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Permalink Reply by Cougar $pice on August 25, 2009 at 6:18pm

OR, should I keep ignoring him like I have been and not give this ninja the time of day? here's your answer & I'm not on FB, so I think you can just DELETE!!!!

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Permalink Reply by L0vie D0vie on August 25, 2009 at 6:36pm

EXACTLY!

Cougar $pice said:

OR, should I keep ignoring him like I have been and not give this ninja the time of day? here's your answer & I'm not on FB, so I think you can just DELETE!!!!

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Permalink Reply by The real vixxen on August 25, 2009 at 7:19pm

whyd you guys break up ?

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Permalink Reply by KJ on August 25, 2009 at 7:28pm

We just got in this massive fight in my house and he walked out. We haven't spoken since cause I refuse to be the one to patch things up. He was in the wrong in the argument...plus when he left he broke my door and pushed me around...

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Permalink Reply by Hello Kitty on August 25, 2009 at 7:45pm

If you want him to apologize, I would continue to ignore him in hopes that he realizes his lame ass comments don't mean shit and maybe he'll step up his game and actually say he's sorry. In the meantime, since you know he's stalking your page, it would be a great time to post updated gorgeous pics and be sure to let all your friends know how fabulous life is treating you these days! Or you can be sarcastic and ask him why he's on your FB page, since he obviously doesn't want to apologize for his ruffian behavior. Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by KJ on August 26, 2009 at 2:58am

I asked a co-worker what I should do and he said write an email. He said I should just tell him if he wants to talk then we can have coffee, or he knows how to reach me. And if not, then it is what it is. Not talking to him has left me with a lot of sadness and anger about the situation. And the co-worker said if I don't talk to him he will probably just keep posting comments...and its obviously been affecting me...I dunno it's just how I feel...

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Permalink Reply by Starr on August 26, 2009 at 3:11am

Since it is bothering you so much, I suggest you write an email and get all of your feelings out. However, this is not to be used as an attempt to win him back! Write it for closure and then block him from viewing your page/ delete him as a friend. Remove him from your life and move on. Let's not forget the very important part of this story. Dude put his hands on you. Although he only "pushed you around", pushing leads to shoving, shoving leads to slamming you up against the wall, which leads to fists, and who knows what else. He has already showed you who he is and that was the mild version. Count your blessings that he walked out. When a dude leaves, let him leave- permanently. He won't be the last dude you will meet. Allow yourself to be open for a better man to come along and take this time to heal and let go of all the negative emotions you got from this relationship. Learn from it and grow (but you can't do that if you take him back).

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on August 26, 2009 at 8:57am

If you absolutely need closure and think writing him will help attain it, then I agree with all of what Starr said, but if you're done with him & the situation then ignore his butt.
Starr said:

Since it is bothering you so much, I suggest you write an email and get all of your feelings out. However, this is not to be used as an attempt to win him back! Write it for closure and then block him from viewing your page/ delete him as a friend. Remove him from your life and move on. Let's not forget the very important part of this story. Dude put his hands on you. Although he only "pushed you around", pushing leads to shoving, shoving leads to slamming you up against the wall, which leads to fists, and who knows what else. He has already showed you who he is and that was the mild version. Count your blessings that he walked out. When a dude leaves, let him leave- permanently. He won't be the last dude you will meet. Allow yourself to be open for a better man to come along and take this time to heal and let go of all the negative emotions you got from this relationship. Learn from it and grow (but you can't do that if you take him back).

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Permalink Reply by Pretty Pussy on August 26, 2009 at 10:29am

When I am angry & frustrated I always begin to write! It helps to release the anger that I have inside. Sometimes I send it, sometimes I don't. It all depends on the amount of anger level I have inside. This way no confrontation is needed, and you can still get your point across w/o slapping the shit out of him! But, depending upon how long your relationship was sometimes makes the break-up anxiety alot harder. Just step outside yourself and ask, is this ninja really worth it? Can I forgive and also forget? Because we don't want you to wake up while he's laying next to you sleep and you beging to look at him and start SMHing and then just smush the pillow in his face until he stops breathing!!!

Good luck

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Permalink Reply by Kia Johnson on August 26, 2009 at 11:05am

If you want him back ignore his ass and that ego will make him come running back.

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Permalink Reply by Emerald on August 26, 2009 at 11:21am

Loose ends are never better left untied. Were you thinking of meeting with him for answers to the "fight"- why he disrespected you and your home?, or just to re-cap what happend? What do you have to get off of your chest? If it's just to recap and you want to move on then ignore his contact.

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Permalink Reply by DivaStar on August 27, 2009 at 10:29am

why do you want to be bothered with a dude who pushed you around, the ultimate disrespect...

KJ said:

We just got in this massive fight in my house and he walked out. We haven't spoken since cause I refuse to be the one to patch things up. He was in the wrong in the argument...plus when he left he broke my door and pushed me around...

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