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Permalink Reply by Ms. Ashley Banks on April 21, 2010 at 2:49pm

*hugs Pamela*

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Permalink Reply by Pamela on April 21, 2010 at 2:55pm

Thanks!!!
You know the stupid thing is. I'm with him everyday, allday except when I'm at work from 9-5. We sleep together every night. We like all the same things entertainment wise so we hang tough. HE's calling my phone before I can walk out the door at 5 telling me where to meet him. If he's not in my face, he's calling to see how long it will take for me to get to him. I guess he's f****** these chicks for breakfast and lunch or something.

I know I should have expected no less than this.

Just f****** why LIE

***DAMN, stupid hearts and minds for wanting to believe even when it's not likely"

Ashley Banks said:

*hugs Pamela*

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Permalink Reply by Miss Double Kiss on April 21, 2010 at 2:58pm

Yeah....just take a moment to not entertain them or any relationship drama today....go be at peace with your own thoughts even the ones that bring you back to why your even feel the way you do now....at the end of the day you have to be happy and if the former flame or mister money bags ain't doing it for you (meaning putting in real quality time), their loss, right?? You come off as smart and driven so you already have an idea of what to do, but its no fun getting played for less than you're worth but it sounds that's what the ex is doing..it happens to even the most beautiful and warm hearted woman....AT LEAST you are seeing them for who they are now rather than later..And your ex is "your ex" for a REASON so don't look back! What is meant for you will be just for you. Be well...

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Permalink Reply by Pamela on April 21, 2010 at 3:10pm

Thanks MDK

I guess (Whitney Houstons old "Hurt so bad") sums up about where I'm at. I gotta get him outta my head.
I'll be o.k by tomorrow.
I just have to make it through today and this initial disappointment.
I know it's sounds stupid but I'm really still in shock.

I really thought since "HE" wanted it this time that things would REALLY be different.

Miss Double Kiss said:

Yeah....just take a moment to not entertain them or any relationship drama today....go meditate and be at peace with your own thoughts even the ones that bring you back to why your even feel the way you do now....at the end of the day you have to be happy and if mister money bags ain't doing it for you, his loss, right?? You come off as smart and driven so you already have an idea of what to do, but its no fun getting played for less than you're worth....it happens to even the most beautiful and warm hearted woman....AT LEAST you are seeing them for who they are now rather than later... And your ex is "your ex" for a REASON so don't look back!!!! Be well...

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on April 21, 2010 at 3:14pm

I know you are upset but you have to be strong. You are not stupid for giving love another try, that's understandable. I think you know what to do and you will be ok. There is no other hurt like betrayal and use that hurt to let him go or to let him know how angry you are and that this is it. It's going to be real hard sugar but try to make yourself feel as hard as steele. Even if you have to visualize yourself all wrapped up like Iron Man do whatever you can to be strong about the whole thing because if he knows you are weak for him he will use that to his advantage.

Keep your head up and hey, maybe you might want to give the dude you used to talk too a call and see if he is a good listener and a comfortable shoulder to cry on,LOL , it wouldn't hurt right about now. He probably can take your mind off the pain. And seeing as ya'll had never had sex then ya'll still have a chance.

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Permalink Reply by RoyaleT on April 21, 2010 at 3:20pm

The rich guy makes you feel lonely and vulnerable so you trying to hold on to something with him is wasting ur energy and your ex is just an idiot. I say you separate yourself from both of them and start anew. I had a bf do almost the exact same thing to me so I know your pain (and trust me.....I really wish I didn't) I cried every damn day all day for about 2 weeks. It happens.......take it one day at a time. *hugs you too*

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on April 21, 2010 at 3:44pm

Sorry to hear that Pam........this too shall pass. Give him up cold turkey for awhile, at least until you get yourself together. You wont stand a chance trying to deal with him now.

LOL @ f**king for breakfast and lunch. They never cease to amaze, do they????........smh

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Permalink Reply by Pamela on April 21, 2010 at 3:52pm

Thanks so much ladies.

It's like your dumbfounded as to why niggas can be so damn trifflin.
Like why woe me back just to cheat on me...... DUMB ASS NIGGA YOU WERE SINGLE WHEN I LET YOU GO.
Why come back if it's not your thing.

My chest is hurting so bad today, it's like I can't breathe.
The sad thing is. I don't want to FEEL THIS HURT by him.

I don't want to cry for him...AGAIN.
But I can't shake this feelin RIGHT NOW!

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Permalink Reply by Tracy on April 21, 2010 at 4:00pm

Take the remainder of today and today ONLY to cry, scream, eat a gallon of ice cream, etc. Wake up tomorrow and keep it moving. You deserve better and you will get better - just not from either of these two. And most of all, you have to stop asking WHY......you will drive yourself batty trying to answer a question that he can't even answer for himself. I'm sending over Kleenex, hugs, and ice cream...is butter pecan ok?

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on April 21, 2010 at 4:18pm

So you guys were hot and heavy for the last 3 weeks. Did you check the dates on the texts? Did you see any he sent out? Did it sound like he had actually been in contact with these chicks or were they looking for him in the daytime with a flash light? From your blog it sounds like the BM hasnt seen him in awhile. You know we like to cut a n***a first lol. Could it be that he's been single a year and officially(?) booed up 3 weeks and hasnt broken the news to all his jumpoff's? Technically he only has 8 hours a day for the past 3 weeks to get in touch with a years worth of azz. Maybe his hoes work and he hasnt been able to reach them all.

Dont shoot me....I'm sure most of this will be his argument anyway so at least you can prepare.

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Permalink Reply by RoyaleT on April 21, 2010 at 4:35pm

lol.....

smitty said:

So you guys were hot and heavy for the last 3 weeks. Did you check the dates on the texts? Did you see any he sent out? Did it sound like he had actually been in contact with these chicks or were they looking for him in the daytime with a flash light? From your blog it sounds like the BM hasnt seen him in awhile. You know we like to cut a n***a first lol. Could it be that he's been single a year and officially(?) booed up 3 weeks and hasnt broken the news to all his jumpoff's? Technically he only has 8 hours a day for the past 3 weeks to get in touch with a years worth of azz. Maybe his hoes work and he hasnt been able to reach them all.
Dont shoot me....I'm sure most of this will be his argument anyway so at least you can prepare.

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Permalink Reply by Pamela on April 21, 2010 at 4:51pm

Girl No. The text were all from yesterday. HE asked me to spend NY with him. I refused. He sweated me until V-Day and went out his way to impress me I still didn't spend that day with him.
We officially hooked back up 2/18. That's over 2 months now.

He deleted his outbox so I don't know what his responses were. I think he was just tired and forgot to delete the INBOX. As far as the BM, we've fell out about her before and she has said. She could care less that he's with me. If he comes, she'll open her legs b/c that's her BD and they will always have something special...EXACTLY SMDH!.

HE has told her before in front of me that he's with me but that was her response. HE swears he hates her so maybe that's the only reason it's been a while for her. I think the one chick who wanted to come over is the one we broke up over whom he suppossely hasn't seen since the fall out. YEAH RIGHT.

The other two b****** have me puzzled. Maybe he recruited them the 3 1/2 months I was gone trying to let him go.


I didn't say anything to him yet b/c we were at my house and I'll be damned if he causes a scene in my upscale neighborhood. I HAVE TO LIVE HERE. I was just sitting up all night since I read that s***. I deleted the last message that came in that made me look, so he probably still doesn't realize what has happened.
Also my new truck was downstairs and I didn't have time for no BS. Thank God his name isn't on any paperwork, I don't do the violent type but hell my truck still has the new car smell. I didn't want him to flip like f*** it. If I can't call you, give me my truck back.
So I was just staring into space until we left this morning.

This a****** has the nerve to text me. Have a good day babes, I luv U. The same way he does every morning. We usually talk during my lunch. I didn't call him today. So he's been calling and texting asking what I want for dinner and asking why I haven't called back yet.

Unfuckingbelievable

smitty said:

So you guys were hot and heavy for the last 3 weeks. Did you check the dates on the texts? Did you see any he sent out? Did it sound like he had actually been in contact with these chicks or were they looking for him in the daytime with a flash light? From your blog it sounds like the BM hasnt seen him in awhile. You know we like to cut a n***a first lol. Could it be that he's been single a year and officially(?) booed up 3 weeks and hasnt broken the news to all his jumpoff's? Technically he only has 8 hours a day for the past 3 weeks to get in touch with a years worth of azz. Maybe his hoes work and he hasnt been able to reach them all. Dont shoot me....I'm sure most of this will be his argument anyway so at least you can prepare.

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