Do you actually keep a physical list comprised of things you want from a man.

So I'm flipping through the channels and I come across this show "Why am I still Single" (yea yea i know I'm bored as all hell and cant wait to go back to work...lol).  And they had a woman on there who kept a board comprised of men that had specific traits that she wanted in one man.  I thought it was hilarious, and interesting as hell at the same time.  I mean I keep a personal goals board. I also keep specific quotes in my wallet as well.  But do any of you prestigious gals have one of these?

Tags: crazy, wtf

Views: 300

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Incorrect, I said I email it to men I'm talking to...Um who's making it a war?? Didn't know that writing an explanation was a war...but ok 0_o...it's weird to you, your opinion...we're gonna agree to disagree...

blackfujones said:
Im gone need you to fall back just a tad. You do realize everything isnt a war right? I asked a simple question and you could've gave a simple answer.  You said you handed out lists to men correct, so I came to the conclusion you handed out list. And yeah that s*** still is weird.

AllyNWonderland said:
It's not me handing it every guy I meet...smh...And it doesn't start off with "oh here's my list"...Can you stop being so simple because you're giving me a Tone vibe....If I'm talking to a man and we discuss what we want, then it comes up. It's NO DIFFERENT then telling the other person what you want and what you're looking for, it's just in a written format.
I add and remove from my vision board just like a list I paste pics or words over old ones. I understand your perspective different strokes...

blackfujones said:
Ive just always felt vision boards made me get tunnel visioned, whereas if I wrote stuff down I could always go back and erase stuff in add more.  I guess I just feel differently about it....no knock on it tho.
Siren said:
I had created a list when I was single to narrow down what was really important to me and things I could not compromise on. Like creativebee my Vision Boards have worked. As for the list I never physically gave it to anyone but I did discuss what i wanted with guys I dated... the one that it didn't scare off was the one i walked down the aisle with so for me I must say it worked fine. Your thoughts manifest themselves into your reality.
I agree with Ally. I know exactly what I want in a woman.  Trust, loyalty, and respect are just the foundation blocks that I would assume were a part of the deal from the beginning.  I'm big on being progressive in a relationship, and the goals stated on a sheet or out loud give us a road map. Writing them down gives you a benchmark that can be reference as well. Some folks just live their lives day to day and expect things to just work out. Not me...I make a plan for success. 

AllyNWonderland said:
Incorrect, I said I email it to men I'm talking to...Um who's making it a war?? Didn't know that writing an explanation was a war...but ok 0_o...it's weird to you, your opinion...we're gonna agree to disagree...

blackfujones said:
Im gone need you to fall back just a tad. You do realize everything isnt a war right? I asked a simple question and you could've gave a simple answer.  You said you handed out lists to men correct, so I came to the conclusion you handed out list. And yeah that s*** still is weird.

AllyNWonderland said:
It's not me handing it every guy I meet...smh...And it doesn't start off with "oh here's my list"...Can you stop being so simple because you're giving me a Tone vibe....If I'm talking to a man and we discuss what we want, then it comes up. It's NO DIFFERENT then telling the other person what you want and what you're looking for, it's just in a written format.

That said, I see the appeal of a vision board though. I know what I want. No need for me to visualize but not everyone has had the same experiences that I've had.  Everyone's journey is different. I like what the ladies have said about their different vision boards and how seeing it before them makes them re-evaluate their goals. I can do that mentally but not everyone does.  Different strokes for different folks. Whatever gets people into a good healthy relationship is a good thing.

 

Hmmm, maybe I need to recommend vision boards to some of the people in my life who are struggling.

blackfujones said:

well there ya go.
CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:
Nope. No written list. I know what I want and what I don't want. Simple as that.
i have a list too... but mine is kinda different... it's a list of everything I DONT WANT in a man... so if that trait or attribute pops up in someone new... i know to quickly dismiss him and not waste anymore time, because i know it's a deal breaker.
CC...I do think this is a good thing to recommend to someone who is struggling. I have vision boards for other things in life, but never really applied this to include a relationship. Being that I was married so long and so young now that I am single again I do need some direction and this may be just the thing that works. I just didnt want to come off looking crazy like Chilli, but like someone else said....I will stay away from the superficial stuff.  

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

That said, I see the appeal of a vision board though. I know what I want. No need for me to visualize but not everyone has had the same experiences that I've had.  Everyone's journey is different. I like what the ladies have said about their different vision boards and how seeing it before them makes them re-evaluate their goals. I can do that mentally but not everyone does.  Different strokes for different folks. Whatever gets people into a good healthy relationship is a good thing.

 

Hmmm, maybe I need to recommend vision boards to some of the people in my life who are struggling.
blackfujones said:

well there ya go. CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:
Nope. No written list. I know what I want and what I don't want. Simple as that.
i have a vision board yes but not with a a list of what i want in my man. that's already in my head enough i dont wanna see it on my wall everyday.

Reply to Discussion

RSS

ADVERTISEMENT

Connect



BallerBoards

THE BEST OF MOMENTS ON BALLER ALERT...

Started by Baller Alert in Talk Ish. Last reply by MissMidwest 5 hours ago. 110 Replies

We are new...but we already have some best of moments....Name your favorite......Continue

Tags: of, baller, best, alert

I Need To Start Going To the Library....

Started by Baller Alert in Talk Ish. Last reply by MissMidwest 5 hours ago. 53 Replies

Continue

Tags: hung

Oxymoron: Wack Dack

Started by Kharysma in Talk Ish. Last reply by Dragon Slayer Puss 9 hours ago. 11 Replies

Y'all I am livid! My world is upside down! How can what used to be do good feel so bad? Ugh! I am lying next to a fine piece. This ninja got a lick-me allover body that's chiseled to perfection;…Continue

Tags: selective, purse, ugh, wet, wtf

Married to Medicine

Started by Moving In Silence in Talk Ish. Last reply by Ms. Ashley Banks 10 hours ago. 65 Replies

I can't wait to watch. Will you?It comes on Bravo. Sunday March 24 @9pm.Continue

Tags: Doctors

GLAM TV

Latest Activity

Eleven8's 6 blog posts were featured
1 hour ago
Eleven8 posted blog posts
1 hour ago
Peachkyss posted blog posts
1 hour ago
Peachkyss's blog post was featured
1 hour ago
CaramelDream commented on Eleven8's blog post Kanye West & Kim Kardashian Send Out Baby Shower Invites
"I like this pic. She looks pretty and happy, and this is one of the few times I have seen Kanye…"
1 hour ago
MissMidwest replied to Baller Alert's discussion THE BEST OF MOMENTS ON BALLER ALERT...
"SHITTY SHEETS…"
5 hours ago
MissMidwest replied to Baller Alert's discussion I Need To Start Going To the Library....
"Okay so it's not exactly THAT huge but the minute I saw this pic, it instantly reminded…"
5 hours ago
MissMidwest commented on Eleven8's blog post Woman Sues Eagles' LeSean McCoy For Humiliating Her & Throwing Her Off Party Bus
"Comment by Sheli on…"
5 hours ago
MissMidwest commented on Eleven8's blog post I Hate The Word "Exotic" & Here's Why..
"I agree with DJ, this blog post was obviously not written as malicious and racially focused,…"
5 hours ago
Skylas the limit commented on Eleven8's blog post Reggie Bush & Fiance Name Newborn Daughter Briseis
"Reminds me of drew breezs lol"
7 hours ago
Dragon Slayer Puss commented on Baller Alert's blog post Ballerific Health & Fashion - Look Cute At The Gym
"The way I went to the gym looking today should be against the law!! I'm taking and running…"
9 hours ago
Dragon Slayer Puss replied to Kharysma's discussion Oxymoron: Wack Dack
"Ahhhhh the loan always evens the score! Great read *giggles*"
9 hours ago

© 2013   Created by Baller Alert.

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service

Offline

Live Video