Oprah had a lady on her show that was giving advice on how to talk about sex with your children...she stated that you should introduce a vibrator to your teen daughter so they can explore themselves...so they would not get confused with boys are the ones making them climax. Basically...you can do it yourself and you have the power.
I never heard anything like this in my life...would you buy your 13 year old daughter a vibrator?
The lady was making a lot of really good points untill she said the word vibrator. I would never buy a child a vibrator, she would never leave her room. The look on Oprah's girls face (I can't remember her name) was priceless.
I would give my daughter a gift certificate to buy one at the age 15-16 because I know that is when I really started thinking about having sex and started having sex only because of the feeling. I didn't start masturbating until college and when I did, I wish I would have done it before I had sex because it would have took the edge off. I def understand where oprah was coming from saying that if the girl knows that feelings are not connected to a boy then she will be less likely to give herself and be attached to the boy. I wouldn't go out and buy it because she will only know what is good for her that's why I suggest a gift certificate, so she can research what feels good to her.
And did ya'll see on friday when they brought it up at the live taping and Gail was saying that girls shouldn't be masturbating until they are 18?! She also indicated that it is ok for boys to wank off saying that they get hard just about all the time. Well as a girl I get horny just about all the time. I think about sex prolly more than my male friends. My mom is just like her and told me that dirty girls masturbated. Hence, why i didn't start until I went away to college.
I have two baby sisters and I am going to make sure that i sit down and talk to them about sex (since my mom won't do it) and doing it for themselves. There is nothing more empowering than knowing your own body!
I saw the show and while it may seem outrageous its not... If they lil a**** is sending naked pic's thru text they need a talk... I would rather my daughter be touching herself at 15-16 then for her to be having sex with a 19-20 year old or even boys her own age... Do you know how many men I know that have lost their virginity to girls that were bet the ages of 13-16 when the boy was bet the ages of 10-12? So obviously by 16 a girl is very curious to say the least... If you don't talk to your children their sexually uneducated friends will... Which would you rather?
We don't live in bubbles and people shouldn't act as if we do... This is the real world... It may not be what you want to do, but it needs to be done... I don't know why society is ok with a dad having the birds and bees talk with his son at 13/14 even younger in some cases but you talk to a 15 year old girl about masterbastion it means Oprah is running out of topics...
Are we all aware that children are being prosecuted by states for sending pics of themselves thru text? Being charged with the distribution of child pornography? That child's parents are the same ones at home turning a blind eye, waiting for the childs 18th or 21st birthday to talk about sex, and pleasure and how the female body works...
You don't have to say s*** to your child if you don't want to... But when the unexpected occurs... Who are you really going to blame?
Every school does not offer sex education, a,d even if they did the parent needs to step in... This is not 30-50 years ago... This now, so you either deal with it now or wait 9 months... S*** is real in the field (lol I had to laugh at myself for using that saying)
I didn't see the show...but I can understand why Oprah had people on to discuss this...You have more and more teens(not just black) that are becoming pregnant these days. The only concern I would have is self-climaxing is NOT the problem or the issue, so a vibrator will solve nothing. The problem is young girls wanting to please/keep their boyfriends...so a vibrator is not needed and will not solve anything. It has been proven time and time again that most or a lot of women(especially young women) do not even have or have ever had a real orgasm...so this is obvious not the main reason they are having sex with boys.
i absolutely would not buy my teenage daughter a vibrator. as teenagers, more often than not, they don't even know how to climax and are just excited about the attention from the boys. nothing can change that desire for affirmation that we are socialized to desire. as grown women (with vibrators and 10X the maturity), we still have the desire to deal with a body even though we may have a whole home depot tool box in the drawer. nothing can replace the intamacy for the girls, just as this is true for us. giving a teenager a vibrator will only do what it does for adult women. they will want something more, will want to climax in a certain way, and will need a more experienced boy/ man, hence making them "faster" ALL AT AN EARLIER AGE (and yes I just used the everyday term, because promiscuous sounded too nice). in my opinion, toys just enhance your freakiness, and i definitely would not sign my daughter up for that.
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