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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on August 26, 2010 at 12:29pm

Lisa M., 29, Chicago, administrative assistant

A few months ago I got back with my ex. We had been together since college days but lately he started coming back at me. I been single for so long and already familiar with who he is and his family I said whatever. I went back to him. To show me he was serious he even moved to my side of town. We didn’t move in together. So for three months everything was all good we took a few weekend trips and had amazing sex. It was just like college days again. Not too long after that I started talking to him about moving in so we can be a couple. It didn’t matter who moved in with who because we both owned property and can rent it out. Anyway, he decided to move in with me. Worst situation ever. Not because we couldn’t get along. He proposed to me some weeks after that. I took the measly little ring. I loved this man and though it wasn’t the perfect situation, I wanted it to work. But I was starting to feel uneasy all this was happening in just 6 months. Why couldn’t I be happy? So I got some counsel. After talking to my girlfriends they thought it was the worst thing to get engaged so soon especially with an ex that he had to be tested and I needed to wait it out to see if he changed.

Well, I did that. I had a GPS follow him and I found out that before he comes home from work he would visit various women. But it wasn’t just her, or that simple. It was several women he’d go visit during the day and “hang with”. This fool wasn’t even going to work sometimes! I felt I was set up! He moved in with me to use me and I kicked his ass out. My girls told me I did the right thing, and so did Jesus. But sometimes I wonder, what he was thinking.

Steve T., Chicago, 29, paralegal

I moved to Lisa’s area because I was serious. It was all about Lisa. She had been calling me, asking my family about me, until I just called her up one day. Conversation was decent so we kicked it on the phone. She asked me to prove to her that I wanted to get with her. Maybe I was wrong to just up and go, but I didn’t move in with her. She wanted me to from the gate. But I know that was a deathwish since Lisa was always talking about getting pregnant. Not interested in that right now, but I thought about it. Lisa was one of those women I could have my way with. It was time to settle down and every man like having a wifey at home. So, I gave her a ring to give me more time to figure things out. Not sure about being faithful and all that because every man is a work in progress. But I was trying and falling in love with her again. Everything did happen fast like hell. A few co workers (guys) from my job asked me to hang out with them. How da hell she know if they were women? GPS don’t tell sex. That’s some ole bullsh*t her bamma ass friends put in her head. Once those bitter *itches got wind we got engaged all kinds of questions came out of nowhere. I still don’t know why I got kicked out! If it wasn’t for her friends we’d still be together. Lisa’s friends don’t want her to be happy. Don’t know why she can’t see that. She can take her “wondering” self and drive somebody esle away.

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Permalink Reply by Candy on August 26, 2010 at 12:40pm

Dam there is always two sides to a story. Your side, their side, and the truth. I think she let her friends influence her decision making.

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on August 26, 2010 at 1:16pm

Yeah, instead of GPS she should have just followed his azz if it was that serious. She had a feeling something wasn't right. Something may still not be right...did we forget the DL post already? In the long run she still may have done the right thing. I've known too many guys call their girl's friends bitter because the friends caught them slipping.

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Permalink Reply by AllyNWonderland on August 26, 2010 at 2:25pm

wow...well I will say that I think bitter single women always wanna see other women in the same shoes as they are....Seriously gps doesn't tell sex, but if it were that serious for you to put a gps in your mans car then you should've just followed his ass your damn self... at least you wouldve know the truth for yourself

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on August 26, 2010 at 2:28pm

Good point CC.......I guess I forgot just that quick (hangs head in shame)

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

Yeah, instead of GPS she should have just followed his azz if it was that serious. She had a feeling something wasn't right. Something may still not be right...did we forget the DL post already? In the long run she still may have done the right thing. I've known too many guys call their girl's friends bitter because the friends caught them slipping.

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on August 26, 2010 at 2:52pm

lol Pick your head up, Smitty. I've probably just read more E. Lynn Harris books than you. lol

Smitty's Bed & Breakfast said:

Good point CC.......I guess I forgot just that quick (hangs head in shame)
CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

Yeah, instead of GPS she should have just followed his azz if it was that serious. She had a feeling something wasn't right. Something may still not be right...did we forget the DL post already? In the long run she still may have done the right thing. I've known too many guys call their girl's friends bitter because the friends caught them slipping.

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on August 26, 2010 at 2:54pm

Oh yeah, I think I've only read one.....not a big fan.

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

lol Pick your head up, Smitty. I've probably just read more E. Lynn Harris books than you. lol
Smitty's Bed & Breakfast said:

Good point CC.......I guess I forgot just that quick (hangs head in shame) CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

Yeah, instead of GPS she should have just followed his azz if it was that serious. She had a feeling something wasn't right. Something may still not be right...did we forget the DL post already? In the long run she still may have done the right thing. I've known too many guys call their girl's friends bitter because the friends caught them slipping.

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