Ay yall remember that movie Spike Lee did called 'School Daze'? This was my movie back in tha day. Back when The Cosby Show era was huge and everybody wanted to be like the Cosby kids (80s babies stand up!) I was siced about gettin a college education all thanks to my parents, Spike, & Bill. But I didn't realize the message in the movie until I started attending college back in like 99'. I went to Morgan State University, and there were plenty of issues like this goin on when I thought the dark skin vs. light skin thing was over. I was listening to Russ Parr today and they were talkin bout it. This dude was amazed because he saw that a dark skinned young lady was apart of the AKA sorority. Which I thought was jus stupid. But it's crazy cause me being a fairly light skinned sista, I hear that a lot. People feel that dark skinned sistas should ONLY be Zetas and light skinned sistas should ONLY be AKAs. Or if we see a light skinned female with a light skinned guy...we may not say it but we're thinkin 'dag....they are too light to be with each other' or 'they not gonna last cause they two light skinned'. Or it might the opposite if they are dark skinned. Cause I don't know about yall but my mama and other relatives would always have that mind-set about dark skin or light skin. So let me know what yall were taught or what your thoughts are on this.
It still exists and it is evident and clear IMO. I have family from all different ends of the spectrum I think it is shallow and ignorant to be concerned about complexion I find beauty in people af all shades just as I find ignorance in people of all shades.
I am a Louisiana native, and if you have ever been here you know that there alot of "Creoles"... I am a brownish red color, I haven't fully tanned yet, so I could still pass the "paper bag" test (LOL)... Down here (yeah I said it) it varies, there are some people that want to keep the family bright, so they encourage the light-light matchups... I know men that will only date light skin/long hair, no matter how cute she isn't...
My mom on the other hand is yellow, the yellowest of her siblings, and grew up during the desegregation times - she was was too light for the black kids, and too dark for the white kids, and swore she wouldn't have what she called "colorless" kids... She wishes that I were a little bit darker, but was very pleased when 9 years later she got a dark brown bundle of joy in my brother... She and her siblings also faced racism from their own extended family... My paternal grandfather is from Waynesboro, GA and his children were the ONLY light skinned grandchildren... (true story: when my uncle was born, my great-grandmother took off all of his clothes to look him over to VERIFY he was my grandfather's because he was so light!!!!) And there was an aunt that referred to them as "The Yalla Kids"... and here in Louisiana, things aren't much different... My grandmother's kids are the only ones that lost the "good hair" gene, because my grandmother didn't marry a "good-haired man" (their words, not mine)... Of the 6 yellow kids ( all are yellow) one of my aunts is slightly darker than the rest, she is often referred to as "the dark one" LOL!!!
There is a bunch of this in my family but I am happy that it is dying with the older generation. My grandfather is "mixed" and my father is the darkest of his children... the way he ridiculed my father about being his darkest child was awful. He must have forgot that while his mama is white his daddy was as black as they come.... I have promised myself to end this vicous cycle I will not pass on the ignorance to any children I may have in the future. It starts at home and within....
As long as ignorance exits there will be people favoring or disfavoring a person soley based on color. Black folk aren't the only ones doing it. Colorism spans through minority races everywhere. I don't think people will ever rise above it.
I have a cousin... she married a dark man, she had one child and stopped because he was light... the light son married another cousin of mine ( they are cousins too, long story), she isn't light, but she difinitely isn't dark, but she stuck to him like glue because he was so light, and she didnt want dark children... those are two of the darkest kids in the family... the daughter is beautiful, deep chocolate with "good hair"... I get so pissed cause a couple of the "lightbrights" always tell her she is pretty to be so dark... No, she is just pretty. Case closed...
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