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How Many Kids Are Too Many???????

Okay, here's the situtation-

Meet a guy, he’s nice to you, he’s sweet to you, he is there for you when you need and not there when you need your time. Two months go by and you find out he has 3 kids by 3 different women!!!!! Even with all of that you put that aside because he is a good dude. Takes care of his 3 kids and you, there is no drama with any of the mamas. So now 7 months go by and he tells you that he has something he thinks you should know. He doesn’t have 3 kids he now has 4!!!!!!!!!! Seems like him and baby mama number 2 got back together before he met you and she just had his baby two months ago.

Is it wrong for me to feel mad because he failed to mention that she was even pregnant at the beginning of the relationship?

I told him that any real man will put his children first before any women and that would mean I would be number 5 on his list.

Am I wrong for not wanted to be number 5 behind his now 4 kids??

I come a family of 5 kids, I was number three, I cannot be lower than number 3 on any list.

I want to raise my own family, not other womens children.

Was it wrong for me to have ended the relationship?

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Permalink Reply by SexyCanI on June 11, 2008 at 1:57pm

i think he should have told you about the 4th one sooner. but should it matter what number your child if you have one with him would be as long as he takes care of the baby. now if the nicca had 6 kids by 6 different women or better then i would have to fall back on that one

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Permalink Reply by Le Coquette on June 11, 2008 at 1:59pm

nope you were right. I dated someone where kids were popping up left and right and I feel that a real man will be upfront about any kids he may have from the gate. 3 is my limit depending on the ages

I also don't like it when men don't carry around a picture of their kids. In your phone, wallet, ipod, SOMETHING!

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Permalink Reply by Couture Barbie on June 11, 2008 at 2:05pm

i wouldve left when homie told me that he had 3 kids by 3 different women - because obviously, he doesnt know that meaning of birth control..

lol

i'd be singing Trey Songz like a m*thafucka - "I dont wanna leave, but i gotta go right now..." lol

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Permalink Reply by Siren on June 11, 2008 at 2:06pm

No you are not wrong...you know your limits better than anyone else!!! I agree I don't want to be last on a list of 5 and then think if you have a kid then your kid is after all of the others??? Nope not me...and I feel no ways about it!

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Permalink Reply by Tantra on June 11, 2008 at 3:14pm

You were right to end it. He's a liar about his kids. If he can lie about his kids... No go.

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Permalink Reply by MYPRESISBLACK!!! on June 11, 2008 at 3:33pm

That's waaaaay too much baggage. Move on to someone with less issues and more time and money to spend on you. He's sneaky and he's a man so there is no telling how many other kids he has. I'm glad you got out while you could.

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Permalink Reply by Cream on June 11, 2008 at 3:52pm

If you felt that was the right thing for you then good! You would be the one to have to live with it!! It's alot to take on and he should have been up front from the beginning so you had a choice from the start!!

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Permalink Reply by Sexi With An "I" on June 17, 2009 at 1:45pm

lol it could be worse i met a guy whom i later found out has 23 kids! 23 wtf!!! look him up on myspace screen name brave nate !!! true story

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Permalink Reply by Irreplaceable_me on June 17, 2009 at 1:58pm

He should have told you from the jump that him & her played around before you came into the picture & no I dont fault you for not trying to be #5 because I wouldnt either

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Permalink Reply by Ms. Ashley Banks on June 17, 2009 at 2:03pm

No, you followed your gut. I look at how old the men were, and their circumstances, when the children were conceived. Boys who had babies way too young (junior high and high school), and have grown into mature men doing what they can to take care of their babies, then I might let it pass. If you conceived several children as a grown man, especially a MARRIED grown man who has done this outside of marriage/cohabitation/engagement, then no, I can't be with you.

Little Wayne have a baby in high school: Pass.

Little Wayne as a grown man/artist/millionaire knocking up women left and right, exposing the mothers, babies, and himself to infectious diseases: Fail.

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Permalink Reply by Gigi on June 17, 2009 at 2:25pm

i agree with siren i wouldn't want to be number 5[well actually number 7 if you want to include the baby mama's] and i wouldn't want my child to come after the rest of his kids that were born first. as a woman it is ok to compromise and be with a man who already has some situations going on but not that many situations......nobody wasnt to be second place....let alone fifth place. i dont think your wrong for ending the relationship.

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Permalink Reply by LMS on June 17, 2009 at 2:43pm

I had to go back and look at the date for this. Too many kids! I had a cousin who married a guy with a ton of kids, some weren't even biologiaclly his & he was on child support, which basically sucked the life out of his check. My cousin is now married to someone else, got tired of taking care of him!