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How Many Kids Are Too Many???????

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Okay, here's the situtation-

Meet a guy, he’s nice to you, he’s sweet to you, he is there for you when you need and not there when you need your time. Two months go by and you find out he has 3 kids by 3 different women!!!!! Even with all of that you put that aside because he is a good dude. Takes care of his 3 kids and you, there is no drama with any of the mamas. So now 7 months go by and he tells you that he has something he thinks you should know. He doesn’t have 3 kids he now has 4!!!!!!!!!! Seems like him and baby mama number 2 got back together before he met you and she just had his baby two months ago.

Is it wrong for me to feel mad because he failed to mention that she was even pregnant at the beginning of the relationship?

I told him that any real man will put his children first before any women and that would mean I would be number 5 on his list.

Am I wrong for not wanted to be number 5 behind his now 4 kids??

I come a family of 5 kids, I was number three, I cannot be lower than number 3 on any list.

I want to raise my own family, not other womens children.

Was it wrong for me to have ended the relationship?

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HELL NO.....U WERE RIGHT....UNLESS HE IS kobe J/ks......follow your Instincts.....I have 2 kids and don't want a w/none.....so All of is time and money is "MINE".........

Heck we All have Options......

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Meant a MAN W/None

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u WERE SO RIGHT TO LEAVE... Men with all those kids and baggage are nothing but a lifetime of drama! my sister is with a boy (I do not call him a man because any real man would not be so careless and selfish n have sooo many children) that has SIX yes SIX kids with 4 different women (my sister is baby mama 4 and has child 5) he does not and never will have anything because his check will always be drained because of all his Damn kids!

PS. could please teach my sister how to do the same thing and leave?!?!?

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He should have told you. You're not wrong for not wanting to be #5! I don't have kids yet and I get called selfish alot because I refuse to date a guy with beaucoup babies and mamas. 2 kids 1 mom my limit maybe I'll be single forever but I aint up for the different personalities and drama alotta women bring nor do I want to have to wait to get what I need done because a man has 50/11 child support cases etc!

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Hell no u aint wrong... the last 1 would have done it for me...
Hell, I think 2 is too many.. really 1 is too many but I have to be realistic .

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You did the right thing by leaving him! Like you said, if he lied about HIS child aint no telling what else he will lie about!

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If it is an honest man , he takes care of all his children equally and was straight up with me from day one then it wouldn't matter how many kids he had ..... but it would have to be a damn good reason why he has been though so many women and it better not be that he's just a reckless a**hole who thinks with his d*ck and doesn't use protection , which is usually the case !

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Hell to the naw. If that's not what you want you don't have to except it. Better than looking down on him in secret when all those rugrats come over running around the house, up under you, starring you in the face.

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No it was not wrong. There is a difference between 4 kids 1 woman and and 4 kids and 3 women. It seems like the relationship is good until a kid is born so why become baby momma #5

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I just had a conversation with someone about this yesterday. I feel as if we woman settle to much. This may sound harsh but if you have two kids by two different women and you are in your 20's, I will pass.Exceptions can be made for older men if they are not close in age.

You had a child young with one woman and did not evaluate your situation and had another child out of wedlock. Just not responsible at all. All kinds of unprotected sex. Then you have to deal with two baby mother's attitudes and then the money issue. Back and forth to court with two different women.

Some of the kids mother's will be bitter forever and this may take a toll on the relationship. (Tires flattened,windows busted, (it happened to me)You may also have to deal with bad ass kids who you may not even be able to disipline. Relationships are hard to begin with why start it off with lies.

The above can also apply to females that

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