Ok so I just realized that the women of BA might be my secret weapon in helping me handle something lol. I'll try to keep it as short as possible...


I'm gonna ask you to put yourself in the shoes of my fiance lol.......


You're a 21 year old woman working 10 hours a day with no kids. You moved away from all your family & friends so that you can now live with your soon-to-be husband & you've been doing so for the past year successfully. The only problem is that lately you havent been having much time to spend with your man since both of you have time-demanding jobs and this has lead to your relationship being under strain lately. You now live in a town with not much going for it in the way of nightlife & attractions, which is a big change for you because you grew up in the Los Angeles area where there's normally always lots to do. You've been with your fiance for nearly 3 years now altogether & your relationship has always thrived on spontaneity and laughter.


Now for the question: Taking all of this into account, what are some spontaneous/sweet/creative things that your man could do for you or with you either at home or out around town to add some excitement or joy into your evenings within the time/location restraints of how you're living? Romantic things, fun activities, unique ideas, things that would make you feel like you are making the most out of the limited time that you two have to spend together & getting a much-needed refresher in the relationship


My bag of tricks is a little low at the moment so if you ladies could help me out I'd really appreciate it!!


Thanks in advance!

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got anything for me ladies?
How sweet of you to be taking the lead on adding the spark back to your relationship!!! I don't have anything for you at this moment , but I will be back with some ideas :)
i try lol, and thanks!
Does your city offer helicopter rides of the city? Near water? (sunset cruise/dinner cruise), movies in the park, walking tour at the garden (if your city has a botanical garden), hotair balloon ride, carriage ride, sporting event w/awesome seats and have a special message displayed on the scoreboard(most teams will do this for a fee), two personbike ride tour, find a rooftop lounge and watch the sunset while having drinks, paint your own pottery shop, make your own cupcake/dessert date...

Its hard to give suggestion without knowing your city.

Google: Fun things to do in (your city). You'd be surprised what pops up.
I personally find it nice when someone does something they haven't done in a long time like what he did to first get me.....Sometimes people get complacent think about somethings you did in the beginning that you use to do that you stopped doing or something she constantly complains about (if she does)
I know where i live we have the weekender paper that tells whats goin on. check out the living section in the newspaper and it should tell u of different thing going on such as crawfish festivals, jazz conerts, and things like that. a lot of ppl dont know so they dont go to these type of things. also try go online and type in events in your cty. Try a picnic @ a park, lake or s.thing. do you fish? has she ever been? even if yall dont catch anything, just being together and trying may work. go to a nearby city and see what they have goin on. plan a night with friends or other couples playing board games and cards. plan a massage, pampering night for her with you doing all the pampering...it may not be righ tbu tjst the thought and u guys should have fun doing it.
Mini-Golf... Its fun and it can be romantic... It will give you two the chance to feel like kids again :-) I looked it up (your profile mentions Bakersfield) and there's a glow in the dark mini-golf place in your area....
Awwww Rev.......I think you've just tied the Don for my favorite dude on here lol
Ooooo! I have some cousins going through something similar (they've moved to a small town that is just DEAD on the nights and weekends). What you can do is talk to a few businesses that offer things she likes, and plan a scavenger hunt, and she'll go to each one and they'll have something you've bought/arranged waiting for her. My cousin is a girly girl, plays volleyball, and sings in her church's choir. Her husband had her clues set up similar to this:

1) Go purchase new volleyball equipment w/a gift card for about $25 for her to get some shorts/knee pads
2) Go to music store and purchase new music books and CDs w/another gift card
3) Go get a manicure and a pedicure (he paid for the services in advance)
4) Go have lunch at Restaurant X and he met her at the restaurant and they had a nice lunch and went somewhere else.

I know they are on a budget, so he had to figure out how to scrape up $150 out of their tight budget on payday. He also did it as a way for her to see what their town had to offer because their schedules are totally different (she works overnight at a hospital) and she's not the type to venture out alone.

GOOD LUCK!!!!! I hope your fiance realizes she is a very lucky woman.
I am a huge fan of this. It reminds her of how much you care even when you aren't around.

california said:
small things player, small things...fresh flowers, short walks, movie nights, cooking, massages, baths, intimate little notes placed n her purse, clothing pocket etc, hotel getaways, the new i phones- u can see each other when talking, work her a$$ out in bed....treat her how you would like to be treated.
this was 1 of my first thoughts, that means i'm on the right track haha thanks ill definitely stash this 1 near the top of my list thanks!

Devyn AKA Dominique Devereaux said:
Surprise her and book a room @ a hotel for a night (or the weekend) and just shut out the world. That means shut off your cell phones and just let it be the two of you... It will give you the opportunity to refresh and spend quality time together.

You never have to leave the room...wink, wink.

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