I am so torn. I cook, clean, f***, freak, suck, etc. Do men get bored with the same old thing after a period of time? Do women get any benefit from their counterpart's infidelities? I am a hopeless romantic and never thought my man would cheat because I do everything to make him happy and to my surprise he did. Did I give a lot up too soon? I don't work and he pays everything. What are your thoughts?
I agree -- kind of. Times have evolved, so it is only natural that our attitudes on commitment and monogomy should. There was no AIDS in King Solomans day... and in the begining there was Adam and Eve... one man and ONE woman...
However, as much as women have tried, cried, and complained... it seems almost natural for a man to spread his seed, men can reproduce at 80, women cannot... but I will still slap the snot out a muthf**** for it.
Please define "I do everything" because woman are sometimes clueless when it comes to pleasing a man. Your doing e verything may mean little to him because Im quite sure you dont do everything. If you did everything the woman he cheated on you with would have been in the same bed as you. So with t hat said you wont do everything and when you do trust me you will no because he wont be walking in 2 in the morning.
Um... Well... Yeah... Basically. If my women gives me the attention and treatment I need... Why bother wit other chicks? I got a newflash for ya, women are not the easiest people to get a long/deal with. Half the time a guy is dreading having to deal with some of yall, and the associated drama. If you can get what you need form one chick... It's a relief not to have to deal with the attitudes and issues of other women.
Problem being, now-a-days most chicks are terribly deficient. If she's got a really nice body, her attitude is extremely shitty. If she's good in the bedroom, she keeps a dirty place. If she keeps a tight place, she can't budget worth a damn, and that starts to cripple your pockets. If she's good wit affection, she's got the mouth of a salor and you can barely take her around your fam. If it's not one thing it's another. The things I stated here are - just examples - the point is really that there is always some issue (or two, or three) that's big enough where you can't just work around it.
I could'nt start a post about women being clueless on pleasing their men. I'd be typing for the next 48 hours. That topic could be someones life work. All I'll say to that is women are experts at doing what they think they should do, instead of what you asked them to do, and in the end, even thought they think it's right, they would have pleased you more by doing what was asked...
Izm, do you really think you will find the right woman and appreciate her and start walking the right path? Because I think what happens is men b**** and b**** and cheat but then they find a good woman and it comes as a shocker. It's as if they condition themselves to believe that a good woman that doesn't get on your nerves and plays her position well will ever come along. When she does and ya'll STILL don't act right, she becomes the all too popular "one who got away". I think it's all about timing. For both people. But men most definately.
I walk the right path now. You're talking to a guy who has been through exactly what you described. You and I would have great conversations on a numbr of things, because we seem to have similar perspectives. You hit the nail on the head. That "one that got away" experience is no joke. It's a serious wake up call, and the alarm has already gone off for me. So yes, I walk the right path and if I can find a woman who clicks with me, I'm not gonna play myself. I believe you only get a shot at a truly good realtionship 3 to 4 times in life max. I've had one that I messed up, but I was smart enough to wise up. By my calculations I've got a few shots left. So if there's a next one, I'm gonna handle correctly. I don't make the same mistake twice.
Thank you for all the comments. I didn't realize it was so many. I talked to him over the weekend and told him that I was not happy with his actions. I threatened to go live with my mother, and he begged me not to leave and told me that he would not do it again.
I made him call the woman while I was listening, and she cried and screamed when he told her that he loved his family, and that he would not be seeing her again.
Soulglo, don't fall for that s***! Men will call another b**** and have her fake like she's the culprit! Trust! Some women can care less about you and do all the boo hoo don't leave me type s*** and be humping the next day. Yeap, I said it. Some women live to wreck homes!
I say go back to your mom's house, work in retail somewhere, or hey at a car dealership, find you another man, and get his ass jealous and have him really spoil you rotten for your attention and time.
SoulGlo, also remember that he did/does in fact pay the bills. Which means he has the capacity to do so, which means there are a grip of other chicks who will be itchin to slide into your roll and have their bills paid. Dude is wrong for what he did, but before you put in that app in at the car dealership, do some personal relationship inspection based on some of the comments here that are posted from the male perspective. The amount of work that needs to be done maybe 90% his, but that still leaves 10%. And last I checked relationships are a two way street.
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