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Permalink Reply by Ashley Banks on September 24, 2009 at 2:14pm

I know this sounds too easy, but I believe in being upfront with men. You can flirt and tease, but you have to watch what you're doing. If you're uncomfortable sleeping with a man you're not in a relationship with, then let him know. If you're only holding out for material things, then I believe it will backfire because it will show. I do not accept gifts, money, any kind of "charity" from a man I don't have an interest in seeing for an extended amount of time because they always expect something in return. Very few "ballers" will just hand any old woman anything. There are some fools out there, but hardworking men who know how to handle their business will not just give you a purse for showing up and going home later, leaving them to service themselves. Be honest with him, let him know how much you enjoy seeing him, but what your boundaries are. You need to carry yourself a certain way and stick to your word or you'll end up looking like a bigger fool in the end.

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Permalink Reply by The real vixxen on September 24, 2009 at 2:32pm

Last yr i was sleepin w this baller well It was getting me anywhere but a booty call sooo fastforward to this yr.. Any way he was hitting me up trying to get in my draws and I basicly told his ass look Im looking for something more than an off season thing .. I like you but I dont wanna play my self or lead you on .. End result Hes been on it ever since. Like AB said b upfront tell these dudes what you want and what your looking for..Plus you get more out of a dude w/out sleepin w him

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on September 24, 2009 at 3:38pm

I like & agree with your answer (applause)!!
Ashley Banks said:

I know this sounds too easy, but I believe in being upfront with men. You can flirt and tease, but you have to watch what you're doing. If you're uncomfortable sleeping with a man you're not in a relationship with, then let him know. If you're only holding out for material things, then I believe it will backfire because it will show. I do not accept gifts, money, any kind of "charity" from a man I don't have an interest in seeing for an extended amount of time because they always expect something in return. Very few "ballers" will just hand any old woman anything. There are some fools out there, but hardworking men who know how to handle their business will not just give you a purse for showing up and going home later, leaving them to service themselves. Be honest with him, let him know how much you enjoy seeing him, but what your boundaries are. You need to carry yourself a certain way and stick to your word or you'll end up looking like a bigger fool in the end.

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