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Permalink Reply by Cassandra on April 23, 2008 at 10:18pm

It seems like things are running its course and things seem to be falling in place on its own. Don't rush it, just take it for what it is and maybe throw out there that you miss how things were to see where his head is. He may not want a girlfriend from the comment that he has been with several women since. Just voice how you feel and take his reaction as your answer to how to get him back. If he feeds into it and says he feels the same, then you keep doing what your doing, if he says different, then maybe you should fall back if you feel you are getting closer.

I hate relationships! I like to keep things on a friend level. Maybe one day I'll settle down. I hope you get your baller back!

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Permalink Reply by Noisy_Girl on April 24, 2008 at 6:19am

Awe, our own Melody and Derwin. Get Em Girl said it best, your goal is to isolate him from his family...not be timid...only the strong survive.

According to you, you two have open communication and continue to mess around meaning still having sex with each other.

If you guys are close as you suggest you need to be open and honest. Get off the side chick path...

I've been told, I'm on the JV team. (Ha) So, what for the seniors.

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Permalink Reply by msthing on April 24, 2008 at 9:26am

how are you going to deal with the issues with his mother this go around? you don't want to deal with the same issues this time around ...

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Permalink Reply by bree on April 24, 2008 at 1:08pm

When we first were together he was about to get his money and she was real protective she thought I was trying to trap him. She wanted to make sure she was in control but I think it might be different this time and it seems all the woman that have been in his life I'm the only one thats had his back and Im hoping she will appreciate that . Ive always had my own money so its not about his money but Im getting older and I just want to settle down so this time Im planning to exclude her as a factor in the relationship if we get back together until our wedding day lol

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 24, 2008 at 1:37pm

Just a note if you are in it for the LONG HAUL (you did say you want to settle down) chances are she will be gone before you. Find a way to make her an ally it is so much easier. I red this book " How to Make Friends and Influence People" it is old as dirt but what it teaches you about turning the dynamic of a relationships around is priceless. It is hard to be with a man (especially if he is close to Ma Dukes) if you don't get along with his momma.

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Permalink Reply by Carmelcuttie27 on April 24, 2008 at 3:24pm

Yeah getting in good with momma is important

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