Located just below the bladder behind the pelvic bone, the prostate gland has often been called the male G-spot. The prostate gland produces most of the fluid released during ejaculation and becomes hard and swollen when a man is sexually aroused. While many men may find prostate stimulation uncomfortable and strange, others claim it changes the feeling and heightens the level of orgasm.
Trim your nails and file any rough edges. The tissue inside and around the anus is extremely sensitive and can easily become torn, cause infection or pain. You may consider wearing a pair of gloves for the cleanliness and health of both you and your partner.
Turn on your partner before beginning, as sexual arousal will help him to relax and will also cause the prostate to swell, making it easier to find. Make sure he is in a comfortable position where he can relax his muscles completely, such as on his side.
Massage the anus and perineum gently, moving very slowly into penetration. Always use a lubricant to make penetration and stimulation more comfortable for your partner. A lubricant that warms with massage can be a great way to help the muscles and anus relax.
Place your forefinger into the anus slowly and gently, beginning with the pad of your finger and not the very tip. If it is difficult for your partner to relax, you may want to stimulate him orally as you begin to push gently in his anal region, helping to distract his body from the pressure.
Rest for a few moments once your finger is inside, allowing him to get used to the feeling of something inside of his anus. Once he begins to relax, use your finger to find the prostate. Located just a few inches in, it should be easy to find as it is a walnut-shaped and sized button that should be firm and swollen.
Stimulate the prostate while maintaining constant communication with your partner. Some men will prefer only pressure while their penis is also stimulated. Other will like circular motion or vibration. Once you are comfortable stimulating your partners prostate, you may consider anal toys, vibrators or other toys for sex play.