For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
So i have to ask all of you ladies here cause it seems like at one point in time you may have had one two many or still do ballers in your life.
After being with a baller and being treated by them i.e: clothes, cars, bills, food, trips, good ass or what ever it may have been. how would you deal with going with a regular guy making regular money. Not being able to provide the flashy things that you have become accustom to. I personally have a hard time accepting regularness now. I have been showered and due to a previous post i have not had to work since i got some help from you lovely ladies as to gettig help with bills and stuff. please give me your point of view.
Girl, handle your business. A year from now you will be done with school and have no school loans to pay back.
Justyn Case said:
and my guys know my situation. When i asked them for help before (1st time) when i hit my road block they said they had no problem cause they know my situation and know im not out here not trying to better myself. one said he would rather ask him than to run and get loans and put myself in a worse situation. I am not layin around not doing anything with my life.
That's so true. A girlfriend of mine is going through something similar now. After 9 years of marriage her husband is leaving her and she signed a prenuptial saying that if she were to file that she wouldn't get anything. That really sucks for her and she doesn't have any children with him either. She staying with me now and looking to get back into cosmetology school so hopefully she can come work in my salon. Terrible things can happen in the blink of an eye.
^ True. However, I might come off as saying "oh dont work just sit on your ass and look pretty" no I think its very valuable to be in school and have your own business or something. BUT for SOME women being a "kept" woman is expected.
depends on how good she looks most dudes not trying to deal with women with kids just the way it is.
I beg to differ. She's a young single mom who's also working hard in school. Some man will see that and want to help her and make things easy for her any way he can. I didn't have a child but those were my experinces with men, which led to a marriage.
Did you read the thread about despise the free lunch? Those guys may give you money but now you have to depend on them for your needs and wants. And I am sure they want something in return
Justyn Case said:and my guys know my situation. When i asked them for help before (1st time) when i hit my road block they said they had no problem cause they know my situation and know im not out here not trying to better myself. one said he would rather ask him than to run and get loans and put myself in a worse situation. I am not layin around not doing anything with my life.
lmao @ Tone. You about to start a war up in here.
sorry but this is b*******
Fly Chickadee said:Just, I agree with you but it seems as though she is in school...you have to think long term. I dont think her intention is to LIVE OFF these dudes for the rest of her life and NOT have her own, just until she finishes school next year..
Young chick, LISTEN TO THE FLY ONE! Graduate baby! While u r in school, get what you can from ur ballers! YOUR P**** AND TIME ARE NOT FREE! Dont sacrifice your spiritual, physical, emotional, and PARENTAL WELL BEING FOR A BALLER THOUGH! What I mean is: have rules young one! Right AFFIRMATIONS TO YOURSELF AND REMIND YOURSELF EVERYDAY WHY YOU ARE DOING THINGS THIS WAY AND THINK OF YOUR DAUGHTER AT ALL TIMES! Dont let ANY MAN that you are NOT in a long term relationship be around her PERIOD! Get what you can from them while you are in school!, GRADUATE!, after graduation GET A GOOD JOB OR BETTER YET, GET A TRADE! It is hard finding a job paying what YOU are WORTH! NO EMPLOYER WILL EVER PAY YOU YOUR TRUE VALUE! Get a trade like cosmetology, interior design, wedding planner, or sell Real Estate! BECOME SELF EMPLOYED BUT WORK FOR SOMEONE UNTIL YOU CAN GET TO THAT POINT! You and YOUR DAUGHTER NEED HEALTH INSURANCE AND LIFE INSURANCE! So know matter how much a baller gives you,it he wont give you that! LOL!
Now ALWAYS GET YOUR OWN! STACK YOURS! Spend HIS! MAKE A MAN SUPPLY YOUR WANTS and YOU supply you and your daughters needs! UNTIL you meet THE ONE! The right baller knows that it is HIS responsibility to help you be the BEST YOU you can be! A true baller, real man understands he is responsible for giving you and your daughter the BEST OF EVERYTHING and alwayss remember YOUR BODY, YOUR MIND, YOUR TIME, YOUR SKILLS, YOUR LOVE, AND YOUR LIFE LESSONS ARE NOT FREE: THEY COST! Make yourself an ASSET! GRADUATE AND LEARN TO PROVIDE FOR YOURSELF, WHILE YOU HAVE BALLERS STACK CHIPS! BUT ALWAYS DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF!
ANY WOMAN that lays with a man for FREE! is a foolish woman and has NOTHING TO GIVE! I am not just talking monetarily either! As you get older, you learn that everytime you are with a man you leave a little of yourself with him! IF YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THAT THEN YOU JUST DONT KNOW! So, remember life is PUSH AND PULL! Like attracts like! Get YOURS, SAVE AS MUCH AS YOU CAN! Work AND PROVIDE! Teach your daughter how to get what she is worth from a man, from her employer, from life, and teach her her value! Remember be that PROVERBS 31 WOMAN! She is the woman desired by men AND admired by other women! She is industrious but also her man cherishes her, her children value and admire her, and she gets the BEST OUT OF LIFE FOR HERSELF AND HER FAMILY!!!
Good Luck Young Chick! If the FLY ONE and LULU did it, you can too!
I just feel if you want a lifestyle you go out and work for it. Plus she is making it seem like women are above men and we are suppose to do everything and a woman just gets the world simply based on the fact that she is a woman.
lmao @ Tone. You about to start a war up in here.
@Tone: Where did you get from my response that women are above men? It is EVIDENT that you either lack comprehension skills or the ability to think logically or analytically! If I quoted Proverbs 31, then one would assume I follow the teachings of Jesus right? With that being said, one can also conclude that the Fly One believes the MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD AND THE WOMAN IS THE HELPMATE! right? That is what Jesus taught us! Also, the bible teaches us that the MAN PROVIDES! BUT THAT A WOMAN SHOULD BE INDUSTRIOUS! That means a woman PROVIDES TOO! SHE CONTRIBUTE!
Thats enough! If you dont know, you just dont know! LOL! (..back to my chaisse and wine)
@Tone: Do you have money? If not, you have nothing to offer but a hard d*** and frankly, I'd rather have a hard d*** that values me, knows HIS WORTH, has high self esteem (hint..getsome), loves his mother-sister-aunts, etc, knows how to ptovide, is an Alpha male, IS SELF-MADE, knows and believes in Jesus, believes in his purpose, and can offer not only romance but finance! Just as I can! Frankly, a hard d*** with finances is a must! I value my worth! I believe a woman should take care of her man's physical, emotional, intellectual, financial, and spiritual needs! A woman should be good with money so he can trust her to look after the household! She must ALSO support the household financially...but is man's purpose to provide! Sorry...
As I am not one to masturbate with fake dicks, I would suffer to say I'd much rather have a hard, financially secure d*** but believe me I know how to be by myself when I choose. But get this here Tone: yes, enjoyable sexual relations are wonderful, but YOU ARE NOT A MAN IF YOU GO TO A WOMAN'S HOUSE, MAKE LOVE TO HER, THEN GET UP AND WALK OUT WITHOUT CONTRIBUTING TO HER HOUSEHOLD IN SOME MANNER....if you dot have money, wash her car....fix the sink that is stopped up, mow her lawn, hang some ceiling fans for her, buy her some laundry detergent and soap, pay a light bill, HELL CONTRIBUT SOMETHING! If you dont; you are NOT A MAN! Just a lil boy with a hard ass d***!