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Permalink Reply by AllyNWonderland on March 8, 2012 at 4:16pm

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CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

*shrug* No harm in checking balances, I just don't know why you want to. If you need something then go get it but I wouldn't worry about how much money he has as long as he is sharing it with you.

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Permalink Reply by McKenna Hylton on March 8, 2012 at 4:17pm

+1

This is like the gospel truth!!

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

I am not trying to be smart but trying to understand why the 20-somethings spend so much time researching finances. My man hands me credit cards and cash. I am not asking another damn question. I am not checking balances. If I feel the need to buy something I will whip his cards out. If it gets declined, then I will whip out my own.

When I get home, I will hand him the offending card and tell him he needs to handle that and keep it moving. To quote a favorite song of mine: God bless the child that's got its own.

Only thing I research is whether or not our likes and dislikes mesh and STD/STI status. Everything else, from wives, hidden gfs and kids will come to light without me spending time, energy and emotion researching. Stop wasting your energy and concentrate on what is important.

You are alone for the next two weeks in Miami with cash and credit cards. Find something to do that will impress him when he returns and asks what you've been up to. Stay out of the clubs. Hit some galleries, fund raisers, do some job hunting, business scouting, etc. Do something productive with your time.

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on March 8, 2012 at 4:43pm

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

I am not trying to be smart but trying to understand why the 20-somethings spend so much time researching finances. My man hands me credit cards and cash. I am not asking another damn question. I am not checking balances. If I feel the need to buy something I will whip his cards out. If it gets declined, then I will whip out my own.

When I get home, I will hand him the offending card and tell him he needs to handle that and keep it moving. To quote a favorite song of mine: God bless the child that's got its own.

Only thing I research is whether or not our likes and dislikes mesh and STD/STI status. Everything else, from wives, hidden gfs and kids will come to light without me spending time, energy and emotion researching. Stop wasting your energy and concentrate on what is important.

You are alone for the next two weeks in Miami with cash and credit cards. Find something to do that will impress him when he returns and asks what you've been up to. Stay out of the clubs. Hit some galleries, fund raisers, do some hunting, business scouting, etc. Do something productive with your time.

 

 

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 8, 2012 at 5:08pm

MissBling said:

Off topic but.... Girl!! Did you uproot your baby too?

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on March 8, 2012 at 6:00pm

BUY WHAT YOU NEED, but dont do balance inquiries, cuz he can see that you checking to see how much money he has.  A friend of mine told me to get some money from the ATM, I did, then did a balance inquiry..he called me within 5 minutes and was like..I saw you do a balance inquiry - I was speechless for a minute, then i just laughed

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Permalink Reply by MissBling on March 8, 2012 at 8:37pm

Where is your fam and your baby daddy? The thing is that once you are with child you have to tweak your way of thinking and moving. Please hurry and set yourself up so you won't be solely dependent on this man. Were you initially going to move to Miami and if so with who? The fact that he is introducing you to his fam as his wife seems creepy to me. You need to get some kind of job so the money you make you can put it away, you need to have a stash just in case you end up in too deep and have to make some changes. Just use his cards for necessities for you and your daughter. If you do buy something out of the ordinary, tell him first. You want him to be ale to trust you w/ his money and you don't want him to be able to hold any purchases over your head like a debt. Just remember NOTHING in life is free. Be safe, chica!

PrettyPretty said:

Yea,she is with me it was hard in Atlanta I had zero family there and no friends really but I know more people in Miami so its easier


MissBling said:

Off topic but.... Girl!! Did you uproot your baby too?

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on March 8, 2012 at 8:44pm

I totally agree with this! And hey @prettypretty! *waves really hard*

MissBling said:

Where is your fam and your baby daddy? The thing is that once you are with child you have to tweak your way of thinking and moving. Please hurry and set yourself up so you won't be solely dependent on this man. Were you initially going to move to Miami and if so with who? The fact that he is introducing you to his fam as his wife seems creepy to me. You need to get some kind of job so the money you make you can put it away, you need to have a stash just in case you end up in too deep and have to make some changes. Just use his cards for necessities for you and your daughter. If you do buy something out of the ordinary, tell him first. You want him to be ale to trust you w/ his money and you don't want him to be able to hold any purchases over your head like a debt. Just remember NOTHING in life is free. Be safe, chica!
PrettyPretty said:

Yea,she is with me it was hard in Atlanta I had zero family there and no friends really but I know more people in Miami so its easier

MissBling said:

Off topic but.... Girl!! Did you uproot your baby too?

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Permalink Reply by PlaneJaneLane on March 8, 2012 at 10:24pm

I agree. Don't check his balances. Just get what you need and keep it moving.

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on March 8, 2012 at 11:56pm

I TOTALLY agree with the bolded part. These men will sell you a dream. And it may not seem like it because he is being so generous. You may have lucked up and got  yourself a white knight in shining armour, but dont get too comfortable. Start getting into your sewing and designs. Unless you want to be a kept woman or you'd like to be a housewife that walks around the house in a satin robe with those fuzzy kitten heel slippers and a martini in one hand
 
MissBling said:

Where is your fam and your baby daddy? The thing is that once you are with child you have to tweak your way of thinking and moving. Please hurry and set yourself up so you won't be solely dependent on this man. Were you initially going to move to Miami and if so with who? The fact that he is introducing you to his fam as his wife seems creepy to me. You need to get some kind of job so the money you make you can put it away, you need to have a stash just in case you end up in too deep and have to make some changes. Just use his cards for necessities for you and your daughter. If you do buy something out of the ordinary, tell him first. You want him to be ale to trust you w/ his money and you don't want him to be able to hold any purchases over your head like a debt. Just remember NOTHING in life is free. Be safe, chica!

PrettyPretty said:

Yea,she is with me it was hard in Atlanta I had zero family there and no friends really but I know more people in Miami so its easier


MissBling said:

Off topic but.... Girl!! Did you uproot your baby too?

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on March 9, 2012 at 12:08am

Watch out for ur lil girl too.....yall know me :-)....don't get blinded by nice gestures.

MissBling said:

Where is your fam and your baby daddy? The thing is that once you are with child you have to tweak your way of thinking and moving. Please hurry and set yourself up so you won't be solely dependent on this man. Were you initially going to move to Miami and if so with who? The fact that he is introducing you to his fam as his wife seems creepy to me. You need to get some kind of job so the money you make you can put it away, you need to have a stash just in case you end up in too deep and have to make some changes. Just use his cards for necessities for you and your daughter. If you do buy something out of the ordinary, tell him first. You want him to be ale to trust you w/ his money and you don't want him to be able to hold any purchases over your head like a debt. Just remember NOTHING in life is free. Be safe, chica!

PrettyPretty said:

Yea,she is with me it was hard in Atlanta I had zero family there and no friends really but I know more people in Miami so its easier


MissBling said:

Off topic but.... Girl!! Did you uproot your baby too?

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Permalink Reply by Golden Child on March 9, 2012 at 1:55am

I'd at least call the number on the back of the card and check the balance but I wouldn't go stupid and spend up the money even if he does have it. He's testing you to see if he can trust you. 

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on March 9, 2012 at 8:53am

 Please be careful of your little girl. If she begins to act differently or anything. Hit me up cuz I taze first and don't stick around to be asked no questions. I am not in any way attacking you because I know what it is like to be a single mother. It is the hardest most rewarding job in the World, but you have to make sure that she is straight before you are. So please pay attention to her behavior and watch how involved you let his family get with her. You have uprooted her and they maybe nice ppl, but if you have to bounce on his ass. You don't want her to have to miss people who she doesn’t really know. 

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