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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 11:49am

What about the baby?? If this child goes to the system, how will its life be? How will the child feel knowing that its parents never wanted them? Sometimes no life is better than a striaght up f'ed up life. Hell life is hard enough with just one parent who cares enough.  

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Permalink Reply by BlackSnakeMoan on July 17, 2012 at 12:09pm

ABORT MISSION! last thing we need is another f***** up child raised by an unwed teenage mother. I hate people who try to punish a child by forcing them to have and raise a the child. That's dumb

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Permalink Reply by BlackSnakeMoan on July 17, 2012 at 12:13pm

only chance of getting that baby adopted is if she has it in africa while a white celebrity is visiting

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on July 17, 2012 at 12:48pm

I think that is the point a lot of people miss. When a child isn't wanted by either parent and most of its relatives (in this case the father's side) and is only a punishment to the mother, that child's life is going to be a lot harder than it should be. And when you have these unwanted children who grow up to be unloved adults they have a lot of psychological problems that then become all our problems. ie Rapists, murders, sociopaths, etc.

Love is a Losing Game said:

What about the baby?? If this child goes to the system, how will its life be? How will the child feel knowing that its parents never wanted them? Sometimes no life is better than a striaght up f'ed up life. Hell life is hard enough with just one parent who cares enough.  

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Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on July 17, 2012 at 1:40pm

@ Miss U can- either the parents or the government or both will end up paying for this child. This young girl will not be able to live her nor will she be able to provide a life for her child. I believe abortion is the right way to go.

@eleven you are correct. Now is the time to educate her on safe sex and birth control. There are so many birth control options there is NO reason for slip up. Your must protect yourself FIRST! This time it can be a pregnancy, but next time it can HIV/AIDS.

@Black Snack You speak the truth and don’t hold back! I Love it!

Once you have the opportunity to volunteer or work with children who live in poverty with a single parent who doesn’t give 2 rats a**** about them, you cannot understand how their life is so horrible. I always thought that everyone has a chance and can come out of anything, but I no longer feel this way. Most of the kids I volunteer with have NO hope. The system is patiently waiting for them and they cycle will repeat itself.

The children who are not adopted are thrown into foster care. If a child has a minor illness many people will not want them. Also, black children are the last to be adopted.

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on July 17, 2012 at 6:03pm

@Brii, this is a very good topic which I see both p.o.v. from both parties because there are pros and cons to both scenarios. At first, I was against abortion but now, I think it really is up to the girl/woman to determine if she wants to keep the baby for 9+ months or not. Religion should stay out of this and I'm hoping that whatever decision she ends up doing is what she feels is best for her.

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Permalink Reply by tnlady on July 17, 2012 at 6:11pm

If you are not going to be responsible for this kid financially or any other way it is none of your business what that CHILD does with HER potential baby. Everybody knows that having a child is not that simple so using it as a punishment is WRONG. I say abortion, because that is what she wants to do. If you want her to have the baby feel free to provide for it, if it is so important to you. People kill me with telling others how to run their lives and their bodies.

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Permalink Reply by Brii on July 18, 2012 at 10:50am

Ok y'all so yesterday my aunt (not her mother) stated that she would legally adopt the baby right and my mother stated she would help her 100% and all hell broke loose.

The 15 year old doesn't want that to happen she just rather have the procedure due to the fact that kids who were adopted always come back looking for their birth parents and she wouldn't want them adopting her because what if she decides after seeing the child she wants the child back or what if she tells the child the truth too soon?

The boys mother got wind of it and decides to show up and raise hell saying everything she could think of in order for the baby to be terminated and not damper her child's image. Apparently he's going to be a star athlete so my uncle and my aunt cussed her out and said this and I quote "Don't even worry he will be placed on child support GRANDMA!"  "Your raising a b**** instead of a man." Etc....

Her mother is mad as hell and wants the girl to keep the baby since she decided to make one. Which everybody stated she was too young for a child and if that was the case all the responsibility would fall on her shoulders rather than the 15 year olds.

** So as of now it's a big ass mess, but would you allow another member of your family to adopt your child?

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Permalink Reply by Eleven8 on July 18, 2012 at 11:13am

So they're turning down the option of the child living and having a good life all for "image"? That's a superficial reason to abort a life that you indeed laid down and helped create. I could see abortion of their were no other options but there are. She has an aunt who is willing to completely take that burden from her and she's worried about is the kid coming back down the line to find her? WTF? I'm sure what she's really concerned about is getting stretch marks and being fat in front of her teen friends.

And the little boy is going to be a star athlete and they don't want to ruin his image? F*** his image, it aint about him right now. If he cared about image he should have ripped open a gold wrapper before he started f****** all the girls in his high school.  His parents are idiots.

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Permalink Reply by miss cali on July 18, 2012 at 1:29pm

i think this is a unique situation, and definitely think she should have the baby; considering that she has family members willing to take on her "responsibility" full time. your aunts willingness to adopt the baby adds a solution to everyones problems. she gets a wake up call for her actions by having a child, an innocent child has the opportunity to thrive in a loving household, and she is still given the opportunity to do something with her life.

 

kids these days smh... when i was 16/17 i was terrified to even have my parents THINK i was fuccin so i put myself on birth control and stayed with condoms. because i would be sent to an early grave if i ever popped up pregnant. even now at 26 that would be a hard conversation to have if i wasnt in a serious relationship or married haha

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Permalink Reply by Brii on July 18, 2012 at 1:54pm

I'll let y'all know what happens by the end of the week I think she should let my aunt adopt due to the fact that she can't have kids and wants the baby so will see

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on July 18, 2012 at 1:54pm

Your little cousin is right. Most people want to know where they came from and why didn't you keep me. We got a few of those in my family too. If they think it is a mess now, let the aunty adopt that baby and see what a mess it will be in 14+ years from now. smh Good luck!

Brii said:

Ok y'all so yesterday my aunt (not her mother) stated that she would legally adopt the baby right and my mother stated she would help her 100% and all hell broke loose.

The 15 year old doesn't want that to happen she just rather have the procedure due to the fact that kids who were adopted always come back looking for their birth parents and she wouldn't want them adopting her because what if she decides after seeing the child she wants the child back or what if she tells the child the truth too soon?

The boys mother got wind of it and decides to show up and raise hell saying everything she could think of in order for the baby to be terminated and not damper her child's image. Apparently he's going to be a star athlete so my uncle and my aunt cussed her out and said this and I quote "Don't even worry he will be placed on child support GRANDMA!"  "Your raising a b**** instead of a man." Etc....

Her mother is mad as hell and wants the girl to keep the baby since she decided to make one. Which everybody stated she was too young for a child and if that was the case all the responsibility would fall on her shoulders rather than the 15 year olds.

** So as of now it's a big ass mess, but would you allow another member of your family to adopt your child?

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