Hey ladies of BA,
I've been getting pretty bad advice from my friends about this, and I thought, "where is there a forum of educated and successful ladies, like myself, that can give me more than one good opinion" So here I am on BA...Here goes....
My highschool sweetheart moved away after college about nine years ago. We kept in touch a little over that time, meaning, when he came home, we'd catch up and hang out and I'd visit him about once a year when I'd visit my sister who lives near him. Lately (the last year or so) we've been communicating much more. We converse daily via email and text and we talk on the phone about three times a week, sometimes for hours. He's very attractive, very intelligent, funny and even romantic...when we get to hang out. Problem is... he's playing the "as soon as" and "maybe" game with me. And its been this way for years...At first it was "as soon as I finish law school, I'll be ready to settle down". then it was "maybe we can try to commit to a long distance thing". then, " when I start my firm" Now it's "I want to be financially successful" even though he works for a big firm owns a condo and 2 rentals and is over 30.
I am in no rush to settle down today and by no means, trying to rush him into anything, but I really care about him a lot and would like to see some kind of minor commitment to a future with me that he expressed to me, he was looking forward to. Even though I have not been alone for the past years, I must admit, I've been kind of waiting for him to decide what his future holds for me, before I settle for someone else. On top of that, I live in a place where there's not much to choose from, so there's no handsome men who have their shyt together, knocking down my door.
I am getting tired of being single and there's only so much club-hoppin' you can do when all your friends are married with kids. We're really not progressing to a relationship and I know the long distance is a big part of it. Question is should I make a huge gesture and move closer, so we can see where this will go? (I have plenty of flexiblity with my job) OR should I just move on? I'm not a young gal, and I would like to settle down in the near future. Am I wasting my time with hopes of what "might be"? I date guys to keep my options open, but none of them quite measure up to him or the chemistry we share. What should I do????