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Am I Trippin?
Ok, so I don't have anyone to talk to about this. I need yall to let me know if I am trippin. I think super hard about everything and maybe I am doing the same with this.
I have a neice that is under four years old. She is a smart little girl and just an overall sweet heart. My sister lives with my mom and her fiance. My sister is over 25 but under 30.
My mom's fiance is a cool dude, but he is kinda weird to me. I like him even though he did some shady ish to my mom about five years ago, causing them to break up. if my mom can accept him back into her life, I feel that i should not rock the boat too much.
Anyway, when my neice was born, he was so glued to her. I know that babies have an allure to them and adults just love to hold them and kiss them. My "step father" used to have her all the time, and my sister would leave the baby with him, even though I told her she shouldn't. I thought he was too attached to the baby and I just didn't feel right about it. When I started to voice my concerns, my mom and sister got mad at me, so I kinda started keeping it to myself. They always be talking about me behind my back, but it's no biggie.
My "step father" have never really been present in his children's lives. He has a daughter that is like 30 and a son that is like 18 and he was not there for them. They dont call him on father's day, and he never talks about them.
Today, my sister needed help doing something and she wanted me to help her. She said that she had to wait for him to retun home so he could watch the baby. So before I could get there, he got back and took the baby to the store. When I got there he was pulling up and since he saw me, he told her that he was going take the baby to get something to eat while we did what we had to do. We would prob be gone for about an hour. I told her to have him take her with her daughter so they could all be together, she could do what she needed to do and the baby would not have to stay with him alone. I think that he was tryna get some alone time with the baby and that is why he took her to the store in the first place hoping that my sister would have found a ride while he was gone and then he and the baby would be alone until she came back.
Am I trippin? Dude is hella weird TO ME, but my family trusts him for some odd reason. also, he barely works. He is used to women taking care of him. He was unemployed for like 2 or 3 years, and just got two jobs cuz I was always talking s*** about grown men that dont work. So like three weeks ago, one of his jobs let him go. His day job. He still works a pt job nightly. He sits home all day unless I come over then he goes out like he's looking for a job but he really aint serious about it.
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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on -
It sounds to me like you don't like the man because everything you said has been negative. Regarding whether you are tripping or not, yeah, I think you are but the issues you are tripping about are serious so don't discount your first mind. I am unsure how you should handle this. Anyone else want to chime in?
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Permalink Reply by Desiree' on -
Sometimes we just have to go with our gut feeling if he freaks you out so much it may be a reason behind that. I have a daughter and i am very over protective with her but i rather be safe then sorry. My advice is to voice your opinion to your fam. Tell them how uncomfortable you are about this .
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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on
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I feel like I wanna ask them to go to steve wilkos! Lol but I am sooooo serious. I just feel like I'm right. Anyway, I can't say I love dude but I'm cool wit him. I try to be cool cuz me and my mom have fell out over him and its just not that serious to be arguing wit her so I don't say anything bad about him to her. I told them how I felt about this. Its hard for me to keep quiet about serious stuff so I could never hide what I thought about dude. I just don't say much cuz it will piss everybody off. I don't think what he may be doing anything that will hurt the baby physically now, but if it continues into her older years when she understand touching, it can really hurt her emotionally. And that is what I am most concerned about. I try to tell myself if my sister aint trippin, why should I be? Also I think I may just be skeptical of men being alone wit lil girls. Last week when cynthia said she would leave noel with peter while she went to africa I immediately thought: why the hell would she do that? Where is leon? Lol
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Permalink Reply by luvsmoochez on
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I don't think you are tripping at all, but you have voiced your opinion, so I don't think there is much more that you can do. It's so funny that you said that about Noel, cuz I thought the same thing! Not to be all up in yours, but were you molested or know of others? I know that my closest girlfriend and my oldest sister were molested and it makes me anxious about men and lil girls. I personally would not leave my daughter with any man that is not her father or my father (who use to keep her.) My dad was retired and was super excited about his first grand-child and of course his wife was doing most of the work. So let's just hope your 'step-dad' is looking at the baby as an opportunity to be something he wasnt to his own children. I hope that's it.
Love is a Losing Game said:I feel like I wanna ask them to go to steve wilkos! Lol but I am sooooo serious. I just feel like I'm right. Anyway, I can't say I love dude but I'm cool wit him. I try to be cool cuz me and my mom have fell out over him and its just not that serious to be arguing wit her so I don't say anything bad about him to her. I told them how I felt about this. Its hard for me to keep quiet about serious stuff so I could never hide what I thought about dude. I just don't say much cuz it will piss everybody off. I don't think what he may be doing anything that will hurt the baby physically now, but if it continues into her older years when she understand touching, it can really hurt her emotionally. And that is what I am most concerned about. I try to tell myself if my sister aint trippin, why should I be? Also I think I may just be skeptical of men being alone wit lil girls. Last week when cynthia said she would leave noel with peter while she went to africa I immediately thought: why the hell would she do that? Where is leon? Lol -
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Yea, I'm going to hope that he just want to right is past wrongs. I was not molested, but I know a person close to me who was and it's sad. I don't want the lil girl to have issues stemming from something as preventable as this.
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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on
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Hmph, FIRST thing I thought of was, that baby probably his!
The baby is 4, your mom been dealing with him for 5 years. Has your sister been living with them the entire time?
Now, mt daughter's father was/is super attached to her, so he would have no problem watching her over anybody else. He had a problem with me having one of my family members watch her when I jad to work or whatever instead of him!
Maybe he sees now as his opportunity to do what he didnt do for his older kids and do it now for HIS 4 year old. (Your sister's kid)
I just cant see somebody that's not even blood related doing all that for a baby. Do you know who your sister was dealing with that got her pregnant and he's not around or what?
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Lmao, girl I thought I was a deep thinker or super analyzer lol. No he's not the dad. She had just finished grad school when she moved back home to have the baby closer to family.
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oh, ok. Are you an Aquarius cuz I think too hard on stuff too! LOL
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My bro is an aquarius too. I love his thought process. He is so smart and makes so much sense when I ask him about stuff
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Permalink Reply by MissBling on -
Did you ask your niece if anybody has been touching her private parts? I do see where you are coming from but don't think just because he is not blood related he can't be trusted. I do think that he trying to right his wrongs through your niece. My mom's ex boyfriend loved me like his own flesh and blood. I was always w/ him, even out of town. He never tried anything weird.
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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on -
I'm a Aquarius (happy birthday)
Honeycoated said:oh, ok. Are you an Aquarius cuz I think too hard on stuff too! LOL
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No I haven't asked her about touching. I think she is too young to understand what I would be trying to say. She did say that he was naked one day, but I kinda brushed it off. She hasn't said anything else in that context. Is there a way I can get him polygraph tested? Oh yea: happy b day aquarius! Lol
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