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Permalink Reply by BabyBallerCheeks on July 5, 2012 at 12:33pm

There's been 16 pages of questions and very few testimonials. How many of you women ACTUALLY (no promises or online agreements; tangible assets) have received large gifts and payment arrangements from men you've met online. (Please don't reply with "We made an agreement of $2,000 a month". I am speaking to the women who have $2,000 in their hand.)

I've tried the sites. Came across a crazy White guy from NY who would not stop calling me. He was too much of a headache (wanted me to be his girlfriend, wanted to have children and wanted me to bring my dog to live with him) so I never pursued him. And, I met a single Black engineer. Didn't have as much money as I would have liked. Was willing to pay bills "here and there". Again, not worth my time.

My friend did well on these sites though. Though she hasn't gotten large sums of money out of him, she gets an outrageous amount of gifts from her sugar daddy (LV this, Burberry that, Gucci this...etc.)

Starting to wonder the success rate of these sites. I think I fair better finding my ballers/sugar daddies in real life.

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Permalink Reply by SoLuscious on July 5, 2012 at 12:38pm

Good Question, b/c ive been on SA for a few weeks now and it seems to be a dud. I also tried AM but theres a bunch of white guys on there JUST looking for affairs and the onese whose profiles mention theyre looking for a sb, thats actually a lie. when they chat with me and i say what im looking for, its like im speaking german, eventhough their profiles say (among other things) that they are looking for a sb.

 

i might fall back from the sites for a while.

BabyBallerCheeks said:

There's been 16 pages of questions and very few testimonials. How many of you women ACTUALLY (no promises or online agreements; tangible assets) have received large gifts and payment arrangements from men you've met online. (Please don't reply with "We made an agreement of $2,000 a month". I am speaking to the women who have $2,000 in their hand.)

I've tried the sites. Came across a crazy White guy from NY who would not stop calling me. He was too much of a headache (wanted me to be his girlfriend, wanted to have children and wanted me to bring my dog to live with him) so I never pursued him. And, I met a single Black engineer. Didn't have as much money as I would have liked. Was willing to pay bills "here and there". Again, not worth my time.

My friend did well on these sites though. Though she hasn't gotten large sums of money out of him, she gets an outrageous amount of gifts from her sugar daddy (LV this, Burberry that, Gucci this...etc.)

Starting to wonder the success rate of these sites. I think I fair better finding my ballers/sugar daddies in real life.

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Permalink Reply by BlkButtafly on July 5, 2012 at 1:24pm

Here has been my honest experience:

AM: I wasn't on there for a long time but it seemed like most men just wanted hookups and online buddies so I didn't stay. However, I did receive A LOT more interest on that site.

SA: I've recently created a new profile on SA but back in the day when I first joined (about 3-4 years ago) I met my first potential SD on there. He lives about 2 hours from me. I went to his city, we had dinner, talked an arrangement, and that was it. Later he came to my city, we had dinner, I got $500 (big whoop) and later on he tells me that's it not going to work out. I think he just wanted to know what it was like to f*** a black girl. But *shrug* I just so happened to need that exact amount to finish up a deposit on my old condo.

SD4M: By far, this is my favorite. I can't remember how long it took me to acquire my first REAL SD but when he came along it was totally worth it. He was local. Owns a business here and as well as in Newport Beach, CA. He wasn't an experienced SD (which I prefer) but I could tell that he had friends who were or at least had done his research. I received $500 upon meeting (it's actually customary to receive a gift on your 1st meeting). Then within a month, he was out in Cali on a business trip, so he flew me out there first class. I didn't have to pack a thing. We stayed in Santa Monica at Casa Del Mar. EVERYDAY we went shopping whether it was 3rd and Promenade or Rodeo Dr. We didn't eat at expensive restaurants but the food was great nonetheless. In total, he spent about $10k just on shopping. I later saw the receipt for the hotel and it came to about $6k (which included spa services and we were there for a week). Flew home first class as well. My monthly allowance was $2000. I didn't receive random gifts too often but there were a few gift cards.

IMHO, it takes a little time but SD4M is the best out there. I left the sugar world but I've come back and honestly most of my eggs are in SD4M's basket...for now.

BabyBallerCheeks said:

There's been 16 pages of questions and very few testimonials. How many of you women ACTUALLY (no promises or online agreements; tangible assets) have received large gifts and payment arrangements from men you've met online. (Please don't reply with "We made an agreement of $2,000 a month". I am speaking to the women who have $2,000 in their hand.)

I've tried the sites. Came across a crazy White guy from NY who would not stop calling me. He was too much of a headache (wanted me to be his girlfriend, wanted to have children and wanted me to bring my dog to live with him) so I never pursued him. And, I met a single Black engineer. Didn't have as much money as I would have liked. Was willing to pay bills "here and there". Again, not worth my time.

My friend did well on these sites though. Though she hasn't gotten large sums of money out of him, she gets an outrageous amount of gifts from her sugar daddy (LV this, Burberry that, Gucci this...etc.)

Starting to wonder the success rate of these sites. I think I fair better finding my ballers/sugar daddies in real life.

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Permalink Reply by BlkButtafly on July 5, 2012 at 1:46pm

Also, I forgot to mention that the only reason it ended is b/c he was turning into a pay-to-play guy and that's not what I wanted. We're still great friends to this day. Even after the arrangement was over, he was nice enough to give me $2500 that I needed for as part of a down payment for my current car.

I have a few potentials on SD4M right now. I'm older now too so I'm approaching the situation a little differently (especially since $2000/month would do nothing for me these days). But I know it may take some time. I'm not against ballers/SDs that I meet in real life but I'm not giving up on the sites just yet. The best thing to do IMO is have profiles up and monitor who looks at yours and what not but have other outlets. If you spend too much time on the site it's easy to get down about not grabbing anyone yet. So find other things to do and/or other sites to venture on. At least that's what helps me.

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Permalink Reply by Maria on July 5, 2012 at 1:55pm

Thanks for this! i've gotten quite a few hits on SD4M but i'm trying to weed out the real from fakes. I have a potential that I'm thinking about persuing. As far as SA it's hard! I've had 2 messages. One was completely weird the other was an asian guy..I may persue.

BlkButtafly said:

Here has been my honest experience:

AM: I wasn't on there for a long time but it seemed like most men just wanted hookups and online buddies so I didn't stay. However, I did receive A LOT more interest on that site.

SA: I've recently created a new profile on SA but back in the day when I first joined (about 3-4 years ago) I met my first potential SD on there. He lives about 2 hours from me. I went to his city, we had dinner, talked an arrangement, and that was it. Later he came to my city, we had dinner, I got $500 (big whoop) and later on he tells me that's it not going to work out. I think he just wanted to know what it was like to f*** a black girl. But *shrug* I just so happened to need that exact amount to finish up a deposit on my old condo.

SD4M: By far, this is my favorite. I can't remember how long it took me to acquire my first REAL SD but when he came along it was totally worth it. He was local. Owns a business here and as well as in Newport Beach, CA. He wasn't an experienced SD (which I prefer) but I could tell that he had friends who were or at least had done his research. I received $500 upon meeting (it's actually customary to receive a gift on your 1st meeting). Then within a month, he was out in Cali on a business trip, so he flew me out there first class. I didn't have to pack a thing. We stayed in Santa Monica at Casa Del Mar. EVERYDAY we went shopping whether it was 3rd and Promenade or Rodeo Dr. We didn't eat at expensive restaurants but the food was great nonetheless. In total, he spent about $10k just on shopping. I later saw the receipt for the hotel and it came to about $6k (which included spa services and we were there for a week). Flew home first class as well. My monthly allowance was $2000. I didn't receive random gifts too often but there were a few gift cards.

IMHO, it takes a little time but SD4M is the best out there. I left the sugar world but I've come back and honestly most of my eggs are in SD4M's basket...for now.

 

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Permalink Reply by SoLuscious on July 5, 2012 at 1:55pm

Thanks for being honest and detailed.

I think one of the problems now is that the sugar sites are so much more heavily advertised and shown in the media that i think a lot of sd's now feel like they have leverage. Due to the amount of exposure the sugar sites are now getting, there are a lot more potential sb's signing up.

BlkButtafly said:

Also, I forgot to mention that the only reason it ended is b/c he was turning into a pay-to-play guy and that's not what I wanted. We're still great friends to this day. Even after the arrangement was over, he was nice enough to give me $2500 that I needed for as part of a down payment for my current car.

I have a few potentials on SD4M right now. I'm older now too so I'm approaching the situation a little differently (especially since $2000/month would do nothing for me these days). But I know it may take some time. I'm not against ballers/SDs that I meet in real life but I'm not giving up on the sites just yet. The best thing to do IMO is have profiles up and monitor who looks at yours and what not but have other outlets. If you spend too much time on the site it's easy to get down about not grabbing anyone yet. So find other things to do and/or other sites to venture on. At least that's what helps me.

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on July 5, 2012 at 3:36pm

That is a very good point you made!

BlkButtafly said:

Also, I forgot to mention that the only reason it ended is b/c he was turning into a pay-to-play guy and that's not what I wanted. We're still great friends to this day. Even after the arrangement was over, he was nice enough to give me $2500 that I needed for as part of a down payment for my current car.

I have a few potentials on SD4M right now. I'm older now too so I'm approaching the situation a little differently (especially since $2000/month would do nothing for me these days). But I know it may take some time. I'm not against ballers/SDs that I meet in real life but I'm not giving up on the sites just yet. The best thing to do IMO is have profiles up and monitor who looks at yours and what not but have other outlets. If you spend too much time on the site it's easy to get down about not grabbing anyone yet. So find other things to do and/or other sites to venture on. At least that's what helps me.

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Permalink Reply by LaLaBella on July 5, 2012 at 4:15pm

Well here's my input...I have received expensive gifts new bmw, jewelry, money etc...but never from meeting a SD online....that's not to say I haven't met good pots online but at the time I had alot of concerns about safety etc so I never really pursued any of them beyond conversation. I think it is always best to meet a pot offline but depending on region that is not always possible. Also, the times I have received expensive gifts were with people that I had no formal arrangement with...we were actually dating and actually liked one another genuinely so I'm not even sure that would be considered a SD relationship.

The biggest benefit to meeting pots online is that you can be very direct about what you are looking for and tell pretty quickly if they are down with it. If they are not you can move on pretty quickly as well without having wasted too much time...my biggest issue remains personal safety because people can appear normal online and be thoroughly crazy. I can't put a price on my life which is why I don't go as hard as I could when it comes to the online thing. So SD4M is legitimate? I thought I read some shady reviews on here about that site or maybe I have them mixed up with another site?

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Permalink Reply by Quita on July 5, 2012 at 4:22pm

I'm still new to this, but I have collected my fair share of coins (beginners' luck, perhaps). Both of my pots have been on AM. Like someone else said, a lot of these dudes just want to have an affair, some even mess around and fall in love after the first few dates and try to "wife" you. i had to fall back because i was not looking for that, honestly. i just wanted someone with a life of their own who wanted to spoil me from a distance, not someone stuck up my ass all day.

One dude flew me out to NY (a 2 hour bus ride) first class and put me in a bomb ass hotel for ONE NIGHT just to have dinner with him. Actually he said i could stay as long as i wanted, but i wanted to keep as much money for myself, so i quickly checked out the next day lol. he let me pick whichever restaurant i wanted, too. This guys was legit, and i contemplate passing him along to someone who actually knows what their doing, cuz i was a deer caught in headlights. i just couldnt deal with him wanting to spend every second of the day with me. 

 

I feel like meeting a sb in real life would be rather...strange. It's one thing to meet a dude with a shitload of money, but how do you randomly introduce the whole "sugar" thing if he aint bout that life? how would you even know he's down? i figured meeting sb's online make more sense because yall both know (or atleast SHOULD know) what the deal is, but i guess that's not the case cuz my pots were on some other s***.

BabyBallerCheeks said:

There's been 16 pages of questions and very few testimonials. How many of you women ACTUALLY (no promises or online agreements; tangible assets) have received large gifts and payment arrangements from men you've met online. (Please don't reply with "We made an agreement of $2,000 a month". I am speaking to the women who have $2,000 in their hand.)

I've tried the sites. Came across a crazy White guy from NY who would not stop calling me. He was too much of a headache (wanted me to be his girlfriend, wanted to have children and wanted me to bring my dog to live with him) so I never pursued him. And, I met a single Black engineer. Didn't have as much money as I would have liked. Was willing to pay bills "here and there". Again, not worth my time.

My friend did well on these sites though. Though she hasn't gotten large sums of money out of him, she gets an outrageous amount of gifts from her sugar daddy (LV this, Burberry that, Gucci this...etc.)

Starting to wonder the success rate of these sites. I think I fair better finding my ballers/sugar daddies in real life.

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Permalink Reply by driabeeya on July 5, 2012 at 4:39pm

Yes, it is below a 1,000.  I thought a 1,000 for my area was a good amount.

mavsbabe41 said:

Are we talking below $1,000 per month, driabeeya?

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Permalink Reply by LaLaBella on July 5, 2012 at 4:52pm

Driabeeya....If you live like in Mississippi or someplace where the cost of living is extremely cheap and he's offering say 800 I would say keep him on but he can only see you once a month. 800 is extremely low but I don't know your situation - perhaps if you have no expenses 800 for a once a month meeting could maybe work if you limit the meeting to say 2 hours then thats a respectable $400 per hour...Anything below 800 or more than 1x a month then you should walk away..Do you have a big city somewhere close to where you live? If so, maybe escorting in that area would be a better idea for you because you can probably make more than that per night. I've never been an escort so I'm not sure but I hear the money is fantastic. Also, would you consider traveling? If so, you can target SD's in other cities and have them fly you out (first class of course) and arrange a monthly allowance that way...To be honest I have never heard of less than 1k being offered though...if you don't really need the $ I would say just walk away.

One other thing....how are you presenting yourself? Are you hot? classy? gorgeous? an anything goes type of girl? what is it about you that reels them in? When you find out what that is you need to turn it all the way up...you have to have some bait to get them interested in you or you'll continue to get these low offers.

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Permalink Reply by driabeeya on July 5, 2012 at 5:27pm

The cost of living here is inexpensive.  I live between two major cities.  I've only checked out one of those cities. I have never thought about escorting. I don't know if I could go through with that.  I could present myself better.  My pictures are just ok, but I try to keep it classy.  I do not know about sex appeal.  I have not quite found my niche yet. I'm not sure what about me turns them on yet.  Thanks for the tips. I really need them.   

Driabeeya....If you live like in Mississippi or someplace where the cost of living is extremely cheap and he's offering say 800 I would say keep him on but he can only see you once a month. 800 is extremely low but I don't know your situation - perhaps if you have no expenses 800 for a once a month meeting could maybe work if you limit the meeting to say 2 hours then thats a respectable $400 per hour...Anything below 800 or more than 1x a month then you should walk away..Do you have a big city somewhere close to where you live? If so, maybe escorting in that area would be a better idea for you because you can probably make more than that per night. I've never been an escort so I'm not sure but I hear the money is fantastic. Also, would you consider traveling? If so, you can target SD's in other cities and have them fly you out (first class of course) and arrange a monthly allowance that way...To be honest I have never heard of less than 1k being offered though...if you don't really need the $ I would say just walk away.

One other thing....how are you presenting yourself? Are you hot? classy? gorgeous? an anything goes type of girl? what is it about you that reels them in? When you find out what that is you need to turn it all the way up...you have to have some bait to get them interested in you or you'll continue to get these low offers.

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