So, this is my last discussion that I will start today. About to get up and get dressed and enjoy some of this 60+ degree weather. It's sad when you look forward to 60 degree weather in April!
Have you ever had the perfect opportunity and then messed it up? I mean -- froze up when you needed to be unfrozen! It's too late for me to change this. However, I hope to get the opportunity again. And I do value the opinions of most of those on the site. It's funny because I will be reading a post sometimes and I'm like, that's a good idea or why didn't I think of that. So I'm looking forward to hearing what you all think that I SHOULD have done.
There is this baller that I absolutely LOVE! Not in a stalkerish kind of way because I'm not THAT girl. But if the situation presented itself, I would DEFINITELY get with this guy. So, I'm in Chicago and I'm put in situation where I was able to meet this guy. However, it was a very public situation and I didn't know what to do because although I wanted it, it caught me off guard. Plus, I was expecting his entourage to be way bigger and when it wasn't, it just seemed like all eyes were on me and it was extremely awkward. So he hugs me and kisses me on the cheek and it's like when he held my hand he was expecting me to have something in there (a business card maybe, Savannah)! You can tell when a guy likes what he sees and that's the vibe that I got from him. Even after he got into his SUV, he turned around and was looking at me out of the window.
Yes, I dropped the ball. I was so overwhelmed that words wouldn't even come out of my mouth. But what SHOULD I have done . . . for future reference!!
What is this very public situation? I'm confused. What caught you off, his presence, or did he do something like smack you on the butt? LOL Why did you say "if" the situation presented itself if you already ran into him? Was this an autograph signing? Give us the scoop..
I think what will be, will be, if it was meant to go further it would have...you may have said something else, he may have asked for your phone number, he may have asked you to contact him, it didnt happen, be easy on yourself, the beat goes on....LOL
Sounds like you're too aprehensive. Next time, be a bit more aggressive. Were you in a club? If so, next time just rub up against him slightly gestering to dance. and, don't hang with him all night. Move around, pop back up later. By this time you should have them cards ready for him, and let him turn his head AGAIN out of his SUV after the event is over.
I have done this a couple of times myself....so I know just where you are coming from. If you were getting the vibe that he was somewhat interested you should have said something. "So what's up" usually works well when transitioning a conversation. The truth is, its all about planting seeds. Sometimes you gotta be patient. You guys had a tiny connection, and next time you meet up with him you can take it from there. Don't focus on what did not happen, instead focus on your next run in with him. When you see him again greet him like an old friend you have not seen in ages. When you hug him whisper in his ear, "I was hoping that I would run into you again". Before you get to deep into the conversation hand him your business card. Let him know that you want to make sure you stay in touch this time.
Hey Honeycoated! I am on Michigan Avenue a lot. I don't really do the club scene unless something major is going on in the city. And I have been off the scene totally for a minute. I run into so many people on Michigan but it is generally during the mornings or day time. A LOT of guys with money hang out on Rush Street. Yes, it's touristy but the athletes especially love it!! Every time I'm there I see at least one. Lots of them go to dinner there on Fridays and Saturdays – Gibson’s, Hugo's Frog Bar, Dublin's, Hunt Club.
Where do you go? I'm going to start going out again soon and I'm getting my spots ready!! I’ve heard Lumen, Redno5, and 720 are supposed to be athlete havens!
The situation was IF I could have gotten with him physically I would have but it didn't work out.
Oh well, as GetEmGirl said, the beat goes on . . .
I happened to be walking by a place that he was coming out of -- no autograph signing -- actually, it was a radio appearance. So, I was standing there and he came over and gave me the hug and kiss. Nothing major. His presence is what caught me off because I SO didn't expect to me him and I wanted to meet him for some time. I wish he had slapped me on the butt!! LOL!!!!!
I said "if" meaning if a situation arose when I could have been physical with him then I would have. That situation was too awkward and not really conducive to hooking up. Plus, like I said, I froze up. I have a friend that works with Kanye that knows him so hopefully I will get a chance again, though. After all of the tips that I have received on this site, I will DEFINITELY be ready!!
He was leaving a building and I was walking by. I think I would have been more comfortable in the club but I still would have probably frozen up. I need to get the aggressive thing under control, though. I think that the problem is that I have to appear professional all of the time and it's really starting to carry over into my personal life. I have to be honest and say that at that instance, I was concerned about what others might think about me which is SO unlike me.
Thanks for your well wishes Highlyfe and you predicting I will see him again!! Keep putting those positive vibes out there!! LOL!! The thing is, I'm fine with the athletes but he just does something to me . . . But I think that encounter helped because now it's not like he's AS inaccessible as I thought.