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Permalink Reply by Miss Double Kiss on May 16, 2011 at 7:00pm

good to see that you are edging yourself to some business endeavor...just good to know you realize that was no long term goal. Good luck sweetie.

 

I do think that Just Me, Tone, Irresistable and myself presented valid points that go against the majority and that is okay.

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Permalink Reply by The Philly Corporate Diva on May 16, 2011 at 10:50pm

Thank you for this thought. You just made my day :)

Fly Chickadee said:

@DK:

Once again, read page 6! I encourage her to be independent, did NOT encourage her to f*** for tuition but hell so you telling me when and if you were dating, did you deal with a dude that didnt contribute to and value you enough as a woman to help you achieve your goals? No, I am telling her to do her thing! If she is dating a dude, she needs to require that he value her and her daughter! If they are just cut buddies, he STILL NEEDS TO CARE ENOUGH ABOUT HER TO CONTRIBUTE! And that is NOT Golddigging! It is a two-way street! And you damn right, I care enough about the lil chicks on here to GO HARD FOR THEM! To teach them to value themselves, to work for themselves to fall down and get back up, to hustle hard!

I KNOW what its like to raise kid(s) by yourself, I KNOW what it is like to have folks preach to you get your own, get a boyfriend/husband...well guess what, it costs in blood, sweat, and tears! It is not easy! These niggas (even the broke ass niggas) will use her for a nut and leave her b4 the next b**** can twist her ass, so yes, MAKE HIM VALUE YOU! MAKE HIM CONTRIBUTE AND GET YOURSELF TOGETHER! You just let a dude come sex you, take you out, "get your cookies" and leave and you dont have anything to show for it? No Ma'am!

She can be a MILLIONAIRE! SHE CAN FOSTER HER IDEAS! but she still is a sexual being that wants the love and touch of a man! Make him INVEST IN YOU! AND INVEST IN YOURSELF...POINT BLANK!

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Permalink Reply by tru2this on May 16, 2011 at 11:10pm

I have to agree with FLY all the way. Why would you spend time with a man, sex him, and do other things for free? Now I agree and I know she needs to have her own money as well. But when you ARE dating and sexing why give yourself away for free. She's right every time you let a man inside of you he takes apart of you with him and he's not even your husband! Girl get your money! All these chicks talking about you "whoring" yourself? Come on ladies how many men have you been with that didn't turn out to be your husband? And for free? I was just blessed to find a good man who wants to see me taken care of and happy, good men like that are out here and you can find them.

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Permalink Reply by Justyn Case on May 16, 2011 at 11:45pm

thank you Fly and Tru... I have never once took what im doing as whoring.  I am getting my things together right now which i thnk will be the bigger picture.  My guys appreciate that i am honest with them and they appreciate me trying to make a difference to make my daughters future as well as mine better.  One of my guys told me one day that he thought it was crazy that i dont bring my daughter around or complain of my baby daddy cause alot of females do nothing but complain or wanna bring theyre kid/s around them.  My daughter knows nothing of her father due to his choice.  But i do send him pictures so i know in myself i tried. 

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Permalink Reply by LuLu on May 16, 2011 at 11:59pm

Sweetie, just focus on the big picture of getting your education and always being able to take care of you and your daughter on our own without a man - you may need help here and there to get there, but you will get there one day, just keep your eye on the prize, stay focused and always do what is best for your daughter above all else.  If you always keep her your number one priority, you will be fine.

And please continue to keep your daughter away from your men, you are smart, she has no reason to ever know who they are unless you are in a long term committed to be married type relationship with someone.  Its too confusing for little ones otherwise.

You sound like a smart woman with a good head on her shoulders - I'm rooting for you!!

Justyn Case said:

thank you Fly and Tru... I have never once took what im doing as whoring.  I am getting my things together right now which i thnk will be the bigger picture.  My guys appreciate that i am honest with them and they appreciate me trying to make a difference to make my daughters future as well as mine better.  One of my guys told me one day that he thought it was crazy that i dont bring my daughter around or complain of my baby daddy cause alot of females do nothing but complain or wanna bring theyre kid/s around them.  My daughter knows nothing of her father due to his choice.  But i do send him pictures so i know in myself i tried. 

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Permalink Reply by LuLu on May 17, 2011 at 12:22am

Ohh, I must have missed where she has 3 guys going at the same time???  Do they know about each other? Be careful if they don't!! That's a tricky situation - be careful and be safe about it.  And ITA - you need to start weeding them out, find a good one and really stick to that - a good one aint gonna put up with you seeing a bunch of other guys for long, if at all.

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Permalink Reply by TaylorMade on May 17, 2011 at 1:04am

Is there something wrong with her wanting that? If you're talking to two different women, both equally nice, and equally pretty, and one has qualities that can help better your life, and the other has qualities that can help you stay right where you are, which would u choose?

Tone said:

What do you mean you like the new guy more or he is willing to give you more then the others are?
Justyn Case said:

@tru2this i agree with you.  I was raised as the man takes care of home.  I want it to be that way i like being pampered and treated to stuff.  I do want to get married.

 

@tone i did not loose my baller i met another one about 3 weeks ago im doing everything different and this one is going in the direction i want it too.  I previously had 2 managers and they still are on the roster just not as much as the new one.  I have more of a chance with the new one.  the other two were more of a non relation no feelings type of deal which i was fine with.

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Permalink Reply by golden on May 29, 2011 at 1:02am

PREACH MA!!!

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

I hear what everyone is saying about work work work work your way to the top. But I'm here to tell you today that you can work work work work and still be broke broke broke broke. Not everyone is going to make it to the top by working their azz off. If that were so then I know a shytload of people who should be freaking BILLIONAIRES by now.

 

Girl, use what you got, while got it, to get where you want to go and don't listen no one telling you different. As long as you can do what you do, whatever you do, and look yourself in the mirror and be proud then you are ok. Shiiiiiid, if this site had existed when I was in my teens, with all this info...sigh...

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