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Me and my ex fiance has been together a total of 3 1/2 years. Just a week ago he upgraded my engagement ring. We set a date and things was going good. Yesterday his daughter and my son was arguing. ( the kids do that all the time) But yesterday, he took it to a different level. He told me to take my kids home. (We don't live together.) To keep from arguing I said bye. I guess he that pissed him off that I was walking away. He made the comment that was his house and no one going to disrespect him....Thats when i turned to him and said idk if you had a bad day or something but don't take it out on me and my kids. Then out the blue this ninja pushed then slapped me. I was really stunned. Of course me still having a lil hood in me. I came back at him. To make a long story short, we fought , we fussed.....the hurtful part of it all is that he called me a b**** and said other derogatory things to me. he also said that its over, that wedding is never going to happen. He asked for his keys back and I left. Haven't heard from him since. I'm so confused and hurt..... I'm still trying to figure out wth trigger him!!!! I will say this. He was wellbutrin and been off it about week. Still if you love someone why would you try to hurt them physically and mentally? I can't stop crying. I haven't try to contact him. Should I just let this be? Wait awhile? Let him come back to me? Help!!!
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Permalink Reply by JustMe on -
This may sound harsh, but forget him. He slapped you!!!! He may be off his meds, but if he slapped you once, he'll do it again...
And that was after he sent you & your kids home over a kiddie argument. Be thankful that it happened before you said I do...
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Permalink Reply by Maya Wilkes on
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Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on -
*Money thinking cap on* Did he pay cash for the engagement ring or was it on credit? If credit that bill may have shown up and put his azz in a foul mood coupled with being off his meds. *shrug* IDK. What I do know is that if he hit you once then he'll do it again.
Keep it moving and don't look back.
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on -
you are right! But its so hard for me to even function. Im actually working from home today cause I can't stop crying.
JustMe said:This may sound harsh, but forget him. He slapped you!!!! He may be off his meds, but if he slapped you once, he'll do it again...
And that was after he sent you & your kids home over a kiddie argument. Be thankful that it happened before you said I do...
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on
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Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.
Maya Wilkes said:Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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Permalink Reply by Phoenix on -
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Eff that! That was not a situation to get physical in...not that there are many...but if there was a totem pole...that'd be lowest. It was a stupid situation. And i'm glad you found out that he was abusive NOW instead of later. Please leave that man alone.
JustMe said:This may sound harsh, but forget him. He slapped you!!!! He may be off his meds, but if he slapped you once, he'll do it again...
And that was after he sent you & your kids home over a kiddie argument. Be thankful that it happened before you said I do...
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on
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He paid for it cash. It wasn't the most expensive ring. He paid around $4200 for it.He is a retired marine plus work a good paying government job. That's chump change to him. Idk what the hell happened!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:*Money thinking cap on* Did he pay cash for the engagement ring or was it on credit? If credit that bill may have shown up and put his azz in a foul mood coupled with being off his meds. *shrug* IDK. What I do know is that if he hit you once then he'll do it again.
Keep it moving and don't look back.
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Permalink Reply by JustMe on
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Quit wondering why it happened & accept that it did... Always looking for a "reason, trigger, EXCUSE" is what keeps women in abusive relationships!!! It will take a minute, but you'll get over him...
Quick question, where were the children when he slapped you & spat hateful words?????
Diva706 said:Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.
Maya Wilkes said:Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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I understand that. I also hope you dont think its your fault. Being a wreck today is normal for a breakup or argument. Im a mess myself when im going thru a break up. Time will heal it, trust me. I know it hurts and Im sorry. I promise you'll feel better in time.
Diva706 said:Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.
Maya Wilkes said:Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on
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You are right we have been in worse situations and worked out.
Phoenix said:+1
Eff that! That was not a situation to get physical in...not that there are many...but if there was a totem pole...that'd be lowest. It was a stupid situation. And i'm glad you found out that he was abusive NOW instead of later. Please leave that man alone.
JustMe said:This may sound harsh, but forget him. He slapped you!!!! He may be off his meds, but if he slapped you once, he'll do it again...
And that was after he sent you & your kids home over a kiddie argument. Be thankful that it happened before you said I do...
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on
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They were in the den and we were in br. But they heard it all. My 13 yo son was trying to get to him. I then knew it was time to walk out.
JustMe said:Quit wondering why it happened & accept that it did... Always looking for a "reason, trigger, EXCUSE" is what keeps women in abusive relationships!!! It will take a minute, but you'll get over him...
Quick question, where were the children when he slapped you & spat hateful words?????
Diva706 said:Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.
Maya Wilkes said:Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on
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Thanks Maya! *Hugs*
Maya Wilkes said:I understand that. I also hope you dont think its your fault. Being a wreck today is normal for a breakup or argument. Im a mess myself when im going thru a break up. Time will heal it, trust me. I know it hurts and Im sorry. I promise you'll feel better in time.
Diva706 said:Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.
Maya Wilkes said:Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.
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