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Permalink Reply by MissBling on February 25, 2011 at 4:49pm

Let him call you... If he doesn't call in like a month, text him saying you hope all is well.

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Permalink Reply by Chyna Doll on February 25, 2011 at 4:53pm

Okay, so one more question, do guys ask for women's numbers just because they can or do they do this genuinely, this man has alot of women who like him and he said I am one of the first who challenged him and talked with him without shoving the puss in his face

Thanks for the responses though

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Permalink Reply by MissBling on February 25, 2011 at 5:59pm

both... That's exactly why you wait for him to call, this is another test to see if you are trying to get to really know him for him. Hoping all is well is a genuine concern.

Chyna Doll said:

Okay, so one more question, do guys ask for women's numbers just because they can or do they do this genuinely, this man has alot of women who like him and he said I am one of the first who challenged him and talked with him without shoving the puss in his face

Thanks for the responses though

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Permalink Reply by Chyna Doll on February 25, 2011 at 6:31pm

Yeah, the crazy thing is I didn't think he was my type and that was the attitude I gave off at first but the more we started talking I realized I was kinda feeling the cat.......so hopefully he felt it and he will call *fingers toes and eyes crossed* lol

MissBling said:

both... That's exactly why you wait for him to call, this is another test to see if you are trying to get to really know him for him. Hoping all is well is a genuine concern.

Chyna Doll said:

Okay, so one more question, do guys ask for women's numbers just because they can or do they do this genuinely, this man has alot of women who like him and he said I am one of the first who challenged him and talked with him without shoving the puss in his face

Thanks for the responses though

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Permalink Reply by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on February 25, 2011 at 10:12pm

My advice is don't call him at all. Let him call you. If he doesn't call you for whatever reason, he's just not that interested. If he's too busy with his business to place a 3 minute phone call, then you should count it a blessing that he didn't call you because we all make time for what we really want to do...there are 24 hours in a day and we are all attached to our cell phones like glue.

 

You do not have to call him to show that you're really feeling him. You giving him your contact information shows that, and if he asks you out on a date, the fact that you accept will show that as well. He's pursued his career and business interests because he felt that those were worth the effort and time and pursuit. I think you're worth it, too.

 

I'm not at all saying this is what you have to do, but this is what I'm just now learning after a decade of dating: Don't give out my number to guys who just ask for it. I'm learning to only give out my number to men who, after meeting me, say something along the lines of "It was nice talking to you, I'd like to see you again sometime" or "I'd really like to take you out to lunch/dinner". That gives them a purpose and a reason to call and follow up, and they do every single time without exception (and these have been the dudes who were actually about something). Guys who, after the initial meeting, ask for my number because I'm cool, or because they'd like to get to know me, or so we can keep in contact, or so we can maybe link up 9 times out of 10 really aint about s***, and in hindsight, I know that those guys have added me to a roster. These guys do not call. They text, and they usually don't have s*** to say, they don't invite me out on a date (this last dude invited himself to my house to watch a movie on the very first day I met him! He told me he was going to go work out and then he'd be over at about ten PM! I cussed his ass out for insulting me by thinking I was dumb and desperate enough to want a complete stranger at my damn house, watching my damn tv, breathing in my damn air, and I asked him wtf was I supposed to do--offer his ass a damn snack and beverage while he makes himself comfortable? smh), and they usually take their time contacting, and I honestly believe in my heart that most of the texts are sent in mass format, and they pick and choose from any fool that answers. I know you didn't ask for that, but I just wanted to share a lesson that I'm learning.

 

 

 

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Permalink Reply by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on February 25, 2011 at 10:16pm

Oh, and as far as the time frame, that's up to you, but I don't wait longer than a week. I'm something like a big deal, and if he didn't recognize that, after a week, I always lose interest. It's not something intentional, it's just always been that way with me. I also only give myself 7 days to mourn and cry and be pitiful over a breakup, after that, I move on mentally. Life is too short and there are so many fish in the sea.

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Permalink Reply by MissBling on February 25, 2011 at 10:42pm

This dude is used to chicks calling him. He already knows she's feeling him. She needs to know that he's feeling her.

Tone said:

Why are y'all so aginst her calling him? If she likes him why does it matter if she calls him first.
Gucci'sTattooArtist said:

My advice is don't call him at all. Let him call you. If he doesn't call you for whatever reason, he's just not that interested. If he's too busy with his business to place a 3 minute phone call, then you should count it a blessing that he didn't call you because we all make time for what we really want to do...there are 24 hours in a day and we are all attached to our cell phones like glue.

 

You do not have to call him to show that you're really feeling him. You giving him your contact information shows that, and if he asks you out on a date, the fact that you accept will show that as well. He's pursued his career and business interests because he felt that those were worth the effort and time and pursuit. I think you're worth it, too.

 

I'm not at all saying this is what you have to do, but this is what I'm just now learning after a decade of dating: Don't give out my number to guys who just ask for it. I'm learning to only give out my number to men who, after meeting me, say something along the lines of "It was nice talking to you, I'd like to see you again sometime" or "I'd really like to take you out to lunch/dinner". That gives them a purpose and a reason to call and follow up, and they do every single time without exception (and these have been the dudes who were actually about something). Guys who, after the initial meeting, ask for my number because I'm cool, or because they'd like to get to know me, or so we can keep in contact, or so we can maybe link up 9 times out of 10 really aint about s***, and in hindsight, I know that those guys have added me to a roster. These guys do not call. They text, and they usually don't have s*** to say, they don't invite me out on a date (this last dude invited himself to my house to watch a movie on the very first day I met him! He told me he was going to go work out and then he'd be over at about ten PM! I cussed his ass out for insulting me by thinking I was dumb and desperate enough to want a complete stranger at my damn house, watching my damn tv, breathing in my damn air, and I asked him wtf was I supposed to do--offer his ass a damn snack and beverage while he makes himself comfortable? smh), and they usually take their time contacting, and I honestly believe in my heart that most of the texts are sent in mass format, and they pick and choose from any fool that answers. I know you didn't ask for that, but I just wanted to share a lesson that I'm learning.

 

 

 

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Permalink Reply by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on February 25, 2011 at 10:52pm

 

because she wants to know if he likes her. By nature, men are generally aggressors. I don't really know any women that like passive men, especially when it comes to dating.

 

Also, a man will ask for and accept a woman's number just to see if he can get it. He could have a wife or a girlfriend at home, or just be single and actively dating. Getting numbers is fun, and he may never have any intention in calling when he gets the number, but if she calls him (because phone numbers are exchanged since the invention of the cell phone, no house phone ringing that your woman could pick up, phones can be put on silent, and no phone numbers on scraps of paper are found in pants pockets), he may see how far he can go in being slick juggling 2 women since she called, or if he's single, he may use her to pass the time if he's bored, or until something better comes along. I can't say this is true for all men all the time, but it's what I've observed from my past, from friends, and family members.

 

Women on the other hand usually (I can't say this is true for all women) do not give out their numbers if a) they have a man or b) they're not interested. (They'll take yours and never call if you won't get out of their face.) So when a woman gives out her phone number, it usually means that she's available for dating, and there's a possibility that she may be interested in you...so you should call.

 

Tone said:

Why are y'all so aginst her calling him? If she likes him why does it matter if she calls him first.
Gucci'sTattooArtist said:

My advice is don't call him at all. Let him call you. If he doesn't call you for whatever reason, he's just not that interested. If he's too busy with his business to place a 3 minute phone call, then you should count it a blessing that he didn't call you because we all make time for what we really want to do...there are 24 hours in a day and we are all attached to our cell phones like glue.

 

You do not have to call him to show that you're really feeling him. You giving him your contact information shows that, and if he asks you out on a date, the fact that you accept will show that as well. He's pursued his career and business interests because he felt that those were worth the effort and time and pursuit. I think you're worth it, too.

 

I'm not at all saying this is what you have to do, but this is what I'm just now learning after a decade of dating: Don't give out my number to guys who just ask for it. I'm learning to only give out my number to men who, after meeting me, say something along the lines of "It was nice talking to you, I'd like to see you again sometime" or "I'd really like to take you out to lunch/dinner". That gives them a purpose and a reason to call and follow up, and they do every single time without exception (and these have been the dudes who were actually about something). Guys who, after the initial meeting, ask for my number because I'm cool, or because they'd like to get to know me, or so we can keep in contact, or so we can maybe link up 9 times out of 10 really aint about s***, and in hindsight, I know that those guys have added me to a roster. These guys do not call. They text, and they usually don't have s*** to say, they don't invite me out on a date (this last dude invited himself to my house to watch a movie on the very first day I met him! He told me he was going to go work out and then he'd be over at about ten PM! I cussed his ass out for insulting me by thinking I was dumb and desperate enough to want a complete stranger at my damn house, watching my damn tv, breathing in my damn air, and I asked him wtf was I supposed to do--offer his ass a damn snack and beverage while he makes himself comfortable? smh), and they usually take their time contacting, and I honestly believe in my heart that most of the texts are sent in mass format, and they pick and choose from any fool that answers. I know you didn't ask for that, but I just wanted to share a lesson that I'm learning.

 

 

 

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on February 26, 2011 at 2:33am

hmmmmm, personally I dont think there is anything wrong with calling maybe once, if he doesnt pick up, says let me call u back, that type of ish, then I wouldnt call again.  I have talked to some guys that may ask a woman for her number but they're scared to call her because they dont know if its the wrong number (ego), she gave it to him just because or whatever....OTN: I use to give dudes my number I wasnt interested in, but wouldnt answer when they called or say Ill hit you back and never do, just cuz I didnt wanna say no I dont wanna give u my numer, but now I just say No thank you - or Ill take your number in case I feel like I wanna talk or whateva so there's no confusion.

 

I think the days are over where a woman has to wait for a man, if you want it go after it.  If I meet a guy Im really interested in (which is rare) and he hasnt called, I'll call him, if I get nothing outta that then oh well.  I say call him, its not showing that you're desperate, unless you call every 10 minutes.  You never know...What is there to lose?

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Permalink Reply by Chyna Doll on February 26, 2011 at 8:38am

I gatcha............I mean I think he was feeling me because our convo was like 3 or 4 hours long, and he really doesn't have the time for it, but I decided I will wait a week and if not, keep it moving, I mean I am not waiting around, but I didn't want to be unreasonable

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Permalink Reply by Chyna Doll on February 26, 2011 at 8:45am

Thanks for the advice,

 

I am not one to give out my number to any and every guy, but I guess the thing is alot of girls really like him, and the flow of the conversation was him really trying to get to know me; He has a super demanding job and for our first convo to last as long as it did was a shock for me. But I am not holding my breath waiting on him though lol
Gucci'sTattooArtist said:

My advice is don't call him at all. Let him call you. If he doesn't call you for whatever reason, he's just not that interested. If he's too busy with his business to place a 3 minute phone call, then you should count it a blessing that he didn't call you because we all make time for what we really want to do...there are 24 hours in a day and we are all attached to our cell phones like glue.

 

You do not have to call him to show that you're really feeling him. You giving him your contact information shows that, and if he asks you out on a date, the fact that you accept will show that as well. He's pursued his career and business interests because he felt that those were worth the effort and time and pursuit. I think you're worth it, too.

 

I'm not at all saying this is what you have to do, but this is what I'm just now learning after a decade of dating: Don't give out my number to guys who just ask for it. I'm learning to only give out my number to men who, after meeting me, say something along the lines of "It was nice talking to you, I'd like to see you again sometime" or "I'd really like to take you out to lunch/dinner". That gives them a purpose and a reason to call and follow up, and they do every single time without exception (and these have been the dudes who were actually about something). Guys who, after the initial meeting, ask for my number because I'm cool, or because they'd like to get to know me, or so we can keep in contact, or so we can maybe link up 9 times out of 10 really aint about s***, and in hindsight, I know that those guys have added me to a roster. These guys do not call. They text, and they usually don't have s*** to say, they don't invite me out on a date (this last dude invited himself to my house to watch a movie on the very first day I met him! He told me he was going to go work out and then he'd be over at about ten PM! I cussed his ass out for insulting me by thinking I was dumb and desperate enough to want a complete stranger at my damn house, watching my damn tv, breathing in my damn air, and I asked him wtf was I supposed to do--offer his ass a damn snack and beverage while he makes himself comfortable? smh), and they usually take their time contacting, and I honestly believe in my heart that most of the texts are sent in mass format, and they pick and choose from any fool that answers. I know you didn't ask for that, but I just wanted to share a lesson that I'm learning.

 

 

 

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