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Permalink Reply by S0 F L Y Y on June 17, 2009 at 12:11pm

I'd try to make a suggestion about doing something outside of the bedroom and see how he reacts. go to a movie, take in a play... do dinner... anything outside of where you normally sex it up.

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Permalink Reply by S0 F L Y Y on June 17, 2009 at 12:11pm

Oh & welcome to BA!

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Permalink Reply by Damnstraight on June 17, 2009 at 12:21pm

I agree. And just kinda casually ask him when is he going to get married(not to you, you're just throwing it out there) and have kids...See how he responds to that...

S0 F L Y Y said:

I'd try to make a suggestion about doing something outside of the bedroom and see how he reacts. go to a movie, take in a play... do dinner... anything outside of where you normally sex it up.

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Permalink Reply by Irreplaceable_me on June 17, 2009 at 1:19pm

gracias ladies ! I'll definitly use these suggestions when I see/talk to him next.

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Permalink Reply by Stephbaby on June 17, 2009 at 1:52pm

I would just be straight forward. Ask questions u really wanna know, like Devyn said. Or u could just be bold & let him know how u feel. No sense of beating around the bush if ur feelings are involved. Everyone hates 2 get rejected, but rejection is part of life, whether it be a job, relationship, loan, etc...The only way 2 know his intentions is 2 ask him. This way u will know where u stand with him vs hearing negative "hearsay" about the 2 of u or him. Good luck on that & WELCOME 2 BA :-)

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Permalink Reply by Zaria 22 on June 17, 2009 at 6:48pm

Well you already been f****** him so don't expect much. On the flipside, just tell him straight up. Im looking for more (a relationship), and I'm wondering if this is something you can give? If he is down for it there you go, if not, quit wasting time and move on. Or you could keep f****** him, but it's your decision, and only you will hurt in the end.

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on June 17, 2009 at 7:11pm

Welcome to BA,

Okay I agree with a couple of things already posted, just tell him how you feel, if you're not use to being so bold ask a couple of general questions first and try to feel him out. U may run the risk of loosing your sex buddy if he's not into you that way, but at least you'll know whether or not you're wasting your time. Good Luck & again welcome.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on June 17, 2009 at 10:04pm

Can't change the game in the 9th inning...

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 17, 2009 at 10:36pm

Yep Charlie, the tone of the relationship was set in the beginning.

You've shown him that you were down for this & it worked well for a year. You need to find your strength with the risk of losing him and ask him to what the future holds.

You have to ask with confidence and be direct and to the point. But you have to know exactly what you want before you ask him, because he will be caught off guard so be prepared for whatever his response is.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on June 17, 2009 at 11:05pm

I wouldn't say ish...I'd move on...the tone was set...this is why men think women are crazy and can't handle ish...you said I just wanna freak, so that's what you got...that's all its going to be, unless he feels the same way...and if he did he would have said something already...

The only thing I would say is: "at this point in my life I want more from a relationship than sex, so I'm leaving to find my bliss"...if he wants more he'll ask you to be with him...

From Jump-off to Wifey when you're the one who requested to be the jump-off in the first place won't be easy...pretty close to impossible...

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Permalink Reply by Irreplaceable_me on June 18, 2009 at 10:00am

I see your point & it makes very good sense. I think that may be best for me in the end anyways. thanks ladies :)

Charlie/Daddy's Girl said:

I wouldn't say ish...I'd move on...the tone was set...this is why men think women are crazy and can't handle ish...you said I just wanna freak, so that's what you got...that's all its going to be, unless he feels the same way...and if he did he would have said something already...

The only thing I would say is: "at this point in my life I want more from a relationship than sex, so I'm leaving to find my bliss"...if he wants more he'll ask you to be with him...

From Jump-off to Wifey when you're the one who requested to be the jump-off in the first place won't be easy...pretty close to impossible...

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