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Permalink Reply by DB on June 11, 2012 at 8:19pm

I f*** just to f*** occasionally lol people have this idea that sex is only important to men and that women can't have sex with a man "just because" or without catching feelings <- that's b*******! I've done it while on vacation, because I'd been sexless for too long (I literally just had to have it and don't even talk to the guy anymore), because I was just horny lol afterwards, I don't feel played because I got what I wanted out of the arrangement lol I don't think of myself any less or feel guilty because in the words of Drake "I get lonely too" lol as long as its done safely and because it's what you want to do, there's no reason to feel guilty, played, or used (he might feel used though lol) 

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Permalink Reply by Nu Kardashian on June 11, 2012 at 8:45pm

i am one of those girls who cant have sex with out a commitment ! i dont judge others but my body is my temple and if you cant respect me enough to commit then my brother, you just cant hit !! lol

ive been celibate for almost a year and im ok with satisfying myself with an adult toy, at least im guaranteed my nut

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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on June 11, 2012 at 8:47pm

Well if you don't give it to him, someone else will. I never ever feel guilty. Guilt is a burden that keeps me from giving myself fully and freely to the present.
Sometimes the healthiest thing one can do for oneself is admit that they are not perfect. We are human.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 11, 2012 at 9:00pm

if you can disassociate sex from relationships/bonding/all the biblical stuff etc than yeah...if you cant then dont....me i can do it and not think twice

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on June 11, 2012 at 9:06pm

Gurl you better get some!  I have had a fubu before and it was strickly just that no..calls or text to say hi no sleeping over it was what it was..made sure it ended before either party caught feelings. Vacation nookie is liberating..lol full relaxation.

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 11, 2012 at 9:11pm

This!! It's all in your perception, but I'm selective, can't just have any randoms up in my system.

blackfujones said:

if you can disassociate sex from relationships/bonding/all the biblical stuff etc than yeah...if you cant then dont....me i can do it and not think twice

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 11, 2012 at 9:14pm

yes maam..ive always been able to separate sex from other things...i put it into a whole other category.  usually id hang with people who had the same perception, bc i hate being judged and judging others.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

This!! It's all in your perception.

blackfujones said:

if you can disassociate sex from relationships/bonding/all the biblical stuff etc than yeah...if you cant then dont....me i can do it and not think twice

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on June 11, 2012 at 9:27pm

Oh, I can definitely disassociate sex from relationships and all that, but It's VERY rare that I have sex just for the sex (unless Im in a REAL relationship), its usually about me gaining something in ONE way or another...
 
blackfujones said:

if you can disassociate sex from relationships/bonding/all the biblical stuff etc than yeah...if you cant then dont....me i can do it and not think twice

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Permalink Reply by Savoir Faire on June 12, 2012 at 2:35am

Same here.  I tried it and I just wasn't satisfied even though the sex was good.

If you don't have that issue then go for it.  Why not?

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

This!! It's all in your perception, but I'm selective, can't just have any randoms up in my system.

blackfujones said:

if you can disassociate sex from relationships/bonding/all the biblical stuff etc than yeah...if you cant then dont....me i can do it and not think twice

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Permalink Reply by Jae Nei on June 12, 2012 at 3:59am

I was the chick who "didn't do casual sex" so I was always walking around with a jacked up attitude. I mean, of course I can use a toy or two (or more) and get a nut, but there's nothing like having that nut come a nice, fat, and juicy one. 

So now I have a "casual sex" buddy and we use each other splendidly. No emotional entanglements. Just great sex and the occasional game of PHASE 10. We're open and honest about all things sexual in our lives, and fall back when one or both of us are seriously dating. But, once a relationship is over, we fall right back into our f*** buddy roles.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on June 12, 2012 at 5:23am

I actually had a system, i'd go for about two months, hit my FBuddy up and get right, then holla at him next time. I actually like one that im not romantically or emotionally vested in. Emotions mess it up, and u might as well be in a relationship if u are givin up chooch to someone u WANNA be with. I  started this celibacy thing by default. Fbuddy was actin like, you only call me when u want some, and you don't even check on me, so no, I dont wanna do it. I was like huh???????????????? I wasnt gon beg, so I just decided to do some soul searching and this happened. I will say that I only do it when I want to do it. If I ever did it because they wanted it, without any commitment to me, THEN I felt used.  but if I called??? u needed to be getting ready for u already know what lol

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on June 12, 2012 at 10:00am

If you know going in what the deal is, then do you.  Just strap up!!!!!!!

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