FEMALE BALLERS: Is it just me or is dating so much easier when you have your own money?

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on April 11, 2008 at 3:38pm

yeah, it's easier when you have your own money. In that case, you are not trying to get "saved" by a baller. Like I said on another message board, yeah it's great that a woman gets where she's at through her own effort and hard work but it's always better when a man fronts you the money to start that business, get rid of that debt, buy that car or buy that building.

When you have your own, you only need a man for your sexual pleasure and to have male companionship from time to time.

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on April 11, 2008 at 3:40pm

And why settle down? You can never find everything you want wrapped up in one guy. So you need several for each need. The Good Dick Man, the Man Who can fix things in your house, the Funny/Entertaining/Great Convo one, The Generous One, etc.

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Permalink Reply by Holly-Would on April 11, 2008 at 3:42pm

its becuase some people only want one thing, so they do different things to get to that end result.

There are ballers who do all the things you've mentioned....but wit ppl turnng tricks so fast and easy

They never even uncover that side to them.

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Permalink Reply by Couture Barbie on April 11, 2008 at 3:43pm

well..im not BALLIN by nfl/nba contract standards..but i can maintain my lifestyle by myself, so I'm good. But i think when you are happy with yourself, have a life, a career, friends and you dont look at everyone for what they can do for you, you attract people that are the same. My guess is that you're also a giver - so because you give w/o expecting to receive something in return, men are happy to do for you/give to you w/o you asking because subconsciously they feel you'd do the same for them.

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Permalink Reply by GetEmGirl on April 11, 2008 at 3:48pm

They say in order to get money, you have to have it. I'm with that. I just wonder if it doesn't present another stream of circumstances one has to deal with.

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 3:51pm

And if the women were smart enough to "flip" a baller's money, I WOULD be impressed. When I was in college, my parent's gave me an allowance and bought me the hot stuff (my mom is quite the fashionista!) I banked my allowance and I dated drug dealers and the money they gave me would be used to be my "flip" money. I wrote term papers and sold them, sold liquor out my apartment, rented hotel ballrooms and threw parties, chartered buses and charged students to take them to parties at other colleges. Girl I could smell a way to make money 100 miles away.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on April 11, 2008 at 3:56pm

it does.

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 3:56pm

You're right. That's why I couldn't date a broke man. If I'm shopping in Short Hills Mall or on 5th Ave. and I see something I think "he" (whoever "he" is) would like, I want to buy it and not feel like a sucker. I love to shop and travel and go out, if he can't hang what's he gonna do "hold my bags" drop me to the airport. I believe in being "equally yoked".

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Permalink Reply by Boss on April 11, 2008 at 4:04pm

I'm not BALLIN by my standards... but I am around money a lot....

It's harder when you have your own because men think they don't have to give you anything....

My homie told me that ballers like girls with little to nothing but they appreciate the trips to New York and Miami....

He said the female ballers want too much as in trips to St. Tropez and St. Bart....and cruises to Capri, Italy

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 4:12pm

The only men that I've come across like that are the "few duds" I refer to in my post. If he is truly ballin (why I started the new forum definition of a baller) HE wouldn't consider St. Tropez or St. Bart's as being demanding. There is nothing wrong with the places you named and hell a trip to New York can cost enough just with parking, tolls etc. LOL!

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Permalink Reply by Boss on April 11, 2008 at 4:15pm

His examples....

I think his point is that they appreciate staying in the states...and female ballers want to go abroad....

He is a multi-millionaire so I'm sure those aren't demanding destinations but you should get my point.....

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 4:21pm

I know, I do. But since he doesn't HAVE to pay my mortgage, doesn't HAVE to take care of my normal living expenditures then a trip here and a trip there, a necklace here and ring there shouldn't be an issue. If the girl isn't on his level financially, more times than not she'll be needing more than wanting...

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