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Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on June 5, 2010 at 7:16pm

There's a blog on this here......somewhere

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Permalink Reply by Renee on June 5, 2010 at 10:43pm

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by desiree on June 6, 2010 at 3:18pm

ROFL@goldie!

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Permalink Reply by livelife25 on June 6, 2010 at 5:43pm

good point.

Renee said:

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by PrettyPretty on June 6, 2010 at 7:13pm

Yeah that is true...We just met and I have only seen him once never been intimate or anything. I don't want to seem like hey give me this that and just hint around like i'm not really interested in him. I think he might not be cute i met him in the club and it was dark and i was intoxicated cause I asked him to send me a pic and he had offered to fly me to where he was and he said you see when you get here so I declined to go plus it was short notice. But do you have to be intimate with a baller before you start hinting that you want this or that? I was thinking I should let him pick me up so he can see my house and know I am not some low budget hoe and maybe he will automatically think he has to spend to stay around.....What do you think?

Renee said:

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by Renee on June 7, 2010 at 1:09am

Girl, do not be intimate with him until you get what you want first. BA ladies coined the term "purse first, ass last." Seduce him and make him want you. Smell delicious when you see him, have amazingly soft skin, make him want to touch you and be near you but DO NOT sleep with him. In the meantime, check him to see if he's serious about flying you out by letting him know which days you're free. If he buys the ticket then he's serious, if not he's just talk and not worth your time. Once you get there and if you like what you see set your mind to "ring mode." The big picture is getting the ring, nothing else matters, decide whether or not to have sex by the ring mode vibe you get. If he seems sleazy, disrespectful, cheap, or you're just not clicking then no p****.

SN: I asked the same questions when I first joined BA and ended up with a baller. :) The ladies can be really helpful and the archives are full of useful info.

xx

PrettyPretty said:

Yeah that is true...We just met and I have only seen him once never been intimate or anything. I don't want to seem like hey give me this that and just hint around like i'm not really interested in him. I think he might not be cute i met him in the club and it was dark and i was intoxicated cause I asked him to send me a pic and he had offered to fly me to where he was and he said you see when you get here so I declined to go plus it was short notice. But do you have to be intimate with a baller before you start hinting that you want this or that? I was thinking I should let him pick me up so he can see my house and know I am not some low budget hoe and maybe he will automatically think he has to spend to stay around.....What do you think?

Renee said:

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by PrettyPretty on June 7, 2010 at 11:01am

So true....I told him I wanted something and he was like what do you need and I said we need to go on a date first and he said that wasn't a problem....Is that a good start?

Renee said:

Girl, do not be intimate with him until you get what you want first. BA ladies coined the term "purse first, ass last." Seduce him and make him want you. Smell delicious when you see him, have amazingly soft skin, make him want to touch you and be near you but DO NOT sleep with him. In the meantime, check him to see if he's serious about flying you out by letting him know which days you're free. If he buys the ticket then he's serious, if not he's just talk and not worth your time. Once you get there and if you like what you see set your mind to "ring mode." The big picture is getting the ring, nothing else matters, decide whether or not to have sex by the ring mode vibe you get. If he seems sleazy, disrespectful, cheap, or you're just not clicking then no p****.

SN: I asked the same questions when I first joined BA and ended up with a baller. :) The ladies can be really helpful and the archives are full of useful info.

xx

PrettyPretty said:

Yeah that is true...We just met and I have only seen him once never been intimate or anything. I don't want to seem like hey give me this that and just hint around like i'm not really interested in him. I think he might not be cute i met him in the club and it was dark and i was intoxicated cause I asked him to send me a pic and he had offered to fly me to where he was and he said you see when you get here so I declined to go plus it was short notice. But do you have to be intimate with a baller before you start hinting that you want this or that? I was thinking I should let him pick me up so he can see my house and know I am not some low budget hoe and maybe he will automatically think he has to spend to stay around.....What do you think?

Renee said:

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by PrettyPretty on June 7, 2010 at 11:05am

Yeah, I have been with a cheap ass before completely stingy and so irritating but he wanted me to be available on demand...I use to always go to his house never wanted him at mine I figured I could get something if he thought I didn't have much...Didn't work at all still wouldn't come up off the paper only to get me to come see him.I finally let him see my house and he was like "DAMN let me hold something"
I don't know if its a black or white thing or just plain stingy...Do you think there is a difference in dating the races when it comes to spending?

mrs. denbeigh said:

white, yes. old, not necessarily. or it can be the other way around---white, not necessarily, but old, definitely!
just got back from trip overseas, first class everything, with young white baller. was just happy to have my company, and all the attention he got from having me with him.
didnt even kiss or hold hands. oh, and stopped by cartier after i mentioned jewelry and got exactly what i wanted.
sometimes i just depends on the baller. last years' retired hall-of-famer i dealt with was kinda cheap with it.

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Permalink Reply by Renee on June 8, 2010 at 10:59am

Maybe not by race by more so by financial status and upbringing. When men are raised to be chivalrous (especially in a household with money) they tend to take care of their women and not want to see them working or struggling.

PrettyPretty said:

Yeah, I have been with a cheap ass before completely stingy and so irritating but he wanted me to be available on demand...I use to always go to his house never wanted him at mine I figured I could get something if he thought I didn't have much...Didn't work at all still wouldn't come up off the paper only to get me to come see him.I finally let him see my house and he was like "DAMN let me hold something"
I don't know if its a black or white thing or just plain stingy...Do you think there is a difference in dating the races when it comes to spending? mrs. denbeigh said:

white, yes. old, not necessarily. or it can be the other way around---white, not necessarily, but old, definitely!
just got back from trip overseas, first class everything, with young white baller. was just happy to have my company, and all the attention he got from having me with him.
didnt even kiss or hold hands. oh, and stopped by cartier after i mentioned jewelry and got exactly what i wanted. sometimes i just depends on the baller. last years' retired hall-of-famer i dealt with was kinda cheap with it.

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Permalink Reply by Renee on June 8, 2010 at 1:58pm

Yes!

PrettyPretty said:

So true....I told him I wanted something and he was like what do you need and I said we need to go on a date first and he said that wasn't a problem....Is that a good start?

Renee said:

Girl, do not be intimate with him until you get what you want first. BA ladies coined the term "purse first, ass last." Seduce him and make him want you. Smell delicious when you see him, have amazingly soft skin, make him want to touch you and be near you but DO NOT sleep with him. In the meantime, check him to see if he's serious about flying you out by letting him know which days you're free. If he buys the ticket then he's serious, if not he's just talk and not worth your time. Once you get there and if you like what you see set your mind to "ring mode." The big picture is getting the ring, nothing else matters, decide whether or not to have sex by the ring mode vibe you get. If he seems sleazy, disrespectful, cheap, or you're just not clicking then no p****.

SN: I asked the same questions when I first joined BA and ended up with a baller. :) The ladies can be really helpful and the archives are full of useful info.

xx

PrettyPretty said:

Yeah that is true...We just met and I have only seen him once never been intimate or anything. I don't want to seem like hey give me this that and just hint around like i'm not really interested in him. I think he might not be cute i met him in the club and it was dark and i was intoxicated cause I asked him to send me a pic and he had offered to fly me to where he was and he said you see when you get here so I declined to go plus it was short notice. But do you have to be intimate with a baller before you start hinting that you want this or that? I was thinking I should let him pick me up so he can see my house and know I am not some low budget hoe and maybe he will automatically think he has to spend to stay around.....What do you think?

Renee said:

Mention that you need something and any baller worth his weight should catch the hint and provide it for you. On another note, I've noticed that the ballers who want to give you everything from the second that they meet you aren't as serious about BIG ticket items as the ones who get to know you and want to have a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by WifeyType on December 29, 2010 at 9:41pm

Good info, Love it

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