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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on April 25, 2012 at 11:55am

Ex Marine and on meds?! Thats a double negative for me! He probably had a flashback and snapped. Your son we hate in forever knowing he disrespected his mom. just leave before it gets aany wworse !

What was your son's perception of him prior to this?

Diva706 said:

He paid for it cash. It wasn't the most expensive ring. He paid around $4200 for it.He is a retired marine plus work a good paying government job.  That's chump change to him.  Idk what the hell happened!

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

*Money thinking cap on* Did he pay cash for the engagement ring or was it on credit? If credit that bill may have shown up and put his azz in a foul mood coupled with being off his meds. *shrug* IDK. What I do know is that if he hit you once then he'll do it again.

Keep it moving and don't look back.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on April 25, 2012 at 11:57am

In that moment, he taught the boys that it was ok to hit women... And if you go back you have reinforced that to your son, and your daughter...

I know it's hard, but you will be fine. Get you some money for the ring & go shopping!!!!!


Diva706 said:

They were in the den and we were in br. But they heard it all. My 13 yo son was trying to get to him. I then knew it was time to walk out.

JustMe said:

Quit wondering why it happened & accept that it did... Always looking for a "reason, trigger, EXCUSE" is what keeps women in abusive relationships!!! It will take a minute, but you'll get over him...

Quick question, where were the children when he slapped you & spat hateful words?????


Diva706 said:

Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.

Maya Wilkes said:

Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on April 25, 2012 at 11:57am

 I have so been here before and I stayed. Do you know what happened it became normal. One day he hit me and I just snapped. This nigga had the nerve to call the police and they locked me up!!!!!!!!!!! Please leave because you have to set an example for your son. If you go back your will be weak in his eyes and he will eventually try and defend you. Which will lead to even more trouble. Your son needs you both to be better examples than what society has shown our kids!!! I know it hurts and you need answers but truthfully closure is for the weak-minded. Give yourself some time, but please don't go back to him. I will pray for your strength and safety!!!!

Psalms 18:48 He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on April 25, 2012 at 11:58am

Girl NO! Keep messin around with this loser and you will have an abusive son on your hands, AND your son will have NO respect for you. Leave this man. I done told yall that ALL service men are CRAZY! Well, most of the ones that have gone to battle. Not even been on the front lines....if they was in the area, they ass is CRAZY! get out now. AND he talking s***?! So he gon slap u AND F with your self esteem? In my girl from "What's love got to do with it"  voice "YOU ARE A DEAD WOMAN IF YOU STAY! "

Diva706 said:

They were in the den and we were in br. But they heard it all. My 13 yo son was trying to get to him. I then knew it was time to walk out.

JustMe said:

Quit wondering why it happened & accept that it did... Always looking for a "reason, trigger, EXCUSE" is what keeps women in abusive relationships!!! It will take a minute, but you'll get over him...

Quick question, where were the children when he slapped you & spat hateful words?????


Diva706 said:

Out of 3 years , he has never hit me...I'm still wondering what triggered him to hit me.

Maya Wilkes said:

Get out now!!! He is going to be abusive if you marry him or take him back in any way.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on April 25, 2012 at 12:01pm

First i would like to say that I am sorry that you and your kids had to go through this. Be glad that you are seeing his ways now instead of after marriage. I know right now in the midst of it all it is hard to see but this may be a blessing in disguise. Please listen all the other ladies as they have given you great advice. You and your children deserve better!

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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on April 25, 2012 at 12:01pm

My 2 teen boys and my 10 yo girl loved him!!! Now my son is like Ma I don't anything else to say to him. And i know my son would hurt him. He is 5ft 9 and bench press 250 at age 13!!

SACK CHASER said:

Ex Marine and on meds?! Thats a double negative for me! He probably had a flashback and snapped. Your son we hate in forever knowing he disrespected his mom. just leave before it gets aany wworse !

What was your son's perception of him prior to this?

Diva706 said:

He paid for it cash. It wasn't the most expensive ring. He paid around $4200 for it.He is a retired marine plus work a good paying government job.  That's chump change to him.  Idk what the hell happened!

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

*Money thinking cap on* Did he pay cash for the engagement ring or was it on credit? If credit that bill may have shown up and put his azz in a foul mood coupled with being off his meds. *shrug* IDK. What I do know is that if he hit you once then he'll do it again.

Keep it moving and don't look back.

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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on April 25, 2012 at 12:04pm

Thanks Doll :)

Ms. BoiBye said:

 I have so been here before and I stayed. Do you know what happened it became normal. One day he hit me and I just snapped. This nigga had the nerve to call the police and they locked me up!!!!!!!!!!! Please leave because you have to set an example for your son. If you go back your will be weak in his eyes and he will eventually try and defend you. Which will lead to even more trouble. Your son needs you both to be better examples than what society has shown our kids!!! I know it hurts and you need answers but truthfully closure is for the weak-minded. Give yourself some time, but please don't go back to him. I will pray for your strength and safety!!!!

Psalms 18:48 He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on April 25, 2012 at 12:07pm

He hit you because he was angry and does not mind using violence on women and kids. Since you're the type of woman that will challenge him it wont be good for you. And your son will get hurt because no matter how big he is he no match of a grown man that was trained to kill.

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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on April 25, 2012 at 12:08pm

I don't want to talk or see him. So I sent him an brief email. Here it is:

To My Dear Solden,

You definitely became part of my life, so saying good bye is the
toughest thing to do. I still love and care for you. We are there with
each other in times of struggles and in good times, but we do not know
where the future will bring us.

My heart absolutely aches in our last confrontation and until now the
pain is still there. I write this letter to tell you for the last time
that I honestly love you, and this will not be last time that I will
cry for you. I cannot personally talk to you and say good bye, so
please do consider this letter as my final message to you.

I remember that moment when I walked away from you, but I can’t help
it to be away from you and return to you. But this time, I do not have
any idea when will I be back, but you will always have a special place
to my heart.

Farewell to you my dear.

Take care always.

Tangie

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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on April 25, 2012 at 12:11pm

Yes Tone you are so right. And I was thinking just now. I was recently promoted to Hr manager at my company. I wonder if he feels intimidated that I am finally making good money.

Tone said:

He hit you because he was angry and does not mind using violence on women and kids. Since you're the type of woman that will challenge him it wont be good for you. And your son will get hurt because no matter how big he is he no match of a grown man that was trained to kill.

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Permalink Reply by Diva706 on April 25, 2012 at 12:14pm

You are right, my son has a very bad temper.

JustMe said:

Like I told my cousin, go back and you possibly make your son a killer...

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on April 25, 2012 at 12:15pm

Girl what is this?? This is a message saying "come sweet talk me real good so we can get back together." That FOOL does not DESERVE a good bye! YOU need to walk and never look back!
Diva706 said:

I don't want to talk or see him. So I sent him an brief email. Here it is:

To My Dear Solden,

You definitely became part of my life, so saying good bye is the
toughest thing to do. I still love and care for you. We are there with
each other in times of struggles and in good times, but we do not know
where the future will bring us.

My heart absolutely aches in our last confrontation and until now the
pain is still there. I write this letter to tell you for the last time
that I honestly love you, and this will not be last time that I will
cry for you. I cannot personally talk to you and say good bye, so
please do consider this letter as my final message to you.

I remember that moment when I walked away from you, but I can’t help
it to be away from you and return to you. But this time, I do not have
any idea when will I be back, but you will always have a special place
to my heart.

Farewell to you my dear.

Take care always.

Tangie

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