Cake and Ice Cream ( A Selfish Married Man)

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Permalink Reply by this battlefield on July 9, 2009 at 6:49pm

Hell yeah you wrong although you didn't put a gun 2 his head you could have said no I dnt do married men. Its plenty of single man out there one you dnt have 2 share but I'm be real you a homewrecker and you need 2 stop that sh%t aint right at all it dosent matter that you carried his chlid because you would have never been pregnant if you wasn't doing wrong but keep in mind karama is a bi&ch n what goes around will come back around

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Permalink Reply by Dominique P. Smith on July 12, 2009 at 4:19pm

I second that motto "Don't fall for someone who won't catch you" also "Don't make someone a priority, when they only make you an option." Best of luck to you hon.

ATown SouthernGal said:

Don't fall for someone who won't catch you.

This is my motto! It includes friend, family member and especially men. When he goes home its probably not as bad as he makes you think because if it was he would be with you EVERY night. Leave him alone and read the Steve Harvey book. Your happiness is MOST important! You are not going to leave him alone until YOU are ready no matter what anyone else says...good luck chica.

You will look back and laugh soon and this will all be a learning experience...

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on July 12, 2009 at 4:59pm

not judging, but yes you are wrong... doesn't matter when you knew, but you know NOW! It is your responsibility as a woman to treat other women better! His wife is not the only dillusional one, you are too dear. He has done only what you've allowed him to do. Actually she may not be, you have no idea what goes on in that home, you have no idea what he is telling her... I digress..
Anyway, he is a married man, and chances are he will not leave his wife & if he does, it doesn't necessarily mean he will marry you & even if he does, chances are he will cheat on you too.
You are so much better than this, pick yourself up, dust yourself off & bid him farewell. You deserve happiness... YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!!!

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Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on July 12, 2009 at 8:03pm

Why would you want him? He leaves you to go to a woman that he hates? That's some disrespectful shit don't you think? If he told her he loves you and he can't stand her why doesn't he move in with you? Hell its already public knowledge that you was pregnant by him so its not for appearnces. Do you think if they got divorced tommorow that every time he left your sight that you wouldn't be paranoid that he's cheating on you because you know what he's capable of? You're not stupid and you already knew the answer before you wrote the question. I'm going to need you to figure out where you left your self worth and go get it.

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Permalink Reply by C*u*t*e* on July 12, 2009 at 8:11pm

This is what it is. If he was seriously unhappy and truly loved you/ wanted to only be with you then he would have been left his wife. He may love you but honestly he doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. If his love for you was very strong then he would except the money loss if that's the case and been fine. All of that acting jelous is a front. He acts that way to show that he really cares in order to keep you happy and keep you as his side piece. He likes you company and he likes being with you but his wife is his will always be. Him telling you that he hates her is just him giving you false hope so that you won't leave him.

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Permalink Reply by lola reynolds on July 13, 2009 at 1:32pm

Sweetie you cannot inflict pain on others intentionally and not expect anything to happen. You deserve more and you deserve to be more. I hope whatever caused you to be the type of person to contribute to the unraveling of something ordained by God is removed from your heart quickly. I wish you the best. You can never grab onto the good things God has for you if you don't let go of what he doesn't. Fyi, your man sounds nuts and who knows when his wife will be fed up enough to dispose of you herself. Don't gamble when someone else is holding the trump card!

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Permalink Reply by RoyaleT on July 13, 2009 at 2:43pm

LEAVE!!!!! AND GO NOW!!!! THAT MAN DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU AND IF THE WAY HE TREATS HIS WIFE IS ANY INCLINATION OF HOW HE RESPECTS THE WOMEN HE SO CALLED LOVES THE MOST .....THEN YOU ARE IN FOR A REAL TREAT IF HE EVER DOES (OR SHOULD I SAY IF SHE EVER DOES) LEAVE HIM.

Since you didnt mention it.....it looks as if you aren't even benefitting from the relationship (cars, furs, exotic vacations, condos???) and YOU say yourself you want to leave. Then do that!!! Stop calling him, stop accepting and returning his calls. You control the situation more than you think. And trust me when I tell you He NEVER told his wife he loves you.......NEVER. Unless you witnessed the conversation and heard her reaction. And she keeps calling you cause she is twisted (who calls the other woman-continuously??) but he probably tells her you are a friend, coworker, cousin, high school bud, dog watcher, stripper, whatever.......but not the other woman. If he was so careless with his wifes feelings and choose to tell her the absolute truth then he would be your cheating husband.....not hers. Get it?

The drama has gone on long enough and now you need to move on

RUN and DONT look back!!!!!!!

NOTE: Married men don't have single sexy female friends.......so NEVER try to be one again

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Permalink Reply by Dangerous on July 24, 2009 at 5:55pm

SMH... we all make mistakes, but when you drag a mistake on and on It's no longer a mistake It becomes stupidity. Now I know you're not stupid...you're probably smart, attractive and have a lot going for yourself, so...Act like it. and if you don't have those things going for you...get there. Concentrate on you. You should be the most important thing in Your life! Furthermore, what you put into the universe is what you get out of it. Stop generating negative energy. So my advice is, Stop hurting yourself, Stop deliberately hurting other people. No, you didn't take the vows, but you MUST respect them all the same. Put yourself in her shoes, honestly. While she is at home, probably crying herself to sleep, cause she can't figure out why people would hurt her purposely, with no remorse and she's thinking... what did she do to deserve this...if you can still sleep with this man you really need to take another look in the mirror and ask yourself, why? I've been there...married man and all...but I realized early enough that thats not the energy I wanted to put out, cause that was definitely not what I wanted to get back. Respect yourself and others and you can't go wrong. Good luck, and I truly hope you get out of this situation, sooner than later...cause we all know you probably deserve much more!

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Permalink Reply by Faye on July 24, 2009 at 9:15pm

You really do the know the answer to that question. I was in a situation like this a little while ago. I was at a point in my life where I was lonely and vunerable (no excuse). I only let it last for a year. You really need to cut this off, because it's not going to go anywhere. When you get into a situation like that in the beginning you feel you can do it with no feelings involved. You have to love yourself! If you leave this man, believe me he will find another to replace you. Cheating is nothing for them! He doesn't have any respect for you! You named your price! I'm not trying to down you or anything like that, but until you realize that he is just using you that's when you will leave. This guy I was dealing with would come spend the night with me, take me out, spend money, and for a minute it felt like he was mine. I bet he ain't spending time with you on holidays and especially valentine's day! Get REAL! Take a Break! I had people telling me to stop, but I didn't do it until I was ready. You have to love yourself more than you love him and the things he does for you. I just don't think you are ready to stop, cause if you were you would. Get that out of your life so God can send you the man that he has for you. You may be missing out on the man that is for you, because he has you so caught up! Love Yourself First!

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Permalink Reply by AMillz on July 25, 2009 at 2:58am

Dat sounds like my cousin ..shes in love wit a married man ..I think his wife has a clue but doesnt know I dont know...But his ass his crazy he doesnt want her 2 talk 2 any1 or hang wit any1..If she doesnt answer the phone he leaves mesages sayin he hates her,dont call him,i kno u suckin another niggas dick etccc... He later apologizes for his actions and says he loves her and doesnt want him to leave her...She doesnt plan on him leaving his wife..She actually talks 2 other men but she puts no1 b4 him. Its crazy but like u said u cant control ur feelins. But I think u should cut him loose it will hurt you but it will b the best thing for you. If its meant for yall to b together den yall will but as u see this situation will only lead 2 more drama n ur heart can only take soo much.U have to ask urself is this really the kind of life you want for urself? Do u see urself bein the other woman for another 3 mayb 4 years? If his happiness means more to you den urs den haaay I say stick it out.Anytime u have to ask sum1 if ur wrong den boo u already kno u r.Im sure you know wat you should do u prolly jus want sum1 else to say so u get sum assurance.U have to realize no matter wat we say in the end the decision is URS and u have to pick wat best suits u. N sweetie U,HER & HIM ALL HAVE THE SAME BUSINESS!! Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

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Permalink Reply by Plastik on July 31, 2009 at 3:14am

You didn't put a gun up to his head but you surely gives him that ass quite often.


"but i never put a gun up to his head and said love me I honestly told him we should be friends"

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Permalink Reply by NYCgal on July 31, 2009 at 10:37am

What kind of person are you?
Get up & get out. Duh.

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