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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on May 26, 2011 at 5:12pm

A wise woman around here once said..........."When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM"

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Permalink Reply by Golden Child on May 26, 2011 at 5:19pm

Bravo! She said it! I mean what other evidence do you need to leave him? You're not married, kids or not no one can live like that. That's like me getting back with my daughter's father, oh hell no! I can't put up with anyone I can't trust at all. Don't be hanging in there thinking you might get a ring, because please believe when and if you were to get married it only gets worse!

University of Smitty said:

A wise woman around here once said..........."When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM"

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Permalink Reply by Candy on May 26, 2011 at 5:29pm

Couldn't have said it better. So to answer your question NO!

University of Smitty said:

A wise woman around here once said..........."When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM"

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Permalink Reply by Bobbie.Go.Get.It. on May 26, 2011 at 5:31pm

Covergryl, I was going through the same thing... Well Almost.. I hacked into my then bf's facebook and saw allll kind of s***..took him back and he kept lying and my intuition kept telling me drop his ass he doesn't love you enough to be faithful..The last straw was when I found out he was f****** PLENTY other girls unprotected. Like Samantha on Sex and the City said to cheating ass Richard, " I love you, but I love ME MORE". You deserve better! Keep yourself up and that good man will come along! *hugs*

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Permalink Reply by Creative Bee on May 26, 2011 at 5:34pm

let the bad man go so the good one could take his place. Your time is precious don't waste it on worries and no he wont change

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Permalink Reply by DB on May 26, 2011 at 5:41pm

I agree with everyone else.. I was in this exact situation except for I almost married this negro (ring and all).. He always had some sort of excuse or lie even when it wasn't necessary (like if I asked what color his red shirt was this negro would probably tell my ass it was green).. The point is, I stayed for five years because I loved him and I kept letting him get in my head with all his "Ive changed" b******* so you have to leave when YOU'RE READY. Because if you leave before you're sure, you'll probably end up going right back or convincing yourself that you didn't "try hard enough" when in actuality, you tried much harder than you ever should have... You sure this negro isn't related to my ex-fiance?! Once your heart starts to feel heavy, enough is enough.. No marriage can result from that much damage.

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Permalink Reply by luvsmoochez on May 26, 2011 at 6:25pm

Your heart already knows the answer and the reality of it is that you will give up when you are ready. No matter what your brother says or anyone posts here. I think many of us can relate. We cling on to hope and years go by. I don't know how old you are, but time is precious. You don't get to do it again. I am speaking from experience. I gave up all of my twenties to an underserving soul and all the signs were there just as with you, but I kept hoping....a divorce and a baby later I know that it was all in vain. He is showing you who he is...believe him.  

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Permalink Reply by Desiree' on May 26, 2011 at 7:58pm

I think you should move on and realize you are worth more than that

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Permalink Reply by NoPaparazziPlz on May 26, 2011 at 8:32pm

God works in mysterious ways I swear having the same issues wondering if I should give someone a second chance mine are more abandonment issues. But OMG @University of Smitty someone else posted that on FB yesterday and the fact that you posted it here today is clearly a MSG to take heed! I really must agree with that statement it is the realest sh*t I ever heard!

 

@Covergyrl sometimes we have to take our emotions out of a situation and ask ourselves what would we tell someone else to do, although this is easier said then done, I have been using this method myself because if I would tell someone else to leave what makes me different? Trust is one of the key elements in a successful relationship without trust you are headed toward a string of issues that will only snowball. If you can not trust someone you will never be satisfied with their truth even if it TRULY is the truth.

 

sn...sorry for the twitter @ signs haven't figured out how to do the reply and re-posting of others comments.

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Permalink Reply by NoPaparazziPlz on May 26, 2011 at 8:34pm

Well said! 

 

And I figured out how to reply and re-post! Yes!

luvsmoochez said:

Your heart already knows the answer and the reality of it is that you will give up when you are ready. No matter what your brother says or anyone posts here. I think many of us can relate. We cling on to hope and years go by. I don't know how old you are, but time is precious. You don't get to do it again. I am speaking from experience. I gave up all of my twenties to an underserving soul and all the signs were there just as with you, but I kept hoping....a divorce and a baby later I know that it was all in vain. He is showing you who he is...believe him.  

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Permalink Reply by Miss Double Kiss on May 26, 2011 at 9:53pm

You have lots of good advice I think you should take it and RUN do not walk away from him...

Cut your losses now before you really find yourself in a situation you regret.

 

And whoever gave that advice about your time being precious...I cosign to that all day. If you stay with someone who makes you unhappy because you fear being alone, starting over, leaving your financial comfort zone, or whatever....you will realize that years have gone by and you can never get that back. I suggest you think about this situation from a perspective if you only had X amount of (weeks/months or years) left to live...and roll with that. Would you make things simplier and more fulfilling? Or would you stay stuck in your last moments with someone who would rather spend time with someone else knowing you don't have a lot left yourself....? Just another way to see things. If you don't think your time is valuable and thus all of you, well neither would he.

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Permalink Reply by STR8HAIRTONTO on May 26, 2011 at 11:19pm

ITS LIFE! WIN SOME LOOSE SOME! DROP HIM LIKE A BAD HABIT AND DONT THINK TWICE ABOUT!

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