CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO DO IT... UGLY MEN MAKE ME NERVOUS... lmao
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Hi Ladies.. I’m kinda sorta new on here & this is my first post. Now even long before I joined, I’ve always had this issue, this one problem that I hope at least one other girl on here can feel me on…? so here goes: I’m too into appearances. Not mine. But the GUY’s looks. And I know to be a “successful golddigger” it can’t really go down like that. See, I’ve been known to be extremely picky & in recent years I’ve tried to “tone it down” & have even settled for less than what I thought I deserved…. But then I just land myself into trouble when I quickly get bored of the guy & am already looking elsewhere for someone who will hold my attention with his very handsome face & fine body as opposed to the man I’m with. Lol I hate to admit that when it comes to men, I DEFINITELY judge the book by it’s cover. Now the ultimate question is: How do golddiggers NOT do that? I just cannot see myself laying with a man that I don’t find attractive in the least bit. No matter how great my acting skills are, I’ll find my face scrunching up & looking @ him with a screwfaced expression, almost mimicking his face… LOL I could possibly be making him think the very same thing about me when i do that!
I personally am not really looking to date any/all of the 3 A’s (athletes, actors, & artists) right now… I mean, if it happens, great. But I’m looking for men who are wealthy in the less obvious ways.. u know, the ones without the fame but still possess the great business acumen & intelligence. Problem is, at least to me, no matter where I am, the low-key types don’t seem to be all that attractive physically. (Pls, let me know if I’m wrong… I’d love to know where they’re at!) A girlfriend of mine asked “Why are most wealthy non-celebrity men ugly?” And we literally sat there trying to figure it out… I mean they have the dough to get certain things fixed right? The only logical answer we could come up with was that since they’re not on TV, less attention/focus is put on their appearances vs. the celebs. They sorta get lazy with it & figure the moolah will make them. Now obviously, this doesn’t go for EVERY wealthy man who’s not one of the 3As. Just the ones we’ve encountered. It wouldn’t be such an issue for me if I didn’t want to be with a baller. I would just be like ‘F*ck it, I’ll be with my fiiiiine but very broke guy!’ But the point is I do want one! A chic got student loans!! Haha So how can I get past this problem? How do some of you ladies (if u do) wake up next to your not-so-attractive-in-the-face-but-he-is-in-the-wallet men?? Am I just gonna have to suck it up or am I simply not meant to be a golddigger? (I fear the latter… lmao)
I personally am not really looking to date any/all of the 3 A’s (athletes, actors, & artists) right now… I mean, if it happens, great. But I’m looking for men who are wealthy in the less obvious ways.. u know, the ones without the fame but still possess the great business acumen & intelligence. Problem is, at least to me, no matter where I am, the low-key types don’t seem to be all that attractive physically. (Pls, let me know if I’m wrong… I’d love to know where they’re at!) A girlfriend of mine asked “Why are most wealthy non-celebrity men ugly?” And we literally sat there trying to figure it out… I mean they have the dough to get certain things fixed right? The only logical answer we could come up with was that since they’re not on TV, less attention/focus is put on their appearances vs. the celebs. They sorta get lazy with it & figure the moolah will make them. Now obviously, this doesn’t go for EVERY wealthy man who’s not one of the 3As. Just the ones we’ve encountered. It wouldn’t be such an issue for me if I didn’t want to be with a baller. I would just be like ‘F*ck it, I’ll be with my fiiiiine but very broke guy!’ But the point is I do want one! A chic got student loans!! Haha So how can I get past this problem? How do some of you ladies (if u do) wake up next to your not-so-attractive-in-the-face-but-he-is-in-the-wallet men?? Am I just gonna have to suck it up or am I simply not meant to be a golddigger? (I fear the latter… lmao)
Tags: appearances, golddigger, help, low-key, ugly, uncomfortable, wealthy
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Permalink Reply by CreamyCazz on -
had to add this pic... it's so relevant
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Permalink Reply by Butter_Cup on -
Is that you in the pic? You just have to be realistic I guess. And find something cute about him. I cant relate to how you feel my concern is hygiene. There is something ugly about the most beautiful person if you look hard enough. And sometimes it's inside(heart) As long as the guy has a good job, great hygiene, treats you right, and believes in God. It doesnt hurt just to give him a little convo and maybe the things he says or does might turn you on. You cant be shallow like Hal(the movie) IDK i'm sorry but i hope this helps alittle.
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Permalink Reply by Keytolife on -
You just have to think short term. Don't think about having kids, settling down, getting married etc. especially if you can not see past his flaws. Your just going to end up hurting him or even more yourself. Just think in terms of "this is just to pay the bills" but girl you should just do you, hustle, and pay off your own student loans. Men these days are crazy, they damn near killing and disfiguring chicks for leaving them. So if your gonna play the game play it right. Oh and don't let him fall in love.
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Permalink Reply by Butter_Cup on
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But he has some beautiful black skin :o) Just dnt have his baby.lol You can fix him up girl stop that.
CreamyCazz said:had to add this pic... it's so relevant
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Permalink Reply by CreamyCazz on
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Haha at first i though u meant is that me in that-- nevermind Lol but yeah i'm in my profile pic.. but i feel u, hygiene plays a HUGE role too.. i'm trying not to be so shallow when it comes to men but it's so HARD
Butter_Cup said:Is that you in the pic? You just have to be realistic I guess. And find something cute about him. I cant relate to how you feel my concern is hygiene. There is something ugly about the most beautiful person if you look hard enough. And sometimes it's inside(heart) As long as the guy has a good job, great hygiene, treats you right, and believes in God. It doesnt hurt just to give him a little convo and maybe the things he says or does might turn you on. You cant be shallow like Hal(the movie) IDK i'm sorry but i hope this helps alittle.
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Permalink Reply by CreamyCazz on
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HAHAHA @ Buttercup ;o)
@Keytolife. Very good advice. I will keep this in mind. Some serial killers out here!!!
Keytolife said:You just have to think short term. Don't think about having kids, settling down, getting married etc. especially if you can not see past his flaws. Your just going to end up hurting him or even more yourself. Just think in terms of "this is just to pay the bills" but girl you should just do you, hustle, and pay off your own student loans. Men these days are crazy, they damn near killing and disfiguring chicks for leaving them. So if your gonna play the game play it right. Oh and don't let him fall in love.
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Permalink Reply by Butter_Cup on
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Your a cute girl and trust me most guys dnt think they look that good anyway. He'll treat you like a queen just keep it on the surface and out the bedroom.
CreamyCazz said:Haha at first i though u meant is that me in that-- nevermind Lol but yeah i'm in my profile pic.. but i feel u, hygiene plays a HUGE role too.. i'm trying not to be so shallow when it comes to men but it's so HARD
Butter_Cup said:Is that you in the pic? You just have to be realistic I guess. And find something cute about him. I cant relate to how you feel my concern is hygiene. There is something ugly about the most beautiful person if you look hard enough. And sometimes it's inside(heart) As long as the guy has a good job, great hygiene, treats you right, and believes in God. It doesnt hurt just to give him a little convo and maybe the things he says or does might turn you on. You cant be shallow like Hal(the movie) IDK i'm sorry but i hope this helps alittle.
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Permalink Reply by Britney Jones on -
That's true Butter Cup!!! I have this friend who is sexy as hell...and he swears he's just alright.
Butter_Cup said:Your a cute girl and trust me most guys dnt think they look that good anyway. He'll treat you like a queen just keep it on the surface and out the bedroom.
CreamyCazz said:Haha at first i though u meant is that me in that-- nevermind Lol but yeah i'm in my profile pic.. but i feel u, hygiene plays a HUGE role too.. i'm trying not to be so shallow when it comes to men but it's so HARD
Butter_Cup said:Is that you in the pic? You just have to be realistic I guess. And find something cute about him. I cant relate to how you feel my concern is hygiene. There is something ugly about the most beautiful person if you look hard enough. And sometimes it's inside(heart) As long as the guy has a good job, great hygiene, treats you right, and believes in God. It doesnt hurt just to give him a little convo and maybe the things he says or does might turn you on. You cant be shallow like Hal(the movie) IDK i'm sorry but i hope this helps alittle.
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Permalink Reply by Keytolife on
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That is true, I know most hood guys don't look good unless they have on a fitted and nice "urban" gear. My hubby isn't the best looking but he is a genius and when he get dress and has a fresh cut, put on his jewels he don't look like the same person.
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Permalink Reply by CreamyCazz on
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I feel all u ladies & some valid points wre made here but i guess where i'm really stuck @ is the intimacy part. Cuz u know the smart guys are NOT going to be just giving u anything or catering to u just cuz u look good.. How do u become intimate, even if it's just ONE kiss, with someone who u don't really find attractive??
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Permalink Reply by Cougar $pice on -
Think of someone attractive while you're kissing him. LOL
CreamyCazz said:I feel all u ladies & some valid points wre made here but i guess where i'm really stuck @ is the intimacy part. Cuz u know the smart guys are NOT going to be just giving u anything or catering to u just cuz u look good.. How do u become intimate, even if it's just ONE kiss, with someone who u don't really find attractive??
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Permalink Reply by CreamyCazz on
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i'll try @ Cougar. it's really the only way!
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