HAS ANYONE EVER HURT YOU TO YOUR SOUL?

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Permalink Reply by The real vixxen on September 30, 2009 at 5:21pm

Umm Ive been hurt a few times.=( Lets see whn my Bff slept w my dude and his homie that hurt pretty bad but im dealing w that as in a fuck you yall never be shit and keep it moving kinda way ..BUT the person who really hurt me to my soul is this guy we dated for about 3yrs i guess on and off and I can say that i did really love him and the whole time he lead me to believe that he cared for me too whn in reality he never did. I would always let him bck in my life no matter what, I would drop who ever or whatever just to see him .. Everything he did hurt me to my soul he would say things to me just to upset me and b mean. There was a time where he had like a live in gf that i didnt even know about!! meeting the moms and everything!! I came to realize that I was just a side chick / jump off bitch to him.. Anyway one of the last few times i saw him I lost my mind went the hell of like a crazy person and we hvnt talked since ive ran into him a few times but it just made me sick to look at him.. Im dealing w it by realizing what a selfish son of bitch he is and seeing him for the person who he is ..

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Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on September 30, 2009 at 5:58pm

I've always wondered what would make a person do something like this. Its not funny and its a lot of trouble for some pussy. *Not saying youre just some pussy* I honestly dont understand.

Boss/MadamBA said:

I was dating a guy..and he told me he was getting married a day before his wedding (there was absolutely no signs of this). He called me at his bachelor party trying to come see me. (bastard) He even invited me to his wedding..and I went because I couldn't believe it. To this day I still think about that shit...

Later in life..he told me he was facing 25 years in jail for some dirt he did..he said he told his BM that he would marry her when he got out. He went to court and beat the charge...so the wedding got pushed up 25 years...LMAO He was so full of shit..

To add insult to injury..he had a tattoo on him of a females name. Told me it was his dead grandmother...when I went to the his wedding..the girl name tattooed on him was his wife. LOL

Niggas ain't shit...haaaaaaaaaaaa

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Permalink Reply by Tab on September 30, 2009 at 6:33pm

Yes, last year. But I was able to see his side, my side and the whole story. Some days I felt like I was falling and couldn't stop, but when I really thought about it,I would feel better. This went on for over a year. I stayed on BA,worked out,took a trip,started going out,joined several meet up groups and prayed. I've finally lost that feeling this past July. And I closed that chapter the first week of September. I have no feelings what so ever. It's feels great to be in control.

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Permalink Reply by Tommy McBride on September 30, 2009 at 6:48pm

This guy in college that I was sooo in love with. He got caught cheating, when he realized he didn't have any get back with me he told the girl I was lying. Mind you we lived together for about a year. I cried, didn't eat, leave the house or change clothes for like 3 or 4 days.

When I finally got the strength to take a shower I got cute and let the party begin. I became the "party girl" that you saw everywhere. I would just go out, get drunk, meet a bunch of guys to take me out and so on. I thought this was going to make him jealous..HA HA, he didn't give a damn. Anyway, I was distracted long enought o get over it.

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Permalink Reply by Tab on September 30, 2009 at 7:07pm

If I have to come back to this tread anytime soon...I'm switching teams.

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Permalink Reply by AMillz on September 30, 2009 at 7:40pm

My father molested my sister ... my mother told him could never see me again. He kidnapped me for a 2 weeks eventually borught me back .He went to jail for 10 years .He was the only father my sis knew for awhile ..they are now cool and she still calls him daddy. I cant understand how sum1 could befriend sum1 after they molested you..its ok 2 forgive people for their sins but to get back close 2 them puzzles me. For the longest I couldnt stand to sit next to him ,call him daddy or hug him. No1 told me wat he done till he came 2 visit me 1 time and my uncles found out ....they showed up at my aunts house wit guns ready 2 kill him . they wldnt leave until I went with them or my father was dead. For the life of my I couldnt understand why they wantd him dead. I was 12 years old wen my sis told me wat my father did to her. My mother couldnt work up enough courage to even tell me ..She jus kept cryin.

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on September 30, 2009 at 7:49pm

LMAO @ Tab
I dont know about that, I'm going into monk or nun mode. LOL

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Permalink Reply by Cougar $pice on September 30, 2009 at 8:31pm

LMAO, you're too much. hahaha

Tab said:

If I have to come back to this tread anytime soon...I'm switching teams.

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Permalink Reply by I Be That Chick on October 1, 2009 at 12:00am

I’m hurting now… I was good! I was in a space where I was finally just enjoying life and relationships and figuring out what is meant by ‘living in the moment’ and not wanting anything serious. I met him in the supermarket! He bumped into my cart. (corny but cute) At first I wasn’t really interested in him. He wasn’t the industry dude, real estate developer, entrepreneur, or intelligent hoodlum I was used to. This was a blue collar guy. A correctional officer. But he wasn’t average. He’s smart and made smart investments. He owns properties, is getting ready to build a nightclub or buy into a franchise like a fast food restaurant, has a boat, vacations often, sky-diving, skiing, paint-balling, all that. But he also liked the simple things I like; being hugged up, watching tv, and just hibernating the way I do. He even plays chess. I thought we were mutually heading toward falling in love. I thought he was mine. I was totally his. And I was so happy! We were feeling each other so much and agreed to not see others. Things were going so good to the point where I met his mother and sister. (They live in different states and while they were visiting, he wanted me to come and meet them). We got along great! Anyway…within a week or two, I could feel that the vibe between he and I was changing. August 1, he was on a date with someone else when I called him. Now, he is involved with another/others? And not with me. (I would prefer he date a variety of women and not just one that he winds up falling in love with). I’m not sure of what happened! He won’t tell me the truth. I got no closure and its driving me crazy. He just went cold. You wouldn’t believe some of the bullshit I have been subject to these past two months. I really think he enjoys hurting me with what he says and does. I didn’t eat much during August or September. I cried hard from the gut once or twice. It’s hard to see my way out of this. It’s hard for me to accept that he’s just not that into me anymore and that there’s no future there. Unrequited love hurts so bad!!! Does anybody have a ‘magic' word or phrase that could help me get over this? **Goldie Fish** This may be the reason for my hyper-sensitivity as of late. (offering a feather)

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Permalink Reply by MoCha M. on October 1, 2009 at 2:23pm

Aww im sorry :(

Sheli said:

YESSSS!!! My soul hurts NOW!! (Sad Face, Sad Face, Sad Face)!!! I don't even know how to explain....

I'm still in recovery....I have IVs hooked up to my heart & head. "Goodbye Love" and "Can U Help Me" are on repeat, the lights are off in my house and office, I've been wearing black since Monday. I look like Angela Basset in Waiting to Exhale before she torched the car!

****lays back down and pulls cover over head****

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Permalink Reply by MsThang on October 1, 2009 at 7:45pm

I had dated a guy for over a year and I thought everything was great. In April he told me he anticipated that we would be engaged by August and had even discussed it with some of my family. Well, at the end of August, I get a phone call from someone who referred to herself as "the new chick" who abruptly instructed me to stop calling her man because he don't want me no more.She also informed me that that would now be living together. When I tried to confront him about it he never gave me any clear answers, just a bunch of bullshit. The hardest part is that I never saw this coming and I still have so many questions. I cried, didn't eat for a couple of days, and stayed in bed for a while, but a month later I'm feeling better. But I feel so stupid for still loving him and still wanting to be with him.

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Permalink Reply by Shay Sugah on October 4, 2009 at 12:14pm

Sound like shit I just went thru, damn.

Boss/MadamBA said:

I was dating a guy..and he told me he was getting married a day before his wedding (there was absolutely no signs of this). He called me at his bachelor party trying to come see me. (bastard) He even invited me to his wedding..and I went because I couldn't believe it. To this day I still think about that shit...

Later in life..he told me he was facing 25 years in jail for some dirt he did..he said he told his BM that he would marry her when he got out. He went to court and beat the charge...so the wedding got pushed up 25 years...LMAO He was so full of shit..

To add insult to injury..he had a tattoo on him of a females name. Told me it was his dead grandmother...when I went to the his wedding..the girl name tattooed on him was his wife. LOL

Niggas ain't shit...haaaaaaaaaaaa

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