Why do woman hate on other woman who date ballers?

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Permalink Reply by Adriana on June 15, 2008 at 9:04pm

Well for example( I don't mean to call out talk sports) but on there, there is a lot of hating going on including men too.(back to the topic) But some women hate because they are jealous, maybe the other woman have something that she want. Or because it is pure insecurities. Lacking self confidence has something to do with it also. If a woman lacks self confidence or low self esteem she will try her hardest(and when i say hardest i mean it) to bring down other women. Also women who lacks attributes that you have(long hair, cute face, nice skin tone, nice legs, etc) will also try to bring you down

**If I am forgetting something please include it**

But one thing is that women will never change because they will find the silliest shit to hate on/about.

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Allure on June 15, 2008 at 9:12pm

It is pure hatred and jealousy! A man loves who he loves and if he's a real man, what someone else says about her won't matter! I think women tend to pick apart a baller's (or any man's) choice in a woman to gain a sense of hope that there is someone out there for them! Basically saying if "her ugly ass can get a baller, I know I can!" But what they're not understanding is that although looks play a major part of a man's choice in a woman, the greater part of the decision is chemistry and attraction and that goes a lot further than looks. A good male friend (baller) told me that his choses his serious girlfriend by the pillowcase method. If he could put a pillowcase over a girl's head love her conversation, her vibe, her body and her spirit, then pull the pillow case off and she is somewhat attractive all of the other attributes reign supreme. If a woman ,no matter how beautiful she is, is capable of making nasty/rude comments about a woman she doesn't know her character is pretty sad and that explains why she can't get a man or keep a man....

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Permalink Reply by Tiana on June 15, 2008 at 9:12pm

I personally don't hate on other women...for what? But I think women that do are truly jealous of the woman on that baller's arm. However, alot of it can stem from a past relationship with that baller, a wanting to be with him, or he treated her like shit or like a one night stand and when she finds out about the one who has his heart, she goes into natural hater mode. However, I wouldn't go as far as saying all of what a "hater" says is false. It really depends. I remember being with this one guy and all the girls who didn't even know me, would talk about me and make up some really bogus stuff about me and him. But it was this one girl, whom I think was the ring leader, had some info on him that I didn't even know about. When I asked him, of course he denied it, but after we broke up I found out it was true, and that he once slept with her. I think she was scorned, but she didn't have to make up stories about me, I'm just an innocent bystander. But back to your question, I think alot of it really comes from wanting to be with that baller or having been with that baller, or just plain hateration! Women will tear other women down without knowing them because it is something wrong inside.

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Permalink Reply by kadydid on June 15, 2008 at 9:20pm

I don't hate on other women either. I sometimes say what may look like a good thing may not be in reality. I do think alot of women are just jealous. When you are spending time on the next bitch, you could have been working on you. Getting your mind and body together. You may be able to get a baller if you invest in improving yourself and not worrying about others.

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Permalink Reply by Le Coquette on June 15, 2008 at 10:10pm

Great topic!

Wifey/girlfriend is in a position that the other girl wants to be in. Point blank. So therefore she is looking for something/anything to figure out why he would want to be with her. A lot of times I think the hater is prettier than his girl so that makes that hater hate on even more.not realizing its more than just looks

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Permalink Reply by Cookie Pie on June 16, 2008 at 2:34pm

Well put Ms. Airbrush , I think it is all of the above and basically these people don't have a life of their own so they just hate on someone else's life ! It's that simple !

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Permalink Reply by hesaidshesaid on June 16, 2008 at 8:54pm

not that bad, its curable not like HPV, and HERPES and HIV. Its a very common STD.

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Permalink Reply by julissa on June 16, 2008 at 10:34pm

Shit like that pisses me off mama because depending on the season I am light or medium dark, and I do see the difference in attention from ballers. Now I accept my beauty, but in my younger years I would not go out until the sun went down. lol !
I see ballers with the wack looking "lighter" women, and now I just laugh because they definetly want and would rather be with me.

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Permalink Reply by Ms Thing on June 16, 2008 at 11:31pm

Me personally I think it all comes down to choices and associations! Be careful of the company you keep. Our parents have always told us this as children. Some people think they can get away with anything because of who they are, and the standard moral clauses don't affect or apply to them because they are Mr. SuperStarBallHikerCatcher. Most of these men live double lives and with technology being what it is today it makes it a bit difficult to keep skeletons suppressed.

9 out of 10 people saying the same thing can't possibly all be haters! Where there is smoke there usually is FIRE. However I do agree some women are just miserable and would hate on Jesus if they could or their own Mother. Money makes people do the strangest things. Why is it when the truth is spoken it's considered hate? If a Baller finds the one or one he thinks is the one why doesn't he act accordingly and just cling to that one. Instead of weaving a web of deception and still having playdates with your past playmates and even bashing and bad mouthing your own lady while doing so. The man usually sets the tone for the relationship so if he bad mouths or denys his situation how do you expect others to respect his union if he dosen't. If a man is out being reckless and that's the energy that he's putting into the universe that's exactly what comes back to him.

I know several women that are married, dating, engaged, the mistress, the road wife or the mother of Ballers. And most of them don't have problems or have never been mentioned! The ones that have been is because their Baller was out tending someone else's goal.

Things that are too good to be true usually are. Ballers change women like they change jockstraps. Whenever you date anyone their past is always relevant because in the begining they are going to tell you anything and promise you everything.


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Permalink Reply by C.J. on June 17, 2008 at 8:48am

---the situation---That is so tacky. Because I'm a brown girl myself. And I see the stares from the dudes with chics that aren't as "bad" as me but are MUCH lighter. Case in point. I was out with a few friends at a club in my city. And I made my way to the VIP area (hell no I wasn't about to pay for it) so, there were a few ball players and they were kickin it with women who had what most like to call "the exotic" look. I saw the main player (the real baller) and he was with a white woman. No disrespect to her I told her that I just wanted to ask her man about his boy and she was fine with that. I asked, he told me where his boy was chillin and I went after him....well, I guess it didn't sit well that I genuinely wasn't interested in him. And he followed me to the area!! Straight blocking. Well I made my way back to the VIP area and so did he. Well...All eyes on me again when all these white and other cultured men kept approaching me. Fast froward to the end of the night and now they all trying to holler on the low. PLEASE...I don't mind you being with who you want to be with but don't jock me because you are following what you think societies version of beauty is.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on June 28, 2008 at 12:28pm

I know I am sooo late to this discussion, but here's my 2 cents anyway...

Who the F says/defines if she's undeserving? That's hate plain and simple - you don't know what she is deserving of because you don't truly know her or her heart. Who cares if she's the town smut(which you don't even know for sure, you just know rumors. And I'm sure you may have a few rumors floating around about you), he loves her - end of story.

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Permalink Reply by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on June 28, 2008 at 12:34pm

^5 Airbrush...I hear people say he only likes spanish chicks or light skin chicks, I've heard it on here about people I've dated. I just laugh, I'm light brown/caramel and quite brown in the summer, and I still get these same white/exotic/light skin loving men...its about your confidence and your swag...and if he's feeling you on that particular night.

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