Do you actually keep a physical list comprised of things you want from a man.

So I'm flipping through the channels and I come across this show "Why am I still Single" (yea yea i know I'm bored as all hell and cant wait to go back to work...lol).  And they had a woman on there who kept a board comprised of men that had specific traits that she wanted in one man.  I thought it was hilarious, and interesting as hell at the same time.  I mean I keep a personal goals board. I also keep specific quotes in my wallet as well.  But do any of you prestigious gals have one of these?

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Incorrect, I said I email it to men I'm talking to...Um who's making it a war?? Didn't know that writing an explanation was a war...but ok 0_o...it's weird to you, your opinion...we're gonna agree to disagree...

blackfujones said:
Im gone need you to fall back just a tad. You do realize everything isnt a war right? I asked a simple question and you could've gave a simple answer.  You said you handed out lists to men correct, so I came to the conclusion you handed out list. And yeah that s*** still is weird.

AllyNWonderland said:
It's not me handing it every guy I meet...smh...And it doesn't start off with "oh here's my list"...Can you stop being so simple because you're giving me a Tone vibe....If I'm talking to a man and we discuss what we want, then it comes up. It's NO DIFFERENT then telling the other person what you want and what you're looking for, it's just in a written format.
I add and remove from my vision board just like a list I paste pics or words over old ones. I understand your perspective different strokes...

blackfujones said:
Ive just always felt vision boards made me get tunnel visioned, whereas if I wrote stuff down I could always go back and erase stuff in add more.  I guess I just feel differently about it....no knock on it tho.
Siren said:
I had created a list when I was single to narrow down what was really important to me and things I could not compromise on. Like creativebee my Vision Boards have worked. As for the list I never physically gave it to anyone but I did discuss what i wanted with guys I dated... the one that it didn't scare off was the one i walked down the aisle with so for me I must say it worked fine. Your thoughts manifest themselves into your reality.
I agree with Ally. I know exactly what I want in a woman.  Trust, loyalty, and respect are just the foundation blocks that I would assume were a part of the deal from the beginning.  I'm big on being progressive in a relationship, and the goals stated on a sheet or out loud give us a road map. Writing them down gives you a benchmark that can be reference as well. Some folks just live their lives day to day and expect things to just work out. Not me...I make a plan for success. 

AllyNWonderland said:
Incorrect, I said I email it to men I'm talking to...Um who's making it a war?? Didn't know that writing an explanation was a war...but ok 0_o...it's weird to you, your opinion...we're gonna agree to disagree...

blackfujones said:
Im gone need you to fall back just a tad. You do realize everything isnt a war right? I asked a simple question and you could've gave a simple answer.  You said you handed out lists to men correct, so I came to the conclusion you handed out list. And yeah that s*** still is weird.

AllyNWonderland said:
It's not me handing it every guy I meet...smh...And it doesn't start off with "oh here's my list"...Can you stop being so simple because you're giving me a Tone vibe....If I'm talking to a man and we discuss what we want, then it comes up. It's NO DIFFERENT then telling the other person what you want and what you're looking for, it's just in a written format.

That said, I see the appeal of a vision board though. I know what I want. No need for me to visualize but not everyone has had the same experiences that I've had.  Everyone's journey is different. I like what the ladies have said about their different vision boards and how seeing it before them makes them re-evaluate their goals. I can do that mentally but not everyone does.  Different strokes for different folks. Whatever gets people into a good healthy relationship is a good thing.

 

Hmmm, maybe I need to recommend vision boards to some of the people in my life who are struggling.

blackfujones said:

well there ya go.
CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:
Nope. No written list. I know what I want and what I don't want. Simple as that.
i have a list too... but mine is kinda different... it's a list of everything I DONT WANT in a man... so if that trait or attribute pops up in someone new... i know to quickly dismiss him and not waste anymore time, because i know it's a deal breaker.
CC...I do think this is a good thing to recommend to someone who is struggling. I have vision boards for other things in life, but never really applied this to include a relationship. Being that I was married so long and so young now that I am single again I do need some direction and this may be just the thing that works. I just didnt want to come off looking crazy like Chilli, but like someone else said....I will stay away from the superficial stuff.  

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

That said, I see the appeal of a vision board though. I know what I want. No need for me to visualize but not everyone has had the same experiences that I've had.  Everyone's journey is different. I like what the ladies have said about their different vision boards and how seeing it before them makes them re-evaluate their goals. I can do that mentally but not everyone does.  Different strokes for different folks. Whatever gets people into a good healthy relationship is a good thing.

 

Hmmm, maybe I need to recommend vision boards to some of the people in my life who are struggling.
blackfujones said:

well there ya go. CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:
Nope. No written list. I know what I want and what I don't want. Simple as that.
i have a vision board yes but not with a a list of what i want in my man. that's already in my head enough i dont wanna see it on my wall everyday.

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