i think of it as a KEPT WOMAN.

I doubt that he is with any other woman. Here is a Rhetorical question " Can any of you say what your man is doing 24 hours a day?" I am not NAIVE.

Boss- he is muslim. We aren't though (wife and I) I agreed to the arrangement because of the benefits of having a charming and loving man that is supportive of me mentally emotionally, and finacially. Its a two way street. Just yesterday I gave him 500 to go get some new shoes. It was partially his money anyway. His wife told me that she would never divorce him and thats he is a good man. I can see that by his actions. Our sexual connection is becoming stronger and he always leaves money under my pillow almost every two weeks. He is full of surprises. Its always enough to pay all of the bills, and some. Lately, we've been discussing bringing the kids over. He comes over everyday and spends the night at least three times a week.

CotureBarbie- You gave me something to think about. I have to admit I have been cynical when it comes to relationships. I always end up leaving the men i have dealt with in the past, out of boredom or just lost of interest. I have cheated and been cheated on... No real bitterness, though. He came in to my life at the right time I was single and in VA bored as hell. He provides stability that i haven't had in a while. I could see myself with him another 20 years or so..

Yes, he told me he was married in the beginning. Thats why I honestly think if there was someone esle he wouldn't hide it. You know the more I think about it. He has a way of saying things to a person and it doesn't seem all that bad.

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 22, 2008 at 1:30pm

In the Muslim world she is considered a harlot...

That is what a muslim woman called me once...and I was at mosque. LOL

Tigress said:

sounds like you're being his whore if he's leaving money under the pillow when he leaves..........not judging but dont u think u deserve more?

Unclassified_ Hotness said:

Lay- F that... stay away from the married friends...find single ones u can go on hoe patrol with ;) Am I striking a nerve..hun Women have been doing this for years. I am not a hoe or mistress- i think of it as a KEPT WOMAN.

I doubt that he is with any other woman. Here is a Rhetorical question " Can any of you say what your man is doing 24 hours a day?" I am not NAIVE.

Boss- he is muslim. We aren't though (wife and I) I agreed to the arrangement because of the benefits of having a charming and loving man that is supportive of me mentally emotionally, and finacially. Its a two way street. Just yesterday I gave him 500 to go get some new shoes. It was partially his money anyway. His wife told me that she would never divorce him and thats he is a good man. I can see that by his actions. Our sexual connection is becoming stronger and he always leaves money under my pillow almost every two weeks. He is full of surprises. Its always enough to pay all of the bills, and some. Lately, we've been discussing bringing the kids over. He comes over everyday and spends the night at least three times a week.

CotureBarbie- You gave me something to think about. I have to admit I have been cynical when it comes to relationships. I always end up leaving the men i have dealt with in the past, out of boredom or just lost of interest. I have cheated and been cheated on... No real bitterness, though. He came in to my life at the right time I was single and in VA bored as hell. He provides stability that i haven't had in a while. I could see myself with him another 20 years or so..

Yes, he told me he was married in the beginning. Thats why I honestly think if there was someone esle he wouldn't hide it. You know the more I think about it. He has a way of saying things to a person and it doesn't seem all that bad.

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Permalink Reply by Unclassified_ Hotness on October 22, 2008 at 1:32pm

sounds like you're being his whore if he's leaving money under the pillow when he leaves..........not judging but dont u think u deserve more?

Ok let me admit something I slept with the wife too. Ok i am just going to put it out there. He leaves money in the bathroom. He always surprises me. I don't percieve it as ho type of relationship. I mean it doesn't get any better. i don't see what the problem is.

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 22, 2008 at 1:33pm

So it was a threesome?

Unclassified_ Hotness said:

sounds like you're being his whore if he's leaving money under the pillow when he leaves..........not judging but dont u think u deserve more?

Ok let me admit something I slept with the wife too. Ok i am just going to put it out there. He leaves money in the bathroom. He always surprises me. I don't percieve it as ho type of relationship. I mean it doesn't get any better. i don't see what the problem is.

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Permalink Reply by Mrs.Bush on October 22, 2008 at 1:35pm

Shit, can i come through the next time you all are together? I have never been with a woman before, and i would like to see what the big deal is! And yes, it's going to get better!

Unclassified_ Hotness said:

sounds like you're being his whore if he's leaving money under the pillow when he leaves..........not judging but dont u think u deserve more?

Ok let me admit something I slept with the wife too. Ok i am just going to put it out there. He leaves money in the bathroom. He always surprises me. I don't percieve it as ho type of relationship. I mean it doesn't get any better. i don't see what the problem is.

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