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confused........or Is the picture painted clear?????????

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Ok ladies I need your advice.
I meet this guy we been talking for some months, he tells me about this chick he use to talk to but things went down south since she was in Dallas in he in houston, and he couldn't do long distance. Anyways we been chillin, he been wining and dining me and out of nowhere last nite he was like you need to find a guy friend I was like wtf in my head !!! WelI I didn't say nothing to the statement cuz we was at the sports bar, but when we was driving home I was like where that come from? He tells me he not ready for the love thing and if the out of town girl comes back along then me and him gonna have to remain friends. Well me being a bit confused I ask him so you want me to play 1st right now but just be precaution if she comes back in the picture I'm 2nd!!! He told me right now I am not 2nd!! ok Its still on my mind so I text him last nite I'm not playing 2nd to nobody and he needs to make up his mind. He told me to enjoy what we have and just have fun. Idk what to make of this situation I really need advice its bugging me!!!
P.S. You think he still talking to ole girl cause I thought he was finish with her from what he told me early on!!!

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This was a difficult read.. I thought you were saying HE needed to find a guy friend!


Btw, It doesn't matter who he's talking to... he does not want to be in a SERIOUS relationship! So if that is what you are looking for... now would be the time to leave him alone!

Now don't come back on here with one of those dayum "Men are know good" stories! l0l

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I was thinking that! Well we will see I will keep you updated lovie.

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He really did spell it out in plain english. You are just there for the meantime, to keep his bed warm till his ace come around. You ARE in second place, now its you choice on what u wana do.

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I'm not trying to be mean but the truth is ugly...

This dude is telling you he doesn't want yo ass. You're second right now..you'll be second if the girl comes back and you'll be second when he find someone else that he likes.

Sheesh..When a man shows you who he is and what his intentions are with you BELIEVE HIS ASS and walk away! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see "He's Just Not That Into You".



I'm sorry but I've been reading BA for a minute and there are some bad mammas on here that don't put up with or post stuff like this. All of a sudden there is this influx of chicks asking for advice about situations they should already know how to handle.

"He say he don't love me and that he has other girls but he calls me to come over and gives me the good D. I know he doesn't give all his girls the good D. I must be special, right? What should I do?"

"My friend is fuckin' the whole Raven's squad but thinks she's special and they shouldn't fuck other girls.. What should she do?"

"My friend got beat across the face with a rose' bottle when her baller's wife confronted her but she still love him and won't leave. What she do?

WTF??

I think I may have to log off for a few...lol

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Niggas get on my nerves...lol Cocky arrogant bastards...

Move on chile...there is no respect there.

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Shooot, I didn't believe guys give it to females this straight. He already let you know, it's up to you what to do next.

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He already told you what you are asking us... he said "he not ready for the love thing and if the out of town girl comes back along then me and him gonna have to remain friends. " YOu are just something for him to do right now until his girl comes back, so either you're cool with being that or you need to move on. If you agree to stay, then don't be mad or hurt when the real girl comes back and you're out the picture, he told you up front, what it was.

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Sounds to me like hes stringing you along and he dosent have much respect for your feelings. I feel you could do a lot better! How could he have the nerve to even come at you like that? U need to leave him alone in my opinion.

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He has to still be taking to tha other girl.....like you said he's wining and dining you so you aren't just a fuck buddy but he has this fantasy that he could have something better with the other girl. Move out the way. Find another man and FORGET about him. Chances are he will not be able to forget about you but if he wants her so be it. You can't fight his desires and if you already know second is not your place you can make the decision now to cut him lose or you can wait til he actually puts her over you, get tired of him, then cut him lose. The ball is in your court. When men are faced with losing the ones they care for they do strange things....I say you move on, then you will see how he truly feels about you. He might just be scared cause his last attempt at love didn't work out........um, so in that case feel him out a little more then make your decision. I know I'm confused too......lol. But I think he does care for ya.....real talk and he doesn't want you to be unhappy

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I don't think it can get much clearer than that . He said you were #2 and you need to find a guy friend ! No man that cares about you will tell you to go date someone else period ! You need to let him go and find someone that wants you and puts you first . Who the hell does he think he is saying that you need to just have fun and enjoy what you have ( which is nothing ) . You deserve better ... hell we all do !

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Im sorry, but I dont see the long distance between Dallas & Houston! Long distance to me is like Michigan & Texas, now thats some long distance 4 ur a$$! U said u dont play 2nd 2 no one, so...... r u still confused?

In my infamous three words...KEEP IT MOVING!!!!

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Unless you are a female after the money and don't catch feelings. Continue to get wined and dined..and keep it moving. Fuck him..

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