How has your baller changed?

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Permalink Reply by Tee on November 11, 2009 at 9:50pm

To be honest I would personally say yes, but you never know with a person. He could've learn from this & learn people only want him for his money and not who he is. But you will never know until he makes it to that status. Just stay his friend and support him in his endeavors. Now if he disrespects you chuck the deuces

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Permalink Reply by Seductress on November 11, 2009 at 11:36pm

Idk one of my childhood friends plays ball overseas and he's still pretty down to earth. Just because a dude hooks up with groupies doesn't make him a bad guy, it doesn't even mean that he's wildin out. He's doing what any man would do who have tons of easy women throwing themselves at him. He's not married, or even attached and he's young so why not? As long as he protects himself, remembers where he came from, who he is and who was there and doesn't let it go to his head too much he's straight. Like Tee said continue to play your friend role and support him. He's not going to be settling down until he reaches his ultimate goal more than likely anyways, which will probably be some time from now.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on November 12, 2009 at 8:56am

I think it just depends on the person... how grounded they are, where did they come from, the team they have behind them... etc. One guy that I think has handled his fame well is Kobe. I am not a fan of his in any matter, but other than the Colorado thing you don't hear a lot of debauchery stories about him...
I went to FSU and at the time we were a football powerhouse... I know several guys that went to the NFL, and a few NBA'ers... some of them remained the same, others not so much... IMO, the NBA seems to corrupt they youngsters quicker and harder...
Presently, I have three family members in the NFL... One has been playing for about 5 years, 3rd year for another, and lastly one is a rookie... So far so good...

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Permalink Reply by Ph@tty on November 12, 2009 at 9:42am

That sentence "him being a man, so he partook" is a bullshit excuse for him acting so raggedy. Now, what it sounds like is he has a shaky foundation to begin with that would allow him to act so wack in the first place. If his excuse was "I'm a man" well isn't he still a man and susceptible to the same behavior? Oprah says that money and fame don't make u different person just enhances the person you are. So, it sounds like his true colors showed once he got a little shine. So, you can imagine what a bright spotlight would do. My advice would be continue to be his friend and hope for the best, but change comes hard so don't be surprised when his devious side shows back up.

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Permalink Reply by livelife25 on November 13, 2009 at 3:52pm

phatty just to clarify, that "him being a man, so he partook" came from me, not him. like i said in the posting, he's not exactly proud of his actions during that time.

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Permalink Reply by Madison on November 13, 2009 at 4:05pm

D league overseas players are the worst

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Permalink Reply by Native Queen on November 14, 2009 at 3:52pm

Well, my ex was a McDonalds All-American, his college did great during his years there and actually made it to the sweet sixteen for the first time his Senior year, but he didn't get drafted...that's about the time I met him and we clicked b/c we were/are athletes (I had played all levels of volleyball & basketball up to getting an collegiate athletic scholarship for both) and I understand the pressure and the demands of an athlete...we went through 2yrs of NBA workouts, overseas, NBA D-League, and then, at the end of the second yr, he finally made it in the NBA...but he already had 2 children with his ex from back home (she's called threatening to kill me and so on a few times when we were together...crazy)...I really feel I helped him get to where he was w/ all the support I gave him through the difficult time, but once he made it, things changed...he was beginning to fall victim to all the hype...I was losing the sweet, loving person I'd discovered everyday...everyone wanted him & his money so he suddenly thought I was in that boat, too...it was heart breaking and I did what I had to...I left him before it really tore me to shreads...i'm pretty sure he's gone back to his baby momma b/c she'll stick w/ him no matter who else he's with...but getting in the NBA does change a boy/man if he never really had the fatherly advice they so need; have good people around you; and since he was a star HS & College player he was "spoiled" and it's so easy to get back to that when you're "on top" again...BUT since we've broken up he has not been on an NBA team (about a year and a half now) and I haven't seen him on any D-League or overseas rosters yet...I do care for him and want him to be successful...BUT "appreciate what you have or you'll lose everything."

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Permalink Reply by Ph@tty on November 14, 2009 at 4:42pm

So then what were his words? Because it sounds like you summed up what he told you with all that I'm a man stuff. So why this change of heart, why all of a sudden he's ashamed for his past. Tell me this is he regretful around you and then around his boys tellin them the details of his raunchy escapades for props? Does he still do the same stuff? What I'm sayin is dude has to be a strong dude to withstand the temptations that are in the NBA.

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Permalink Reply by Madison on November 14, 2009 at 9:09pm

aww makes me think of Amare S. -I am so sad for Amare-such a gifted man ..amazing at his All-Americans ,his first years in the NBA and then his eye..I'm a HATER but Amare makes me SAD I know he has millions ...still it's not fair what happened to him!

Native Queen said:

Well, my ex was a McDonalds All-American, his college did great during his years there and actually made it to the sweet sixteen for the first time his Senior year, but he didn't get drafted...that's about the time I met him and we clicked b/c we were/are athletes (I had played all levels of volleyball & basketball up to getting an collegiate athletic scholarship for both) and I understand the pressure and the demands of an athlete...we went through 2yrs of NBA workouts, overseas, NBA D-League, and then, at the end of the second yr, he finally made it in the NBA...but he already had 2 children with his ex from back home (she's called threatening to kill me and so on a few times when we were together...crazy)...I really feel I helped him get to where he was w/ all the support I gave him through the difficult time, but once he made it, things changed...he was beginning to fall victim to all the hype...I was losing the sweet, loving person I'd discovered everyday...everyone wanted him & his money so he suddenly thought I was in that boat, too...it was heart breaking and I did what I had to...I left him before it really tore me to shreads...i'm pretty sure he's gone back to his baby momma b/c she'll stick w/ him no matter who else he's with...but getting in the NBA does change a boy/man if he never really had the fatherly advice they so need; have good people around you; and since he was a star HS & College player he was "spoiled" and it's so easy to get back to that when you're "on top" again...BUT since we've broken up he has not been on an NBA team (about a year and a half now) and I haven't seen him on any D-League or overseas rosters yet...I do care for him and want him to be successful...BUT "appreciate what you have or you'll lose everything."

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Permalink Reply by livelife25 on November 15, 2009 at 12:27am

@ phatty: he's the type that plays best when things are going not so well in his life, so he really stepped up his game on the court due to off court family stuff, which led to the career bump. he didn't come out and say specifically "oh well i was going through some life stuff," which could have affected why he acted in a way that's uncharacteristic of him, but knowing him and what he was going through at the time, i think that had at least some part in it (on top of him being a man...lol...but that's just MY opinion.)

i wouldn't say he's ashamed of what he did, and i didn't use that word, i used the word "regret." to me, shame is way stronger than regret. i can't speak about what he says when he's with the guys and i'm not there, but he's not engaging in any of the same stuff right now (to my knowledge.)

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