Help! Im confused about my husband's sex game.

I was a virgin when I got married, so I have no one to compare my husband to. For the past 6 years, I have believed his excuses about his stamina. He says a man's penis is just like a muscle and when u don't have sex often enough, you can't last long. That made sense and seeing how we only had sex once a week, I believed him. Ok, now that I'm 30, I think I'm really started to reach peak and I want sex more frequently. I swear it takes him 2 minutes to come. This isnt normal, right? He still tells me we're not having sex enough and says he doesn't have a problem. Thankfully, his head game and finger game is on point or I think I might lose it.  What's the average time it should take for a man to come?

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 17, 2012 at 2:03pm

Once is toooo much, and that's not because of great p****. SMH

Tone said:


  I did not say that i said sometime times p**** can be so good that you c** in 2 min.  Now if it happens every time you f*** then something is wrong but sometimes it happens.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

R U Serious??? If  a man comes in 2 mins that's an achievement??  #lazyassThat's not even ONE STROKE!!!

phuckoutta here with that BS!!! Y'all lazy a**** getting away with murrrrdaaaa if a woman accepts this.

Tone said:

 I said sometimes grate  p**** can make you c** in 2 min. But maybe you never made a man c** in 2 min because your p**** is dry and loose.  

MissMidwest said:

Exactly! Tone is a goddamn idiot...and clearly a 2 minute man too! Smh,  it definitely has nothing to do with the quality of the p****! Where's the rest of the BA men this girl can't read advice from a man who doesn't even know how to slang his d*** right! Lol

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's why I want some 'pros' in here. lol

MissMidwest said:

It's not because your p****'s "too good" it's because he is a premature ejaculator! Tone doesn't know what the f*** he's talking about.
Permalink Reply by Tone © on June 17, 2012 at 2:27pm

Spice when your man is not f****** you good do you let him know or do you lie to him ?

  
OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

Once is toooo much, and that's not because of great p****. SMH

Tone said:


  I did not say that i said sometime times p**** can be so good that you c** in 2 min.  Now if it happens every time you f*** then something is wrong but sometimes it happens.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

R U Serious??? If  a man comes in 2 mins that's an achievement??  #lazyassThat's not even ONE STROKE!!!

phuckoutta here with that BS!!! Y'all lazy a**** getting away with murrrrdaaaa if a woman accepts this.

Tone said:

 I said sometimes grate  p**** can make you c** in 2 min. But maybe you never made a man c** in 2 min because your p**** is dry and loose.  

MissMidwest said:

Exactly! Tone is a goddamn idiot...and clearly a 2 minute man too! Smh,  it definitely has nothing to do with the quality of the p****! Where's the rest of the BA men this girl can't read advice from a man who doesn't even know how to slang his d*** right! Lol

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's why I want some 'pros' in here. lol

MissMidwest said:

It's not because your p****'s "too good" it's because he is a premature ejaculator! Tone doesn't know what the f*** he's talking about.
Permalink Reply by BallerMom on June 17, 2012 at 2:36pm
Yes, I do have orgasms. I always get mine. Usually, he fingers me and his tongue is amazing. I just wish he could do the same with his d*ck. I think about sex all day now and it's never how I envisioned it bc it's over before it begins. I just wanted to know if this is the norm and perhaps I should be happy that I can at least get off.

University of Smitty said:

Do you have orgasms?  Cause that's the bottom line.........regardless of how long it takes to get there

Permalink Reply by Tone © on June 17, 2012 at 2:46pm

I think the real issue is you are wondering what you missed out on.

BallerMom said:

Yes, I do have orgasms. I always get mine. Usually, he fingers me and his tongue is amazing. I just wish he could do the same with his d*ck. I think about sex all day now and it's never how I envisioned it bc it's over before it begins. I just wanted to know if this is the norm and perhaps I should be happy that I can at least get off.

University of Smitty said:

Do you have orgasms?  Cause that's the bottom line.........regardless of how long it takes to get there

Permalink Reply by BallerMom on June 17, 2012 at 2:55pm
She was wrong for saying that's why he married my ass, but I have to admit that's funny. I'm glad I don't have anyone to compare him with bc I would be real salty if I had an amazing ex-lover to reminisce about for the rest of my life. I would still marry him because he's a great husband and father.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's right!! lol

He was 'experienced' when he met her but she 'saved' it for for him. We woman save ourselves for marriage men don't lol.

I don't care what anyone says, I'm test driving that d*** before marriage or any long term relationship.

She had nothing to compare it to, but he didn't count on her 'growing up' and her 'peak' to kick in.  He's in trouble and doesn't know it yet. He doesn't know about BA. hahaha



MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

ummm, yes they can until they get to a certain point, just like we can.  Thats how you can have a quickie or a all-nighter.  I think he has a problem.  i can understand being 2 minutes some time, but ALL the time.....naahhhh.  You have to get him to admit he has a problem before yall can work on it. 

Most women know when a man is about to c**.  Before he gets there, stop him and do a lil foreplay until u felt he's came down and start back over. 

OAN:  you never complained...thats why he married yo ass ...lol.


 
l8dy-c said:

Men can't control when they c**. They also can't control how many times they can have sex. Unless his old ass is on Viagra.I guess it depends on his age.
Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 17, 2012 at 2:55pm

When he's eating and phucking good he KNOWS by my actions and he gets complimented. If he's bad I also tell him and he  doesn't get upset, he ADJUSTS!!! You should know by now I'm not a wallflower and I'm not afraid to ASK for what I like and want!!!!, I TELL him what to do and WHERE, and thank God he's RECEPTIVE!!!!!

Tone said:

Spice when your man is not f****** you good do you let him know or do you lie to him ?

  
OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

Once is toooo much, and that's not because of great p****. SMH

Tone said:


  I did not say that i said sometime times p**** can be so good that you c** in 2 min.  Now if it happens every time you f*** then something is wrong but sometimes it happens.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

R U Serious??? If  a man comes in 2 mins that's an achievement??  #lazyassThat's not even ONE STROKE!!!

phuckoutta here with that BS!!! Y'all lazy a**** getting away with murrrrdaaaa if a woman accepts this.

Tone said:

 I said sometimes grate  p**** can make you c** in 2 min. But maybe you never made a man c** in 2 min because your p**** is dry and loose.  

MissMidwest said:

Exactly! Tone is a goddamn idiot...and clearly a 2 minute man too! Smh,  it definitely has nothing to do with the quality of the p****! Where's the rest of the BA men this girl can't read advice from a man who doesn't even know how to slang his d*** right! Lol

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's why I want some 'pros' in here. lol

MissMidwest said:

It's not because your p****'s "too good" it's because he is a premature ejaculator! Tone doesn't know what the f*** he's talking about.
Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 17, 2012 at 2:59pm

No, she's wondering why he's not more 'into it'  and is not willing to accomodate her.

Like SC said, he's either giving it away (we hope not, not to scare you Ballermom, or he's beating it too much) lol

Tone said:

I think the real issue is you are wondering what you missed out on.

BallerMom said:

Yes, I do have orgasms. I always get mine. Usually, he fingers me and his tongue is amazing. I just wish he could do the same with his d*ck. I think about sex all day now and it's never how I envisioned it bc it's over before it begins. I just wanted to know if this is the norm and perhaps I should be happy that I can at least get off.

University of Smitty said:

Do you have orgasms?  Cause that's the bottom line.........regardless of how long it takes to get there

Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on June 17, 2012 at 3:15pm

It doesn't matter if you had an amazing lover to compare it too, you still feel 'something is wrong' regardless. You need a firm pounding for more than 2 mins and you don't need prior experience to figure it out. You 2 need a private get away and a 'serious' conversation.

BallerMom said:

She was wrong for saying that's why he married my ass, but I have to admit that's funny. I'm glad I don't have anyone to compare him with bc I would be real salty if I had an amazing ex-lover to reminisce about for the rest of my life. I would still marry him because he's a great husband and father.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's right!! lol

He was 'experienced' when he met her but she 'saved' it for for him. We woman save ourselves for marriage men don't lol.

I don't care what anyone says, I'm test driving that d*** before marriage or any long term relationship.

She had nothing to compare it to, but he didn't count on her 'growing up' and her 'peak' to kick in.  He's in trouble and doesn't know it yet. He doesn't know about BA. hahaha



MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

ummm, yes they can until they get to a certain point, just like we can.  Thats how you can have a quickie or a all-nighter.  I think he has a problem.  i can understand being 2 minutes some time, but ALL the time.....naahhhh.  You have to get him to admit he has a problem before yall can work on it. 

Most women know when a man is about to c**.  Before he gets there, stop him and do a lil foreplay until u felt he's came down and start back over. 

OAN:  you never complained...thats why he married yo ass ...lol.


 
l8dy-c said:

Men can't control when they c**. They also can't control how many times they can have sex. Unless his old ass is on Viagra.I guess it depends on his age.
Permalink Reply by BallerMom on June 17, 2012 at 3:37pm
You're right. We do need to talk about it more, but it's definitely a sensitive subject. He knows I'm frustrated and I know he want to please me, but he isn't ready to admit he has a problem. I can tell he's "into it" from the foreplay, but can't stop himself from ejaculating prematurely. I

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

It doesn't matter if you had an amazing lover to compare it too, you still feel 'something is wrong' regardless. You need a firm pounding for more than 2 mins and you don't need prior experience to figure it out. You 2 need a private get away and a 'serious' conversation.

BallerMom said:

She was wrong for saying that's why he married my ass, but I have to admit that's funny. I'm glad I don't have anyone to compare him with bc I would be real salty if I had an amazing ex-lover to reminisce about for the rest of my life. I would still marry him because he's a great husband and father.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's right!! lol

He was 'experienced' when he met her but she 'saved' it for for him. We woman save ourselves for marriage men don't lol.

I don't care what anyone says, I'm test driving that d*** before marriage or any long term relationship.

She had nothing to compare it to, but he didn't count on her 'growing up' and her 'peak' to kick in.  He's in trouble and doesn't know it yet. He doesn't know about BA. hahaha



MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

ummm, yes they can until they get to a certain point, just like we can.  Thats how you can have a quickie or a all-nighter.  I think he has a problem.  i can understand being 2 minutes some time, but ALL the time.....naahhhh.  You have to get him to admit he has a problem before yall can work on it. 

Most women know when a man is about to c**.  Before he gets there, stop him and do a lil foreplay until u felt he's came down and start back over. 

OAN:  you never complained...thats why he married yo ass ...lol.


 
l8dy-c said:

Men can't control when they c**. They also can't control how many times they can have sex. Unless his old ass is on Viagra.I guess it depends on his age.
Permalink Reply by BallerMom on June 17, 2012 at 3:38pm
Thanks for the advice! I'm going to try this.

Siren said:

you guys need to talk I am married and if my husband was on some 2 minute s*** there would be a problem. MEN CAN CONTROL their ORGASMS and EJACULATION! One suggestion I have is exploring "tantra". Get him to focus on you and there are exercises he can do to prolong his orgasm and stamina. I don't subscribe to that 2 min BS or the 7 min s*** either. A book that I recommend on tantra is "Urban Tantra" by Barbara Carrelas. Good Luck and do not let him make any more excuses. Sex is supposed to be mutually satisfying. Make him understand that!

Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on June 17, 2012 at 7:45pm

Because he knows.  For me sex isn't always about having an orgasm.  If the sex is good, we can just go on and on and on and on without me having an orgasm and it' still considered good to me.  When I tried to explain the unexplainable..he didn't understand, BUT my point was sometimes thats what we need, just great sex.    
 
BallerMom said:

Yes, I do have orgasms. I always get mine. Usually, he fingers me and his tongue is amazing. I just wish he could do the same with his d*ck. I think about sex all day now and it's never how I envisioned it bc it's over before it begins. I just wanted to know if this is the norm and perhaps I should be happy that I can at least get off.

University of Smitty said:

Do you have orgasms?  Cause that's the bottom line.........regardless of how long it takes to get there

Permalink Reply by MissMidwest on June 18, 2012 at 12:32am
+1 to everything Spice said. Tone, responding to your ignorance is exhausting and rage inducing, half the s*** you write on here is so far from the truth and so immature I want to jump through my computer screen to yours and put my hands on you. I dated a guy who came too quick, and that s*** was not cute...a year later we started f****** again, especially after all the "I can control it now blah blah blah" he was so proud to f*** again and show me how he had it under control....well the kitty was too tight and too wet for his newfound "control" and it was over in 6 thrusts lmaooo but my p**** is fantastic, no dryness or looseness here! Thanks for the concern though Tone, but maybe you should worry about your p**** (yes, you definitely, without a doubt have one) instead of mine, thank you! :)

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

Once is toooo much, and that's not because of great p****. SMH

Tone said:


  I did not say that i said sometime times p**** can be so good that you c** in 2 min.  Now if it happens every time you f*** then something is wrong but sometimes it happens.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

R U Serious??? If  a man comes in 2 mins that's an achievement??  #lazyassThat's not even ONE STROKE!!!

phuckoutta here with that BS!!! Y'all lazy a**** getting away with murrrrdaaaa if a woman accepts this.

Tone said:

 I said sometimes grate  p**** can make you c** in 2 min. But maybe you never made a man c** in 2 min because your p**** is dry and loose.  

MissMidwest said:

Exactly! Tone is a goddamn idiot...and clearly a 2 minute man too! Smh,  it definitely has nothing to do with the quality of the p****! Where's the rest of the BA men this girl can't read advice from a man who doesn't even know how to slang his d*** right! Lol

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

That's why I want some 'pros' in here. lol

MissMidwest said:

It's not because your p****'s "too good" it's because he is a premature ejaculator! Tone doesn't know what the f*** he's talking about.

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