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Hello Ladies and Gents,

It has been a long time since I have posted here and I miss chatting it up with you guys dearly. Besides finishing up my second yr in college, I have fallen in love as well as very much ready to be a mommy. I met my lover earlier this year, spent a little vacation with him and lets just say I have done many things different than before. I have been dreaming of this man for about three nights all ready. He told me his missed me recently which is great, because he has never said that too me. I am ready to get married and have a baby. I have had confirmation that marriage and baby will happen soon. This man who is in the industry found me and at first was not shore but he has won me over and I am overjoyed. I have looked at engagement rings with friends and talked about weeding colors with friends.

I need you guys to give me an insight to being married in a happy healthy relationship and being a mother.

Taking all advise

Love Red.

P.S. Since returning from my vacay with him it seems that my ex's and new prospects are on my heels trying to lock me down. I keep saying no and being patient waiting on my boo, but the fools are not taking no for an answer.

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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on May 1, 2012 at 8:46pm

I think you should be more grateful for than you realize.You sound like your scared or have doubts. Just because you get married and start a family doesn't mean you'll be happy.Are you happy now?

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Permalink Reply by RedPopsicle on May 1, 2012 at 8:52pm

Can you tell me how, because I am grateful I know what it is to be with loser's over and over. I am scared because I am doing something different than what I was raised to see. I know they do not make you happy; being married and have a baby, but I am really very happy I am still in the I can't believe its me not that I don't believe it could not be me, but I am living out my dream and this is all new. That is why I am asking for advise, because my friends can not see where I am at because all of their parents are married, but my parent where not.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on May 1, 2012 at 9:47pm

1st happiness starts within... I know you are in love, but before you jump the broom & settle down, make sure you've got it all out of your system... And give yourself a minimum of a year with your husband before you get pregnant...

Siren wrote a really good blog...

http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/after-the-wedding-bells-r...

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Permalink Reply by RedPopsicle on May 1, 2012 at 9:56pm

Hey Just me found this so weird because I had just came back from my mini vacay with my boo and this was written.

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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on May 1, 2012 at 10:17pm

Well if you were happy you wouldn't give 2 s**** about what friends and family think.Now you are ignoring your own needs and feelings.You need to start loving yourself first.Well give your self at least 1 year to figure out the marriage question. Then another year for baby.I know from the past it can be very liberating to make decisions. But give yourself time.Once you make that choice, you can trust that consequences will unfold as they should. Maybe with a little change of attitude and time you will have more excitement and hope instead of fear and dread. Give yourself more credit.

RedPopsicle said:

Can you tell me how, because I am grateful I know what it is to be with loser's over and over. I am scared because I am doing something different than what I was raised to see. I know they do not make you happy; being married and have a baby, but I am really very happy I am still in the I can't believe its me not that I don't believe it could not be me, but I am living out my dream and this is all new. That is why I am asking for advise, because my friends can not see where I am at because all of their parents are married, but my parent where not.

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on May 1, 2012 at 10:40pm

Has HE said anything about getting married and having a baby? Take things slow...you say you met him a the beginning of the yr. Some relstionships can happen fast, but ummmm....YOU need to slow it down. WIll you be able to continue going to school while pregnant and after you have the baby?

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on May 1, 2012 at 10:45pm

Ok. Personally, I think you should focus on school. Finish your degree. You seem really young. Now, you said you met him earlier this year and you are in love, ready to marry this man and have his baby. Today is March 1st. So these feelings came in a period of five months at max. Not saying its not possible just saying maybe u should slow down and get your degree then think about marriage to him and a family with him after you guys get some time under your belt.

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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on May 1, 2012 at 10:47pm

What's your age?

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on May 1, 2012 at 10:48pm

Damn ms u can....girl we musta been sending brainwaves! Lol!! And l8dy-c how old are you? Just wondering? And what should she ge giving herself credit for?