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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on October 3, 2011 at 11:24pm

omg that s*** used to burn me up....she would wash her clothes but noone elses....and hence why shes an ex.

DJ - A.K.A - DON_JUAN said:

so who washes the dirty clothes?? damn u gotta be able to atleast make some hamburger helper and throw some clothes in the washing machine #goddamn lol

blackfujones said:

yikes...both of my exes dont cook nor do laundry nor any outside work at all.

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on October 3, 2011 at 11:28pm

If we both have to work to support the family the duties will be shared. If he's the breadwinner (and I get a generous allowance) I won't mind doing those things. But I ain't gonna do a full days work, come home and be expected to do it all by myself. Housework is boring, monotonous and hard. If it's shared it's not so bad.

This is not like the past where women didn't work. Let's not kid ourselves, we're not from our parents or our grandparents generation.

 

 

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on October 3, 2011 at 11:32pm

and heres the thing that gets lost....some folks dont want to share even if they get an allowance. As much as I love to spend I love to save so everybodies gotta kick in lol.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

If we both have to work to support the family the duties will be shared. If he's the breadwinner (and I get a generous allowance) I won't mind doing those things. But I ain't gonna do a full days work, come home and be expected to do it all by myself. Housework is boring, monotonous and hard. If it's shared it's not so bad.

This is not like the past where women didn't work. Let's not kid ourselves, we're not from our parents or our grandparents generation.

 

 

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on October 3, 2011 at 11:41pm

I can only speak for myself. I know what I can live with.

blackfujones said:

and heres the thing that gets lost....some folks dont want to share even if they get an allowance. As much as I love to spend I love to save so everybodies gotta kick in lol.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

If we both have to work to support the family the duties will be shared. If he's the breadwinner (and I get a generous allowance) I won't mind doing those things. But I ain't gonna do a full days work, come home and be expected to do it all by myself. Housework is boring, monotonous and hard. If it's shared it's not so bad.

This is not like the past where women didn't work. Let's not kid ourselves, we're not from our parents or our grandparents generation.

 

 

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on October 4, 2011 at 12:57am

*puke*

I hate it when a guy i'm dealing with wans to swing by and be like you want some Lawrence's? I be like Ummmm, i guess. I cant stand the batter on the shrimp!

 

Anyway, your relationship with my ex sounds like me and my ex. Hell, I was 21, never really cooked that much and didnt know how to cook for a man. My mom cooked, she didnt make much fried food. If we wanted some fried chiken , we went right across the street to Popeyes. So when me and my ex go together, him going to C.H.I.C and all ( idont think he finished) and being somewhat of a food snob, it was an adjustment when we moved in together on my 7th or 8th month of pregnancy.

 

I was the youngest, spoiled, didnt know nothing about living with a man (an my mom sisnt pull me to the side and give me any pointers), letalong cooking for one. If I was hungry, I was ok with popping in a pizza or making enough just for me. He showed me some things, making sauce from scratch, he was shocked i didnt know how to fry chicken (liek I said, if i wanted some, i went and bought some) and my mom sisnt make s*** like that, no neckbones, fried chicken, etc. Sometimes, if I saw something on FoodNetwork, i would look it up online an dfollow the recipe.

 

BUT, alot of the reason I didnt do much for him is because I didnt love him. Didnt really care. Looking back, if I was into him as much as he was into me, the house would be spotless, i'd be looking good as if I never liffted a finger. But I didnt care. I knew he was into me way more than I was into him and thought he wasnt going anywhere.

Maybe that was some of the case with your ex? You probably was soooo into her doing all this food prep and shyt, plus maybe she was just sheltered, i think you mentioned this, hadnt experienced life yet

blackfujones said:

Hopefully..But its just some things that you take the reigns in and just start doing.  But I knew if I didnt cook the kids and I would never eat, and they wouldnt eat healthy if she did do it.  And im glad I did bc both of my girls really hate eating fast foods.  If we go out it has to be a scouted out restaurant with great reviews...and no chain restaurants at all.  For instance...if you would ask my eldest whats the best spot for seafood in chicago she'd tell you that pappadeux is horrrible, lawrences fishery is so so ...but the maple tree inn thats in no mans land that noone has heard of is bangin lol
temptin_destiny said:

I agree with you. I know if we do married then I will have to submitt to certain things. He cooks just as well as I do so im not worried about the food thing. Hopefully it will be split but we will see.  

blackfujones said:

IMO when youre married (not a serious relationship but married) everyone submits to a degree.  So if he absolutely is TERRIBLE at cooking and you're better at it then more than likely youre gonna hold that down.  Unless you plan on eating out every night (which is absolutely ridiculous and not healthy)...thas jus my opinion.
temptin_destiny said:

Yeah me and outside work don't happen unless im in the mood. I'm ok with cooking sometimes I just don't like being obligated to it.  
blackfujones said:

yikes...both of my exes dont cook nor do laundry nor any outside work at all.

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Permalink Reply by tru2this on October 4, 2011 at 1:29am

Growing up with just a brother I was the woman of the house then he got married when I was 13 but she didn't cook or clean lol I cooked 3 meals a day and cleaned the house My first husband made great money and I only did hair when I felt like it so I was usually at home cooking cleaning and taking care of the kid. Fried pork chops fried cabbage baked macaroni sweet potatoes and fried corn was an every day meal for us. Now in my 2nd marriage all of that is a wrap lol. His sister comes over and cooks cleans and watches my son while I'm out. I'm a spender so I do what I can to make up for what I spent lol

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Permalink Reply by tricha tbd on October 4, 2011 at 2:38am

yeah I must admit im not domesticated either. I cant cook... Id prefer to pay someone to clean.. dang and I wonder why im single lol. But honestly my mother did everything for me so I guess thats why I am the way I am.

 

Im sure the argument could be I can teach myself to cook etc. :)

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Permalink Reply by tricha tbd on October 4, 2011 at 2:40am

lol wow you cooked 3 meals a day dangggg your my hero lol

tru2this said:

Growing up with just a brother I was the woman of the house then he got married when I was 13 but she didn't cook or clean lol I cooked 3 meals a day and cleaned the house My first husband made great money and I only did hair when I felt like it so I was usually at home cooking cleaning and taking care of the kid. Fried pork chops fried cabbage baked macaroni sweet potatoes and fried corn was an every day meal for us. Now in my 2nd marriage all of that is a wrap lol. His sister comes over and cooks cleans and watches my son while I'm out. I'm a spender so I do what I can to make up for what I spent lol

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on October 4, 2011 at 3:49am

Nah this negro was just lazy...Her mom cooked but wasnt a very good cook.  Now that I look at it, all the men in their family do more than the women.  Which I guess works in their favor until the men either leave or cheat.  Bc its only 2 women in her family thats married

Honeycoated said:

*puke*

I hate it when a guy i'm dealing with wans to swing by and be like you want some Lawrence's? I be like Ummmm, i guess. I cant stand the batter on the shrimp!

 

Anyway, your relationship with my ex sounds like me and my ex. Hell, I was 21, never really cooked that much and didnt know how to cook for a man. My mom cooked, she didnt make much fried food. If we wanted some fried chiken , we went right across the street to Popeyes. So when me and my ex go together, him going to C.H.I.C and all ( idont think he finished) and being somewhat of a food snob, it was an adjustment when we moved in together on my 7th or 8th month of pregnancy.

 

I was the youngest, spoiled, didnt know nothing about living with a man (an my mom sisnt pull me to the side and give me any pointers), letalong cooking for one. If I was hungry, I was ok with popping in a pizza or making enough just for me. He showed me some things, making sauce from scratch, he was shocked i didnt know how to fry chicken (liek I said, if i wanted some, i went and bought some) and my mom sisnt make s*** like that, no neckbones, fried chicken, etc. Sometimes, if I saw something on FoodNetwork, i would look it up online an dfollow the recipe.

 

BUT, alot of the reason I didnt do much for him is because I didnt love him. Didnt really care. Looking back, if I was into him as much as he was into me, the house would be spotless, i'd be looking good as if I never liffted a finger. But I didnt care. I knew he was into me way more than I was into him and thought he wasnt going anywhere.

Maybe that was some of the case with your ex? You probably was soooo into her doing all this food prep and shyt, plus maybe she was just sheltered, i think you mentioned this, hadnt experienced life yet

blackfujones said:

Hopefully..But its just some things that you take the reigns in and just start doing.  But I knew if I didnt cook the kids and I would never eat, and they wouldnt eat healthy if she did do it.  And im glad I did bc both of my girls really hate eating fast foods.  If we go out it has to be a scouted out restaurant with great reviews...and no chain restaurants at all.  For instance...if you would ask my eldest whats the best spot for seafood in chicago she'd tell you that pappadeux is horrrible, lawrences fishery is so so ...but the maple tree inn thats in no mans land that noone has heard of is bangin lol
temptin_destiny said:

I agree with you. I know if we do married then I will have to submitt to certain things. He cooks just as well as I do so im not worried about the food thing. Hopefully it will be split but we will see.  

blackfujones said:

IMO when youre married (not a serious relationship but married) everyone submits to a degree.  So if he absolutely is TERRIBLE at cooking and you're better at it then more than likely youre gonna hold that down.  Unless you plan on eating out every night (which is absolutely ridiculous and not healthy)...thas jus my opinion.
temptin_destiny said:

Yeah me and outside work don't happen unless im in the mood. I'm ok with cooking sometimes I just don't like being obligated to it.  
blackfujones said:

yikes...both of my exes dont cook nor do laundry nor any outside work at all.

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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on October 4, 2011 at 8:23am

Amen sista!

Cleaning is my big thing. I don't enjoy cooking, but ill do it.

Mello826BA aka BAGroupie said:

I do it all from cooking to cleaning. I dont have kids but will babysit my friends kids in a heartbeat. My mom told me no man wants a woman that can't keep house, but that doesn't mean imma be his personal slave either

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on October 4, 2011 at 9:14am

Awwww, you are making some great memories for them that they will always cherish. I, however, will continue to hate yard work. lol

blackfujones said:

lol..i enjoy it actually.  my gram always did yard work so I took to it to a degree....plus i got a big ass backyard so me and my daughters ride on the riding lawnmower in the summer..than in the fall we make a haunted trail n the backyard n use the lawnmower to ride around with their friends

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

Both my parents could cook so me and my sisters had no choice but to know how to cook, clean, and do yard work. I hate yard work which is why when I get around to buying it will be a condo.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on October 4, 2011 at 9:26am

I am extremely domesticated but that was how I was raised... I have been cooking since I was 7. On my Dad's side all of the women have cooked & baked and sewn... My grandmother is 90 and still goes to the family bakery to make Roti on Saturdays. I am very traditional in that sense. The men on my dad's side also cook and on my Mom's side the women all cook. With my husband and I he doesn't cook and I prefer it that way i am territorial about my kitchen I hate when he is in my way when I am cooking... as for the cleaning he helps (he could always do more) I prefer the tradiional roles in my marriage. I have a lot of friends that can not cook they were never taught or they were raised on a lot of premade stuff. Onf of the biggest complaints from my brother (he is 25) is that women he meets can't cook to save their life. I blame my mom for not making him learn he has a hard way to go.

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