Okay Ladies I need your help.
Let me start from the beginning. I am not your average groupie, I don't look for ballers they usually come after me. Two years ago I'm at a club having fun with my girls and a baller approaches me and we exchange numbers at the end of the night. Long story short we have be hanging out like everyday to the point I know all his family and friends. I am the kind of person I get pleasure out of pleasing my man and I have been catering to my baller since the beginning.I told him I didn't want to be in a serious relationship because I am young and at the time I needed to finish college.I'm not the jealous type either, I don't get mad when females are on him.Well lately he has been getting clingy and very jealous. He has also been dropping hints about me moving in and how serious he want us to become.Two weeks ago we went out as a group (which I normally don't do) and I was dancing with my girls just having fun and some random guy just rolled up on me and started dancing. Out the corner of my eye I can see my baller getting upset and on the way home he was going off on me (like I told the dude to dance with me).My baller is fun to be around,my only problem is I'm not ready to commit to him.The moving in part is freaking me out. He wants me to be around him everyday and he also been talking about kids.I don't know how to tell him that I'm still tooooo young to marry and just wants our relationship to continue the way it is. I need help breaking it down to him, Any suggestions? should I take him out and tell him or do it over text(the punk way)? Or am I just crazy? I really don't know what to do.Oh yeah he pays for every thing. Condo, car, phone,etc...
Thanks for responding and not holding back.He knows I'm not a groupie or gold digger thats why he buys me every thing. I come from a family with money.I do have commitment issues(I'm only 23 fresh out of college).I really don't want to mess him up for the next chick.In the beginning I never got mad when he had other chicks because he wasn't officially mine but this pass year I notice he hasn't had a side chick in a while.SH't I think it's time for me to grow up and deal with grown women problems.I'll talk to him and keep it real. Thanks everybody
But when you ain't ready, you ain't ready. I been there. And I regret (sort of) the men that wanted to marry me and take care of me, but I wasn't ready either, I had a different priorities then. Once you get older, men like this are very hard to come by, you will see.
So let him go and be with someone more deserving and appreciative. There doesn't need to be a long speech, all you got to say is "I am not ready", and be ready when the perks stop.
I see a lot of discussions about spots in Maryland, DC, ATL, but what about NYC?! Somebody please cant tell me ballers are not in NYC. They are and they hang out, so spill the beans. I know I don't…Continue