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How Do You Deal with People Trying to Make You Think YOU'RE the Crazy One?

So I have a few different situations in my life, involved parties all think I'm the crazy one.

So my first love....a bum by your standards, a bum with potential by mine. But the thing is, he does not see any need for correction. He's a good guy, just no motivation, no job, no real income, no nothing....IMO he looks for women that "will be down for him" and I'm not down enough. He says that he doesn't trust that I will stick with him through the thick and thin. I won't...especially if sticking means letting him drive my car, live wit me rent free, give him a few when he aint got money, don't expect no money on bills, and expect him to get and keep a job, OH AND BE COOL WITH HIM MESSING WITH OTHER CHICKS< NOT COMING HOME AT NIGHT AND DRIVING THEIR CAR IF I DONT LET HIM DRIVE MINE. He says his BM is a better woman than me, because "she has done things for him that no one else did -"to her credit" .....for real......like wtf.....what is wrong with me expecting him to be good with what he can provide from himself, and not having to chip in to help him out? What's so bad about wanting to trust that I can depend on him, instead of me having to always be stable enough to take care of two of us, plus any kids we may have?
I told yall about a personal situation that I thought was happening back in like January. So it's true, it's happening. A minor confirmed it. A sister saw it. It's real. Why am I crazy for wanting the adult party to MOVE AND STAY away for ever? Why am I crazy for believing a minor? Why am I crazy to rather be alone than to go through this real BS just to say I got a man? Why folk mad at me for bringing it to the open? Why am I crazy to be planning a way to make sure the minor is safe?
Lastly, if you flip and cuss me out, talk ish to me and then throw in my face, embarrassing situations, why am I crazy if I choose to pass up on you as my man? Why do I "need help" if I say, "naw, I'm good, I don't want to be with you?"

I get so pissed at folk tryna make me seem like I am crazy just cuz I aint with the BS. I know I aint the only one...what about yall.....are folk tryna make u think u are crazy when you know your logic is sane as plain day?

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on December 16, 2012 at 12:05am

Oh my word, Tone just dropped a gem.

Tone © said:

He was always a bum but at 21 what he gave you was enough. You're investing time& hope that he will be something that he does not want to be.
Love is a Losing Game said:

@Tone - I don't consider myself investing into him. I think that is why he can't paint a fairytale picture of a happyily ever after with me cuz he knows that it aint going down like that over here. I will concede, it is wishful thinking. But whycant hejust get his ish right so we can get it poppin? when ifirst met him, hehad everything together. He took care of everybody. But now its like he is cool going without. I think he has potential cuz once upon a time I could depend on him to not let me fall. Now I can't depend onhim for twenty dollars. And he feels that I expect too much or I should giving to him instead of being able to depend on him. We broke up when I was 21 and ever since then, I've been hoping that the person I met would come back so I could be with him again. But that person is like gone. And I'm like wtf. Why???? Get it together!

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on December 16, 2012 at 12:14am

Girl, I understand. We all need a reality check from time to time. Misery loves company. So when people see you going along happily living your life, striving for better, and *gasp* doing better than they are they are not happy. They will seek to drag you down any way they can find. If you've got a weakness they will try to exploit it. So you will be just as miserable as they are. Every smiling face is not happy. Like Student Beauty already said, always consider the source.

About Boo-Boo the Fool? Girl, to paraphrase Oprah said, you have to accept that he can't be any different. Put him down. Don't go back there to even peek at him. If he ever picks himself up and decides to do better HE will find YOU. Stop looking backward and look forward. How are you ever going to do better looking backward?

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Permalink Reply by mese on December 17, 2012 at 11:24pm

Sounds like you have a pookie and ray ray syndrome lol you'll get over it I hope lol and everybody hates to agree with tone lmaooo

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on December 17, 2012 at 11:33pm

hahaha shut up Mese girl! I DO NOT have Pookie and Ray Ray syndrome! Lol, I DO NOT!

mese said:

Sounds like you have a pookie and ray ray syndrome lol you'll get over it I hope lol and everybody hates to agree with tone lmaooo

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on December 17, 2012 at 11:34pm

ssshhh girl! I tried to ignore it! lol

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

Oh my word, Tone just dropped a gem.

Tone © said:

He was always a bum but at 21 what he gave you was enough. You're investing time& hope that he will be something that he does not want to be.
Love is a Losing Game said:

@Tone - I don't consider myself investing into him. I think that is why he can't paint a fairytale picture of a happyily ever after with me cuz he knows that it aint going down like that over here. I will concede, it is wishful thinking. But whycant hejust get his ish right so we can get it poppin? when ifirst met him, hehad everything together. He took care of everybody. But now its like he is cool going without. I think he has potential cuz once upon a time I could depend on him to not let me fall. Now I can't depend onhim for twenty dollars. And he feels that I expect too much or I should giving to him instead of being able to depend on him. We broke up when I was 21 and ever since then, I've been hoping that the person I met would come back so I could be with him again. But that person is like gone. And I'm like wtf. Why???? Get it together!

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on December 18, 2012 at 1:26pm

This fool here has turned it into a syndrome! Bwahahahahahaha!

mese said:

Sounds like you have a pookie and ray ray syndrome lol you'll get over it I hope lol and everybody hates to agree with tone lmaooo

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on December 18, 2012 at 2:03pm

lmao.

@mese, we don't hate to agree with him, we'll give him credit when he's earned it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

This fool here has turned it into a syndrome! Bwahahahahahaha!

mese said:

Sounds like you have a pookie and ray ray syndrome lol you'll get over it I hope lol and everybody hates to agree with tone lmaooo