For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
So i have to ask all of you ladies here cause it seems like at one point in time you may have had one two many or still do ballers in your life.
After being with a baller and being treated by them i.e: clothes, cars, bills, food, trips, good ass or what ever it may have been. how would you deal with going with a regular guy making regular money. Not being able to provide the flashy things that you have become accustom to. I personally have a hard time accepting regularness now. I have been showered and due to a previous post i have not had to work since i got some help from you lovely ladies as to gettig help with bills and stuff. please give me your point of view.
good to see that you are edging yourself to some business endeavor...just good to know you realize that was no long term goal. Good luck sweetie.
I do think that Just Me, Tone, Irresistable and myself presented valid points that go against the majority and that is okay.
Once again, read page 6! I encourage her to be independent, did NOT encourage her to f*** for tuition but hell so you telling me when and if you were dating, did you deal with a dude that didnt contribute to and value you enough as a woman to help you achieve your goals? No, I am telling her to do her thing! If she is dating a dude, she needs to require that he value her and her daughter! If they are just cut buddies, he STILL NEEDS TO CARE ENOUGH ABOUT HER TO CONTRIBUTE! And that is NOT Golddigging! It is a two-way street! And you damn right, I care enough about the lil chicks on here to GO HARD FOR THEM! To teach them to value themselves, to work for themselves to fall down and get back up, to hustle hard!
I KNOW what its like to raise kid(s) by yourself, I KNOW what it is like to have folks preach to you get your own, get a boyfriend/husband...well guess what, it costs in blood, sweat, and tears! It is not easy! These niggas (even the broke ass niggas) will use her for a nut and leave her b4 the next b**** can twist her ass, so yes, MAKE HIM VALUE YOU! MAKE HIM CONTRIBUTE AND GET YOURSELF TOGETHER! You just let a dude come sex you, take you out, "get your cookies" and leave and you dont have anything to show for it? No Ma'am!
She can be a MILLIONAIRE! SHE CAN FOSTER HER IDEAS! but she still is a sexual being that wants the love and touch of a man! Make him INVEST IN YOU! AND INVEST IN YOURSELF...POINT BLANK!
Sweetie, just focus on the big picture of getting your education and always being able to take care of you and your daughter on our own without a man - you may need help here and there to get there, but you will get there one day, just keep your eye on the prize, stay focused and always do what is best for your daughter above all else. If you always keep her your number one priority, you will be fine.
And please continue to keep your daughter away from your men, you are smart, she has no reason to ever know who they are unless you are in a long term committed to be married type relationship with someone. Its too confusing for little ones otherwise.
You sound like a smart woman with a good head on her shoulders - I'm rooting for you!!
Justyn Case said:
thank you Fly and Tru... I have never once took what im doing as whoring. I am getting my things together right now which i thnk will be the bigger picture. My guys appreciate that i am honest with them and they appreciate me trying to make a difference to make my daughters future as well as mine better. One of my guys told me one day that he thought it was crazy that i dont bring my daughter around or complain of my baby daddy cause alot of females do nothing but complain or wanna bring theyre kid/s around them. My daughter knows nothing of her father due to his choice. But i do send him pictures so i know in myself i tried.
What do you mean you like the new guy more or he is willing to give you more then the others are?
Justyn Case said:
@tru2this i agree with you. I was raised as the man takes care of home. I want it to be that way i like being pampered and treated to stuff. I do want to get married.
@tone i did not loose my baller i met another one about 3 weeks ago im doing everything different and this one is going in the direction i want it too. I previously had 2 managers and they still are on the roster just not as much as the new one. I have more of a chance with the new one. the other two were more of a non relation no feelings type of deal which i was fine with.
CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:
I hear what everyone is saying about work work work work your way to the top. But I'm here to tell you today that you can work work work work and still be broke broke broke broke. Not everyone is going to make it to the top by working their azz off. If that were so then I know a shytload of people who should be freaking BILLIONAIRES by now.
Girl, use what you got, while got it, to get where you want to go and don't listen no one telling you different. As long as you can do what you do, whatever you do, and look yourself in the mirror and be proud then you are ok. Shiiiiiid, if this site had existed when I was in my teens, with all this info...sigh...