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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 3:03pm

I think marriage rate is declining because anybody can get the milk without buying the cow. Any man is going to take that option instead of purchasing a big azz cow. Honestly, I feel it is a disgrace to black women everywhere for those of us who do to be lettin these folk that are traditionally inclined to buy a cow get FREE milk. Dating or not. I'm starting to think some folk are just desperate to be accepted by some man, any man, that they just start shooting darts in the dark.

DdoubleD said:

Sorry I LOVE black men and I truly believe there are some WONDERFUL black men out there. I think that marriage is declining everywhere. White, black, mexican, asian, arabs, no one is exempt! The black family is deteriorating because of the number of unwed mothers. Teen pregnancy, wel fare, and the lack of education. In order correct marriage in our communities we must tackle all of these issues! It's an ugly cycle!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.  
MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 3:05pm

Let's agree to disagree on this one. But, please tell me what you have gained by dating outside of your race. How has your life been enriched?

MissMidwest said:

You definitely are just like how I used to be. I didn't think interracial dating was ever wrong, I was as stubborn as you are with never dating outside of my race and didn't see myself doing it either.  
 
Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm not like you were because I don't think there is anything wrong with interracial dating. I am just saying that I would not do it, and I can't see why others would. It is my preference to be with a black man, and that is it. Anyone can choose who they want, and I can respect it. When I see interracial couples, I don't stare them up and down and trash talk the white girl with a black man or black girl with a white man. Honestly, I think nothing of it other than I could not see myself doing it.

MissMidwest said:

The topic of this discussion is interracial dating not interracial friendships, so everyone who has replied to this thread is talking about "laying down, sexing, procreating, and having relationships with people of other races" and not friendships. IMO, I think it's discriminatory to write off everyone who is not of your race, I understand if you are speaking on your prefrence of men, but to not be able to take interracial dating and men of other races seriously is narrow minded and cretinous. I used to be just like you, 100%, so don't take what I'm saying the wrong way because I'm not attacking you in the least bit. I was past the point of having a prefrence, I was stuck in some really insular b*******; I would swear up and down that I would never date a man who wasn't white, and I refused to see anyone of another race as attractive because I grew up in a wealthy, predominantly white area and, in my highschool, diversity was not exactly celebrated. I didn't know any better, and I was almost living in a state of delusional "white-wash" if you will, but I grew up and saw that the world had so much more to offer me than what I thought I knew. Of course I was scared and reluctant to date outside of my comfort zone, because it was something new and foreign to me, but then one gorgeous, 6'6", ripped, shredded, and tatted basketball player was patient, kind, and understanding with me and completely changed my views on interracial dating, and my life subsequently.       
Love is a Losing Game said:

To this I say: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDy84WS_aeY

I also would like to know what you had been missing out on?? I don't think it's wrong to date outside of your race, I just don't think I could seriously do it. And we don't have to lay down, sex, procreate, have relationships with people of other races in order to learn from them or enjoy them as people. You can simply be their friend and get the same experiences WITHOUT having sex with them. JMO tho.

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on July 17, 2012 at 3:18pm

I don’t agree. Many men love very hard and want to have someone to share their life with. Even when you get married the options are still out there. That’s why it is important to allow a man to clearly see all of his options and a woman clearly see all her options so you know when you have found the right one. There are very few men who are going to wait until you’re married to sample the cow. If you find one that will that’s great for you.

Some woman may not be ready to get married, I know I’m not. I still have to focus on my education, my career, and my business. That doesn’t mean I can’t date someone now.

Marriage is about love. When you marry someone you should want to learn to love that person more and more every single day! When you are married every decision you make you are suppose to take your partner into consideration. Another problem is people are jumping into marriage and not knowing enough about the person they are marrying. I believe you should date for awhile prior to getting married to learn more about the person, if not you are doomed from day 1!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I think marriage rate is declining because anybody can get the milk without buying the cow. Any man is going to take that option instead of purchasing a big azz cow. Honestly, I feel it is a disgrace to black women everywhere for those of us who do to be lettin these folk that are traditionally inclined to buy a cow get FREE milk. Dating or not. I'm starting to think some folk are just desperate to be accepted by some man, any man, that they just start shooting darts in the dark.

DdoubleD said:

Sorry I LOVE black men and I truly believe there are some WONDERFUL black men out there. I think that marriage is declining everywhere. White, black, mexican, asian, arabs, no one is exempt! The black family is deteriorating because of the number of unwed mothers. Teen pregnancy, wel fare, and the lack of education. In order correct marriage in our communities we must tackle all of these issues! It's an ugly cycle!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.  
MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on July 17, 2012 at 3:19pm

How is she missing out on anything by just dating black men? The fact is most black women that are married to white men or non black men wanted it. It did not just happen organically. It's safe to say that they had a polciy of no brothers in the first place

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 3:25pm

I have sex before marriage, but what I am saying is that some of us are "dating" these others and lettin the hit WITHOUT so much as a title of girlfriend. That is a shame to me because everybody know good and well that this man is the marrying kind. To hit this, you AT LEAST have to be my man for some time, def not just in a "dating" situation.

DdoubleD said:

I don’t agree. Many men love very hard and want to have someone to share their life with. Even when you get married the options are still out there. That’s why it is important to allow a man to clearly see all of his options and a woman clearly see all her options so you know when you have found the right one. There are very few men who are going to wait until you’re married to sample the cow. If you find one that will that’s great for you.

Some woman may not be ready to get married, I know I’m not. I still have to focus on my education, my career, and my business. That doesn’t mean I can’t date someone now.

Marriage is about love. When you marry someone you should want to learn to love that person more and more every single day! When you are married every decision you make you are suppose to take your partner into consideration. Another problem is people are jumping into marriage and not knowing enough about the person they are marrying. I believe you should date for awhile prior to getting married to learn more about the person, if not you are doomed from day 1!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I think marriage rate is declining because anybody can get the milk without buying the cow. Any man is going to take that option instead of purchasing a big azz cow. Honestly, I feel it is a disgrace to black women everywhere for those of us who do to be lettin these folk that are traditionally inclined to buy a cow get FREE milk. Dating or not. I'm starting to think some folk are just desperate to be accepted by some man, any man, that they just start shooting darts in the dark.
DdoubleD said:

Sorry I LOVE black men and I truly believe there are some WONDERFUL black men out there. I think that marriage is declining everywhere. White, black, mexican, asian, arabs, no one is exempt! The black family is deteriorating because of the number of unwed mothers. Teen pregnancy, wel fare, and the lack of education. In order correct marriage in our communities we must tackle all of these issues! It's an ugly cycle!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.   MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 3:30pm

And to your other part, I know i'm not ready for marriage too, that is why I turned down a proposal a few months ago. Men are only going to value a woman who values herself. Most men dont see the value of family until mid thirty and even then most wont see the value if the got plenty chicks on deck just waiting to let them hit. There is no real reason to. Just like a man that lives rent bill and responsibility free will see no need to get a job, unless he wants one.

DdoubleD said:

I don’t agree. Many men love very hard and want to have someone to share their life with. Even when you get married the options are still out there. That’s why it is important to allow a man to clearly see all of his options and a woman clearly see all her options so you know when you have found the right one. There are very few men who are going to wait until you’re married to sample the cow. If you find one that will that’s great for you.

Some woman may not be ready to get married, I know I’m not. I still have to focus on my education, my career, and my business. That doesn’t mean I can’t date someone now.

Marriage is about love. When you marry someone you should want to learn to love that person more and more every single day! When you are married every decision you make you are suppose to take your partner into consideration. Another problem is people are jumping into marriage and not knowing enough about the person they are marrying. I believe you should date for awhile prior to getting married to learn more about the person, if not you are doomed from day 1!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I think marriage rate is declining because anybody can get the milk without buying the cow. Any man is going to take that option instead of purchasing a big azz cow. Honestly, I feel it is a disgrace to black women everywhere for those of us who do to be lettin these folk that are traditionally inclined to buy a cow get FREE milk. Dating or not. I'm starting to think some folk are just desperate to be accepted by some man, any man, that they just start shooting darts in the dark.
DdoubleD said:

Sorry I LOVE black men and I truly believe there are some WONDERFUL black men out there. I think that marriage is declining everywhere. White, black, mexican, asian, arabs, no one is exempt! The black family is deteriorating because of the number of unwed mothers. Teen pregnancy, wel fare, and the lack of education. In order correct marriage in our communities we must tackle all of these issues! It's an ugly cycle!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.   MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by MoCha M. on July 17, 2012 at 4:15pm

The whole point of my comment went over your head. You posed the question, to women who date out side of there race how many of them have proposed? My point is this, that question proves no point in your arugment. for one woman that says none there will be one that has had someone out side her race propose. You act has if there have been NO succesful interracial relationships or marriages???. Like DoubleD said, I LOVE black men, have never dated another race and i probably will end up marrying a black man. So my point was not to say that there are no good black men thats why we're not getting married just making babies. My point is if you aint right and you're attracting the wrong type of men, it doesnt matter what race they are their not gonna marry you point blank period.

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.  
MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 17, 2012 at 5:53pm

Igot u Mocha, but my statement wasn't specific to ur comment, I actually agree with it, imsaying in general. Most women who date others do so cuz they say black men aint worth s***, but what I'm saying is the other must not think they worth something cuz they treatin them the same way the 'not s***' black guys are. So its not black men per se, it's the individual woman that resorts to others because she thinks black did her wrong.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 18, 2012 at 9:17am

Ugh, I hate to admit that I (through clenched teeth) could be considered close minded, but maybe u guys are right. My bf is a mess. He's like a warden, just so damn stressful. I'm about to drop his azz. If an other approached me I might let him call me. Idk....that 'one black man to marry me' statement somebody made keeps ringing in my head. I guess I just wanna think that bm are better than the bs I hear cuz I've looked up to them my whole life,and know some amazing bm. But maybe there is some (a small bit of some) lol truth to what u guys were saying. Hope I didn't offend anyone :-)

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on July 18, 2012 at 9:49am

you do realize some people have sex for the simple pleasure of it.  arent you all the same ladies who preached that this aint the 60s anymore, and that women are evolving. Well here you have it...evolution at its finest.

Love is a Losing Game said:

I have sex before marriage, but what I am saying is that some of us are "dating" these others and lettin the hit WITHOUT so much as a title of girlfriend. That is a shame to me because everybody know good and well that this man is the marrying kind. To hit this, you AT LEAST have to be my man for some time, def not just in a "dating" situation.

DdoubleD said:

I don’t agree. Many men love very hard and want to have someone to share their life with. Even when you get married the options are still out there. That’s why it is important to allow a man to clearly see all of his options and a woman clearly see all her options so you know when you have found the right one. There are very few men who are going to wait until you’re married to sample the cow. If you find one that will that’s great for you.

Some woman may not be ready to get married, I know I’m not. I still have to focus on my education, my career, and my business. That doesn’t mean I can’t date someone now.

Marriage is about love. When you marry someone you should want to learn to love that person more and more every single day! When you are married every decision you make you are suppose to take your partner into consideration. Another problem is people are jumping into marriage and not knowing enough about the person they are marrying. I believe you should date for awhile prior to getting married to learn more about the person, if not you are doomed from day 1!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I think marriage rate is declining because anybody can get the milk without buying the cow. Any man is going to take that option instead of purchasing a big azz cow. Honestly, I feel it is a disgrace to black women everywhere for those of us who do to be lettin these folk that are traditionally inclined to buy a cow get FREE milk. Dating or not. I'm starting to think some folk are just desperate to be accepted by some man, any man, that they just start shooting darts in the dark.
DdoubleD said:

Sorry I LOVE black men and I truly believe there are some WONDERFUL black men out there. I think that marriage is declining everywhere. White, black, mexican, asian, arabs, no one is exempt! The black family is deteriorating because of the number of unwed mothers. Teen pregnancy, wel fare, and the lack of education. In order correct marriage in our communities we must tackle all of these issues! It's an ugly cycle!

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'm happy u said this. Now, since we all know black men aint s*** and they aint gon marry (sarcastic saide eye) I wanna know why the others yall did try have not proposed. I mean statistically, they are the marrying kind, and there is a greater probability that they would marry you, right?? We have baby daddies and mommies because WE OUT HERE F***** WITH NO REGUARD AND REAL REASON TO BE DOING SO. We f***** cuz he cute or sexy or got money, but NOT BECAUSE HE WANNA BE A FAMILY WITH US. and IMO the others would love to come get this "no strings attached" sex from us, because we don't require s*** of them other than they cute. SMFH.   MoCha M. said:

Honey you can present this same question to black women who only date black men and ALOT will say none( I know a few lol). Thats why we got alot of baby mamas and baby daddys running around today, but thats another topic for a different day. Me myself, I prefer black men but thats not to say that I wouldnt date a man out side of my race because I feel I cant "relate" to him, that just sounds a lil foolish to me but thats JMO

Love is a Losing Game said:

I'ma just ask this and then quit stirring the pot(lol), but for those of you who have dated all these other races, how many of them have proposed to you?? Just wondering. The point of dating is not to just be "sampling" sexy folk, but to meet a partner.  all this interracial stuff to me is just about f'kin something new. If sex was not in the equation, then friends wouldn't seem so far fetched. Some, SOME of yall are not going to find what you are looking for until you look inside yourself. It seems so simple but it is the thing that most of us don't want to do (self-refelction). KrystyyyMia said:

Exactly to Miss and Eleven8, it's not about the color of your skin, it's about what defines the person and how the person treats you. Like a few others, I grew up with diversity, saw different races date other races etc. No one ever said, "You can date whomever you want, so long as you marry black". It's never been an issue. As long and that man treats me right, we can grow together, make amazing happen, then that's it! I think we'll all become racially ambiguous eventually. 

I've dated black, white, Puerto Rican and a few other sexy mixtures. If you're one to limit yourself to dating "only one" race whether it be black, Cuban, Chinese, I feel bad for you. Expose yourself to something new! You'll probably fall in love. If not, that's fine, more options for me :) 

MissMidwest said:

All of this! When I was younger, I never even thought of dating any other man than a white man because I was so narrow-minded and I thought it was "wrong", and then one guy really opened my eyes to what I had been missing. Why wouldn't somebody want to date outside of their race? Race doesn't define the person, their personality and morals do, why discriminate against someone just because of where they came from or what color their skin is?     Eleven8 said:

I will openly and happily date any race. I can identify with any race because I've been fortunate to grow up around diversity. I've even spent time in Africa and hanging with people from London to Lebanon. To me, it's not the race, it's the person and I'm not limiting myself to any one particular race and risk losing the man of my dreams in the mean time. Love is a Losing Game said:

HOnestly, I can't see why anyone would WANT to date out of their race. I mean I have seen attractive guys that were not black, but once I thought about how different we were and how it may be a struggle to identify with him, I kinda just opted out of the interracial thing. I think once we get past the physical attributes of a person, there is a real question of compatibility that has to be asked. And when I say compatibility, I mean families meshing, ideas/interests, experiences, values, just a plethora of things that really set us apart, not necessarily in a bad way tho. But for me personally, I just can not see my self really meshing with a guy of another race. Even say as an example, an African man. He speaks a different language than me, prob different religious views, values....understanding. I wouldn't want to do it. I agress with BSM tho, when folk are so quick to jump to another race, I feel like it sometimes devalues their own race.  And, for the record, Black men are great to have and be with. Yes, there are some rotten apples, but they are not indigenous to BM only, so don't think if u get with a BM that he's trash and an "other" is the best thing since sliced bread.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on July 18, 2012 at 9:51am

And quite frankly I believe where you stay at also plays a crucial role into who you date.  If you stay in a small town who has a reputation for interracial dating then thats cool.  But if you grow up in an area where I did, where its black women and black men everywhere you basically go for the majority group.  So men of all races go after black women, its just the black women in chicago are so f***** crazy where it pushes us to outside relations.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on July 18, 2012 at 10:02am

Right @black,I've heard that it is normal in Minnesota to have a white partner. Like there is virtually no same race relationships there. And btw I think chicago black men are loooooooney lol :-)

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