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And the Controversy Continues...This Time over Jeremih's "Birthday Sex" Video

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I ganked this from NecoleBitchie.com I hate to bring up the race card but I found it interesting that there was even controversy over the video. I thought it was an ok video, but had no idea women were displeased with the fact that the leading lady was not a black woman. So a rep for Jeremih sent in a letter to necolebitchie. com (Check the link for the original page and the uncut video featuring sistah's...http://necolebitchie.com/2009/06/03/bitchie-mail-who-is-vashtie-kol...)


Necole, I know Jeremih and appreciate you featuring him on your blog, however I don’t appreciate the comments that people are leaving about him choosing a non-black model as the lead for his new video. He chose a few dark skinned models to be featured in his video. You can search for the photos, they are all over the web and see for yourself. People that are not in the music business would not understand that sometimes the final outcome of the video is not solely up to the artist, but also their label and the entire team pushing the project. I just wanted to straighten that out because it’s unfair that a beautiful video is overshadowed by this whole “race” issue. Especially in 2009. Keep up the good work!


One of the responding comments:

First of all, ain't nobody say shit about choosing a dark skinned girl. We said a BLACK girl period. That chick was no where near black and not even mixed with black, but yet ya'll promoting all his shit on black sites, black radio, black entertainment television...hello!!?? If you want black ppl to buy your stupid albums, and ringtones, and all that other stuff, start catering to OUR culture, and OUR uplifting of BLACK PEOPLE. That goes to JEREMIH and HIS TEAM. And second of all, we are not idiots, we know that the ONE maybe TWO dark skinned girls you hired where probably extra's, and did not have lead roles. None of them were in the scenes similar to the "lovely" leading lady. So please, if you want to cater to white people, then do that. But don't sugar coat all this fuckery with "oh we hired two black girls (out of like 10), and they didn't get in the final cut." I'm tired of these stupid record labels exploiting black women, always in thongs and on stripper poles with they asses out and shit, and the second it comes to a classy, fashionable, respectable, lead role with hair, makeup, and styling included, they choose a WHITE GIRL. And lastly please stop with the "IT'S 2009" shit. That sounds dumb. So what? Since it's 2009 we are supposed to shut the fuck up and ignore the fact black women are being exploited and disrespected, and treated like pieces of meat? While our male counterparts live it up in videos that only feature white women and Latina women as the emblem of beauty? Oh since it's 2009 we are suppose to swallow the pain and act as if we don't see and hear the comments made by the likes of Yung Berg, and others that we (as black women) are not good enough? Oh because it's 2009 we are all supposed to start hating ourselves and adoring the skin and hair, and looks of non black races and continue on with smiles on our faces like we don't see anything. No sweetie! IT’S 2009, therefore black artists should show some love and appreciation for THEY’RE RACE, WHAT THEY CAME FROM, THEY'RE MOTHERS, THEY'RE SISTERS, and take the opportunity that THEY have, which so little get, and shed some light on what is beautiful in OUR COMMUNITY. It's 2009, therefore black people should embrace love with EACH OTHER and show examples of strong, happy, loving, families and marriages, and unions between blacks; which is so often not seen, which our children in under developed communities need to see, so THAT we can grow, and get to a place were we love each other and love being black. So that maybe one day, when we see a black man holding hands, and loving a white women, it will no longer be painful. Because we know that we have had that, and that we do have that! When our brothers-that we have for so long honored and stood up for, and protected, and held high like kings on a pedestal will one day do the same for us.

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A lot of famous women have gotten their start or recognition from appearing in artists videos, including Halle Berry(R. Kelly's Honey Love), Jennifer Lopez(Janet Jackson'sThat's the Way Love Goes), and Beyonce(Case's Happily Ever After). And hell most people don't even know Meagan Goode from the movies Friday or Eve's Bayou, but only know her from 50's 21 Questions video. Yes the song is about sex, however, the woman was fully dressed and was not doing anything explicit. Sex is only a bad thing if you're underage or sleeping around and not using protection. Marvin Gaye did a song called Sexual Healing and I don't know many old schoolers, no matter if they're attorneys, doctors, or whatever who don't love that song. Everyone is not going to become a doctor or a lawyer. It is entertainment, however videos can and have been stepping stones for people to break off into other things.

And I agree kids shouldn't be listening to this song or watching the video, but that has nothing to do with my real point.

scmami said:
I want to first say I understand where everyone is coming from and your opinions have a lot of validity to them because of the obvious constant struggle in this society.

Now my opinion is that this is a damn music video promoting sex and promiscuity. Is that how you want black women featured? People are mad b/c the woman who is featured in this explicit song is not black and yet if she was, how would this uplift the community? What would it teach our sons and daughters? That she got $500 to be all over this man, hey sweetie, when you get 18, you can do that too??? If these songs weren't so damn explicit and sexually suggestive, then I can understand, but since a majority of them are about sex, drugs, money, and violence on BET, how is that uplifting the community?

When I have a child, my son/daughter will not be watching BET, will not be watching MTV, they will be watching CNN, BBC, HIstory Channel, Nova, Discovery Channel. and when the commercials come on, they will see commercials with women and men of all shades (b/c ad agencies are getting it right now a days), news broadcasters of all shades and a president, because he will be our president for 8 years, of just the right shade that everyone can identify with.

Forget RACE, look at the people, and as an adult, I love Jeremih's song but it is not an example for my (future) kids, its an adult song and adults should censor what their children watch, so that they help them grow. But if you can't forget race, pick your battles. Being a latina, I can't stand any music videos that show women of all shades being exploited for their butts and curves, but I'm not going to fight the music video industry b/c the songs out do not represent what i feel is the example I want set forth. I would fight the ad agencies, the toy makers, and news reporters, b/c thats what a majority of television is and in those I want equality and equal representation.

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LOL And Diddy/Puffy whatever you want to call him was a background dancer for I think it was Father MC...so I know videos can be a stepping stone.The chick who used to play Lily on The Young and the Restless was in a Bow Wow video before she got the role...so I know videos can be a stepping stone. I've been in the entertainment business(taking a break while I'm in school) and every little thing on your resume helps.

Madison said:
Angelina Jolie was just a background dancer in one of Lenny Kravitz's videos as well, before she made it big.

Damnstraight said:
A lot of famous women have gotten their start or recognition from appearing in artists videos, including Halle Berry(R. Kelly's Honey Love), Jennifer Lopez(Janet Jackson'sThat's the Way Love Goes), and Beyonce(Case's Happily Ever After). And hell most people don't even know Meagan Goode from the movies Friday or Eve's Bayou, but only know her from 50's 21 Questions video. Yes the song is about sex, however, the woman was fully dressed and was not doing anything explicit. Sex is only a bad thing if you're underage or sleeping around and not using protection. Marvin Gaye did a song called Sexual Healing and I don't know many old schoolers, no matter if they're attorneys, doctors, or whatever who don't love that song. Everyone is not going to become a doctor or a lawyer. It is entertainment, however videos can and have been stepping stones for people to break off into other things.

And I agree kids shouldn't be listening to this song or watching the video, but that has nothing to do with my real point.

scmami said:
I want to first say I understand where everyone is coming from and your opinions have a lot of validity to them because of the obvious constant struggle in this society.

Now my opinion is that this is a damn music video promoting sex and promiscuity. Is that how you want black women featured? People are mad b/c the woman who is featured in this explicit song is not black and yet if she was, how would this uplift the community? What would it teach our sons and daughters? That she got $500 to be all over this man, hey sweetie, when you get 18, you can do that too??? If these songs weren't so damn explicit and sexually suggestive, then I can understand, but since a majority of them are about sex, drugs, money, and violence on BET, how is that uplifting the community?

When I have a child, my son/daughter will not be watching BET, will not be watching MTV, they will be watching CNN, BBC, HIstory Channel, Nova, Discovery Channel. and when the commercials come on, they will see commercials with women and men of all shades (b/c ad agencies are getting it right now a days), news broadcasters of all shades and a president, because he will be our president for 8 years, of just the right shade that everyone can identify with.

Forget RACE, look at the people, and as an adult, I love Jeremih's song but it is not an example for my (future) kids, its an adult song and adults should censor what their children watch, so that they help them grow. But if you can't forget race, pick your battles. Being a latina, I can't stand any music videos that show women of all shades being exploited for their butts and curves, but I'm not going to fight the music video industry b/c the songs out do not represent what i feel is the example I want set forth. I would fight the ad agencies, the toy makers, and news reporters, b/c thats what a majority of television is and in those I want equality and equal representation.

Love yall!

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ok. I understand what your saying, but I feel like you missed the part in the response about black love. I don't think in BET is where we are looking for black love, b/c I see brothas daily that are walking down the streets with they're white trophy, I see it in the clubs when the athletes and ballers only allow non black chicks in they're section, I see it in hollywood when actors blatantly claim they only date white women, I see it in personals ads when brothers say "single Black male looking for SWF." it's all over, not just in videos. This is not a BET issue, it's a black issue. It takes growth, and we have to love ourselves, and each other before we can love other races. How many businesses are majority black owned? And how many businesses are majority asian and white owned? White people, asian, latino people all look out for each other but black people don't do it. So all the response is saying is that we should look out for each more so our kids can grow up w/o hang ups about being black.

Gia said:
I haven't seen the video yet.

However, I understand how the person that responded felt and where they were coming from. But, ummm, WHO CARES?!?

I do have 1 gripe though. Why do people relate being "BLACK" to doing "BLACK" things?? What are "BLACK" things??? What makes you think that because a person is african american that they are supposed to automatically fit into these stereotypes? We cannot help the color of our skin or who our parents are. If this man was Asian, yall would either ignore it or all him a wanna be...

I'm just sayin'. Beauty comes in all shapes and colors.

"...black people should embrace love with EACH OTHER and show examples of strong, happy, loving, families and marriages, and unions between blacks; which is so often not seen, which our children in under developed communities need to see, so THAT we can grow, and get to a place were we love each other and love being black."---- BISH, if you are showing BET in your home for your children to see, YOU HAVE FAILED AS A PARENT. I'm sureeee that you think your children are getting excellent examples of positivity and black love for their future development into adults by being entertained by Soulja "Coon" Boy Tellem, Bow Wow, Young Jeezy, etc.

We have an excellent example of "black love" everyday on CNN!!! But, with this mentality, you probably think President Obama's parents should NOT have gotten together too. Some people need to wake up.-- From a brown skinned chica =)

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You sisters hit it right on the money !!! You have to hit them where it hurts ...... right in the pockets !!! If you don't like what's going on , then boycott their asses and show them that you mean business !!! Don't support their CD's and videos and stop being extras , refuse the roles and stop letting them exploit you ! At some point we have to take responsibility for being enablers , the only way to stop it is to stop being a part of it ! If we do that , you would be surprised how fast things change for the better .

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i think we're gonna have to agree to disagree on that one... D. Howard looks nothing like that turtle called Pleasure P.

Madison said:
I just saw the video the girl looks just like Adriana Lima from VS and no a** btw.. of course cut to Rosci ...I think second time ever watching 106 and Park who has no a** either between Pleasure P (if D.Howard was 5'4 he'd look like him) and that fool Terrence ..

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